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writes:Dear Cupid, it's has been nine years since I have been in a relationship and now people who I know want me to return to the relationship scene .I feel like I am not ready yet I want to do me right now I feel if I go back to being with somebody it will take me away from my peaceful zone.I won't say all men but a few guys who I allowed in my life circle really hurt me but I was too strong to allow them to keep me down and I made a promise to myself that I would never let another hurt me again.True I have my guard up I just don't feel like being in love and turn right around and get hurt again my life has been hell.But I am a true survivor from drinking,drugs,and abuse.This is why I say no to a new relationship.Will I ever love again? How will I know this love is right for me?And what measures can to take to soften my heart a little .How can I get my family and friends off my back about being in love again? Reply to this Question
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (31 December 2012):
Its so painful being hurt again and again but Time is a great healer. Each of us take a different amount of time and we must deal with it in our own way and our own Time. People have your best interest at heart and know that you have a lot to offer and wish you the best. So be gentle but firm and just say to people in my own time .YES YOU WILL LOVE AGAIN WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT FOR YOU. and you meet that special one. Best Wishes Nora B.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (30 December 2012):
 Hi
I think the more we are hurt and the longer we stay single,the harder it is to let somebody in. We build a comfort zone to protect us.
It IS your business but the people who care about you just want to see you happy,they aren't doing it out of malice.
They clearly think you have alot to offer a man and they know you best don't they?
Perhaps you should put the ball in their court, tell them if they can find you a great man you would date again.
Take small steps, be OPEN to meeting somebody,get to know men as friends so you can see who is worth your time and not a disaster area.
Start looking at the men who you think have good qualities,who have made you laugh too and treat you with respect.You might get a surprise when you look at the ones you already know from a dating angle.
Good luck and happy hunting.
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