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Archived questions from: December, 2012 (see latest in Health category)

Health: Help and advice

I'm sick of being skinny

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4347 days ago

31 December 2012 (F) - I am a girl, 14 years old. i dont get my period yet and i am very skinny. i have small boobs. i dont wear a bra and my weight is 30 kg (66 lbs). i dont eat enough, 1 time in the day. i cant eat i dont know why. please help! all my friends always t...

BF loves to cuddle and I can't sleep! Is it because I'm too warm, or because he's in my space too much?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4327 days ago

31 December 2012 (F) - Hi there... basically I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years now really very happy together got a real good honest relationship. I have an issue he is really cuddly, I on the other hand am not so much. I do enjoy a hug now and again bu...

Why am I so emotional?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4348 days ago

31 December 2012 (F) - I don't know what is going on with me recently! I keep finding i'm very emotional, i tear up over nothing or the littlest thing! I get angry at everyone so easily, it's actually becoming a problem because now i'm getting into arguments with my ...

Eight months pregnant by him and now he's broken up with me on Christmas Eve. What can I do? LDR and he's in the military. He says I've not given him enough space.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4348 days ago

30 December 2012 (F) - I met this guy almost 12 mths ago, we were in love an every was great. Now I'm currently 8 months pregnant an recently he started talking a lot less, saying he needs space and that i message him too much. Then he then dumped me on Christmas Eve an ...

My boyfriend suffers from OCD and is too set in his ways. How can I get him to change?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4349 days ago

30 December 2012 (F) - My boyfriend is too stuck in his ways.. He suffers with anxiety and ocd, its really quite bad but I knew this before I stated going out with him, I just feel its getting to much for me even though I love him. He won't get on buses to go places w...

I am having real issues with my boyfriend smoking weed and I don't know if I am overreacting or not.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4349 days ago

30 December 2012 (F) - I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2.5 years now, and in the last six months he has started smoking weed regularly. I have never liked weed for no other reason that it smells bad and is a waste of time and money in my opinion, but I have ...

Why can't my family and friends mind their own business about my dating life? How should I respond?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4348 days ago

30 December 2012 (F) - Dear Cupid, it's has been nine years since I have been in a relationship and now people who I know want me to return to the relationship scene . I feel like I am not ready yet I want to do me right now I feel if I go back to being with somebody...

Her parents are unhelpful and her bi-polar is not medicated as her parents can't afford it. I care about her deeply, but what can I do about supporting her, now that I have less time?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4349 days ago

30 December 2012 (M) - Bit of background information: I'm 18 and about to enter my second semester of college, my Girlfriend is 17 and in High School. We've been dating for over a year now. We started dating when I was a Senior in High School. We saw each other every ...

I want to date. But I'm also carer for my mother and sister. How have other carers been able to juggle studies, caring and me-time or even a relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4349 days ago

30 December 2012 (F) - I hate starting these off but basically I'm 17, I have only ever had 1 boyfriend and that's because I'm a carer for my mum and sister, my mum has COPD and my sister has cerebal palsy. Over the past few weeks I've started developing a crush on this ...

Seeking advice as considering getting an IUD. Can you explain any issues to consider? Side affects?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4349 days ago

29 December 2012 (F) - I am a 22 year old female considering getting an IUD implanted. I have had one sex partner, and we are exclusive. I am wondering, if this things are so good...why does not everyone get one? I want to get one, but I am quite tight down there...

Was I justified to walk away from a man who would not commit? I'm finding it hard to move on.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4350 days ago

29 December 2012 (F) - Hi all. Just two weeks ago I ended a relationship with a man I had deep feelings for. He was not willing to commit to me. He and I were seeing each other for a year but he broke it off and started seeing someone else. All the while, he contin...

Married in 1975 and then in 2011 he cheated. He blames me for the break-up. Could we ever get back together?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4346 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - my husband and i met when we were 16 and 17 he was my only boyfriend. We married in 1975 and been married for 37 years. In June 2011 he did something unusual that he never did before it was only a phone call to me and said he had rang the wro...

Holiday blues. Why do I feel more alone than ever, and without a partner, especially during the holiday times?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4351 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - Why is it that I feel more alone over the holidays? I have family and friends, yet I long for the warmth of a man. I feel like I will never find a man and have that marriage I so long for. I'm 43 and never married. Something BTW, I always wanted....

Have I upset this guy? Or has he just moved on in his busy life?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4351 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - Can someone please help me shed some light on why this guy is being like this... About 5 years ago this guy and i were really good mates at work. We were on the same team and used to have lunch together, go to the gym at work and we had a laugh ...

LDR: Attention seeker? Hypochondriac? Or really sick? Cheated in the past. Am I wasting my time with her?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3954 days ago

28 December 2012 (M) - I've been dating this girl for a while now. Today makes it 5 months. She's in a different country from me, so there's the first problem of distance. However, we try to overcome it. First of all, I found out she had sex with a friend of mine, ...

Is it only me who gets upset that some people cheat, and then want to keep that fact a secret from their partner?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4346 days ago

28 December 2012 (M) - Some Posters seem to be condoneing cheaters and ex promiscus people. Why do people think that its ok to lie to their husbands or wifes??? I just read where one agony aunt said "don't beat yourself up over it you just felt a connection so yo...

Has anyone else had a back brace for scoliosis? I need one but I'm worried. What is the procedure?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4349 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - hi, i need to get a back brace for my scoliosis and i've been told by many others that when they take a mould of your back to make the brace, they will ask you to take your clothes off and only stand their in only your underwear and nothing else. p...

Unfaithful in my marriage. Why did I do this? Can I keep this secret forever?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4351 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - I have been married for over 20 years and have always been faithful with the exception of one man, twice. I met him 15 years ago at the gym and I was immediately attracted to him but kept it to myself. After a while, we began to talk and before I kn...

She's gorgeous. My envy and jealousy towards her is out of control. What can I do? I'll lose her if I keep being like this.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4351 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - I need help bad! Please help! Im in love with a woman but Im jealous of her. Shes gorgeous. Shes everything I want to be and pretend to be but aint. She's smart, funny, kind, thoughtful, classy, generous, shapely, blue eyes, professionally esta...

I can't tell my family about our relationship. Is it wrong to date my cousin? Is it wrong to have sex with him??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4351 days ago

28 December 2012 (F) - I have always like him(My cousin) he like me ... He is my boyfriend too but the problem is that i cant never show it in front of My family. Me and him want to tell our family but i dont now how to tell them ?? Is it wrong to date him? And is...

I don't want him back. Yet feel like I was never important to him. What are some coping strategies I can use?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4351 days ago

27 December 2012 (F) - So im currently single going through a breakup. my ex and I have been dating for about 4 years, and we have been broken up for about two months now. At first i was really strong about the whole thing and im completly sure about my decision but...

He needs to accept that NO is an answer. Surely, if he cared, he's stop asking for anal?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4351 days ago

27 December 2012 (F) - So I've been with my partner 2 years. He wanted to try anal since we got together but until a few months ago I said no. Well a few months ago I let him try and I hated it. Add to this I was in pain for 3 days. I thought to let him try twice mo...

I am struggling to move on without closure

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4352 days ago

27 December 2012 (F) - How do you move on from a relationship without closure? I was with a wonderful man who treated me well for just over 2 years. It was long distance for the majority due to his work but we always ensured we'd see eachother twice a week. He treated me ...

I want somebody to love.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4351 days ago

27 December 2012 (?) - I feel like I will never be able to be successful with women. The only girls I have ever been good at flirting with are ones I am not actually attracted to deeply. I'm a virgin at 19 and am going through medicine. I had an ex who I was with for 2 ...

I packed my bags and left after he hid me from his mother.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4352 days ago

27 December 2012 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 2years going into our 3rd. We have been living together for 2years straight. Last year he cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend and i forgave him. Earlier this year we went for an HIV test and discovered he was HIV+...

My Bf is totally reluctant to have sex. At all. How do I approach a conversation with him about this so we can work it out?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4352 days ago

27 December 2012 (M) - So my boyfriend is not interested in sex. I know it has nothing to do with me. This is just who he is. His previous relationships have had the same problem. One relationship ended because of it. I have no interest in breaking up with him as ...

Never got over my first crush. Lots of health problems since. What can I change so future relationships are more successful?

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27 December 2012 (F) - - This post is long. i'm sorry. Lets just call me 'M' and my first love 'J' I'm quite young, 17 and i fell in love with J at first sight 5 years ago. My heart pounded, my cheeks were always flushed and i kept stammering. Naive i know, but tha...

Enough is enough! His alcoholism has resulted in him threatening me and make me feel insecure. What can I do and where can I seek help?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4352 days ago

27 December 2012 (F) - I have been married for 13 yrs, my husband had been drinking since I met him it didn't use to bother me at first. This is because he will act nice and become nicer later. But lately he had become aggressive. Everytime he drinks he will start acti...

Why am I so emotional when I have a good relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4349 days ago

26 December 2012 (F) - dear cupid. my boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. He means the world to me and I can tell that he loves me too. Obviously, if I had any problems with our relationship, I'd go to him but this is something I don't think he'll be a...

Why does he need to look at pictures of naked and semi-naked women? Is it because I've lost fullness in my breasts since breast feeding?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4325 days ago

25 December 2012 (F) - Why would my partner look at naked/ semi naked pictures of women? Porn I can understand, but I guess he's looking at the naked women cos I lost the fullness of my breasts due to breast feeding. I was never big anyway. I don't feel the need to look ...

Would he really leave his baby's mother for me? Or is he just telling me what I want to hear?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4354 days ago

25 December 2012 (F) - I have been with this guy for seven years and during the process of five years we were facing problematic issues because he was cheating. It happened that he made love with this other gal and she became pregnant, I left this guy immediat...

What can I do? I love my wife. I miss her. It's no no no too often. It hurts.There is no romance or passion in our marriage

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 4351 days ago

25 December 2012 (M) - To start with I know woman like to say stuff like "your wife just needs you to be more affectionate" on these types of forums when men say they have this problem. This isn’t one of those situations at all...let me explain. Me and my wife have been ...

Do I let him go? I am now drug free. Trying to get my baby back. But my Bf talks the talk but still does drugs.Will he ever wake up and get drug free?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4353 days ago

25 December 2012 (F) - Here's my issue .I met a man a few months ago and things were great. Shortly there after he became a drug addict, shooting drugs all the time. Selling everything. Stealing. I cared about him so much, but being a former drug addict (I quit 5 months...

Our marriage deteriorates day by day. Sex is almost non-existent. Problems beset us. What can you advise? Because we need help now.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4352 days ago

25 December 2012 (F) - I am having difficulty sleeping with my husband. We have been together for the past 6 years but our relationship seems to deteriorate by the day. In the beginning we couldn’t keep our hands off each other but these days the very thought of bein...

I'm shy, so how should I handle my crush on this seriously cute personal trainer?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4306 days ago

24 December 2012 (F) - What should I do? This is driving me crazy!? So this cute personal trainer at has been starring at me for months now! He's friendly and talks to everyone there but he doesn't speak to me. He just stares. I really like this guy and I can't see...

Thank you Dear Cupid. This is a WONDERFUL site. You showed me good directions when I was lost.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4353 days ago

24 December 2012 (F) - I just want to say thanks to all the wonderful people at dear cupid. Since from the beginning of the you have shown love and good advices. Mostly thanks to the wonderful founder of dear cupid. Its so good to know that there's someone out there who ...

Help, in a relatioship I'm insecure if it's not all about me in a relationship. Would any change to my approach help?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4354 days ago

24 December 2012 (F) - I have a problem that I don't know if anyone has ever had. When I am dating someone I can't stand anything sexual that's not to do with me. I have always moaned at anything in relationships that involved a female or picture of a female that wasn...

Ended affair last night.What can I do? Is there any point in hoping she could leave him? Or was I just played by her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

24 December 2012 (M) - I have no one else to talk to. For past year I have been in affair with coworker. Last summer we agreed that we will leave our partners and be together. I did it, she did not so I went NC for next two months. This autumn she started chasi...

I want to break up. What he is doing is very wrong. What can I do and how do I deal with his threat?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4354 days ago

23 December 2012 (F) - Modnote: One this first occasion only your text speak was tidied up. Do NOT submit in text speak again. I need your help. I have this bf who I only know him through chatting He claims that he love me so much and that he's ready to get married to m...

How can I learn to love myself?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

23 December 2012 (F) - How can I learn to love myself? I'm 24, and I have always been on the reserved, shy side... I'm don't mnd that a lot really, but sometimes I feel lonely because I find it difficult to connect with people. I'm mostly OK with my personality and ...

After my verbal outburst? Am I reading too much into things? Am I just hearing what I want to hear?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4345 days ago

23 December 2012 (M) - Really need help here Dear Cupid! When I was in my early 20's I met a girl. We got together. Got a place together. All the usual relationship stuff. Anyway, she had several affairs. I'd always take her back. And she'd do the same again. Two...

What could I have done better? How to proceed from now on? advice please?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

23 December 2012 (F) - I need some advice ok. I've been married for four years and we fought off and on and we have 3 children together. Four months ago my husband said he was going for a walk but never came back. Three days later I found out he left me for another wome...

No strings attached, how to stop being so casual?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

23 December 2012 (F) - Have you ever seen the movie 'no strings attached?' Well, Natalie Portmans character is me! I'm afraid of commitment and 26 years old. I am pressured by my wonderful, caring but extremely traditional south Asian parents to get married. This makes me ...

I screwed up with the girl I really like!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4354 days ago

22 December 2012 (M) - Ok, so there is this girl that goes to my school that I really like, and I think she likes me back for a while too. But recently, I asked her to smoke weed with me and she agreed( it was her first time), and now it seems like she hates me, she has ...

My depression is getting in the way of my life!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4357 days ago

22 December 2012 (M) - hey , im 19 still a virgin and have allways been very shy and not very confident, couple years ago got a new outgoing job and my confidence is looooads better, family have commented on it and so have my work mates, how ive 'come out of my shell' n ...

Mom can stop being critical of me. How do I handle this. Her comments are Very unkind.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

22 December 2012 (F) - My Mother is a total control freak and I can't get her to stop nagging me. I am 21 years old and have been on my on for just over two years but school and finances have left me in a position where I have to move back in with my parents. I pay the...

How can I help? What can my Girl friend do about her obsessed ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4357 days ago

22 December 2012 (F) - My girlfriends has an obsessed man who just refuses to leave her alone he keeps texting her and she can't change because her number is on her C.Vs that she has given in Her mother has passed away recently and today is her burial,I could not attend...

In the last year my fiance's desire has gone down, and where once he lasted an hour, now it is five minutes.Any suggestions to improve things?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4357 days ago

22 December 2012 (F) - i have been with my fiancce for a large part of my teen years. We are engaged now. When we started having sex he used to last about an hour or longer in bed. but lately this year our sex life has gone down hill for me. he doesnt do foreplay an...

Have I missed out? Is it normal to be 16 to still be a virgin in 2012? And not be interested in illicit drugs? Aand to not have dated yet?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4356 days ago

21 December 2012 (M) - Hello everyone. I am a 16 year old guy and im in 6th form and i live in the UK. Ok so i am here because i always see people on here who are around 13 - 17 talking about sex and relationships and even at school or in the outside world and i have ...

Long term family friend has confessed, when drunk, that he's depressed. But so far he's not getting treatment. What is the right thing for me to do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4348 days ago

21 December 2012 (M) - Let me just give you some background. My friend and I have known each other since birth. Our parents and families are friends. We grew up together and went to the same school and are in a big friendship group together. He is well liked and respec...