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writes:Ok, so there is this girl that goes to my school that I really like, and I think she likes me back for a while too. But recently, I asked her to smoke weed with me and she agreed( it was her first time), and now it seems like she hates me, she has been ignoring my messages and text and it seems like she is really pissed off at me, she deleted our pictures and on her facebook she post "I have lost all respect for you" What do I do now? I really like this girl and I want to fix things. I tried apologizing through text but she wouldn't respond :/ P.S We are on break and I won't see her for the next 2 weeks :'( Help?
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reader, rcn  +, writes (25 December 2012):
 I would just see what happens. You should not bring someone who does not smoke to smoke. See, if she regrets trying it, guess who asked her to? You then become part of what she regrets. "If I hadn't met him, If I hadn't liked him, I would not have made this mistake." She says she's lost respect for you, so what I would do is focus on how you can earn her respect. You need to get her to see you as a person again, and not as the one who got her to smoke weed. It's not going to be easy, but if she's worth it to you, the outcome will be as well.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (23 December 2012):
 Apparently you screwed up by asking her to smoke weed, which is illegal in Canada. She was curious but soon find out it was a mistake. She doesn't hate you. She hated the fact that she gave in to peer pressure and wasn't able to say no. Maybe she talked to other people about it and got warned. She doesn't want to be associated with you anymore. If you told her you are going to quit she can't trust that. She doesn't like the fact that she liked who you were before knowing you do drugs. After she invested feelings into this she was disappointed that this can't go on because you two have different morals. I never do drugs. I don't hate weed users. Unless I got involved seriously with someone and he never told me about it and was doing it behind my back.
I know of people who do drugs together as a bonding experience. They don't think of it as a big deal. Maybe they both grew up with all others who do the same thing. You can't just assume that every girl would be fine with trying it. Maybe if you knew the girl well enough you could try bring in the subject just to see what she thinks about drugs. Since this is a public forum and weed is illegal I would just try to discourage drug using even in small quantity.
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