A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:hey , im 19 still a virgin and have allways been very shy and not very confident, couple years ago got a new outgoing job and my confidence is looooads better, family have commented on it and so have my work mates, how ive 'come out of my shell' n stuff like that, ive had depression and been to a social worker before to help, but it never did help. ive tried going round town clubbing on about 4 occasions, to help with my anxiety but, it isnt realy my type of night out, even if i was the most confident person in england i would still not like clubbing. personally i prefer smoking a joint at my mates, im by no meens a druggy, we all have responsible jobs, all play our football on a sunday, its just our meens of winding down for the weekend every friday night with about 10 of the lads, just chilling out listening to music, it helps with me been down n deppressed aswell it take the edge of all my worrying (even if it is for a couple of hours being stoned)that is my background so you can get a rough idea of what im like, so bare all that in mind when you read on, anyway on to my problem, about 4 months ago added a lass on facebook, got talking met up a few times, and i propper propper fell for her, we both told each other how much we liked each other, we were unofficaly together, but one day texting i was realy depressed and wasent been my usual flirty happy self with her, and she said why am i in a mood is it somthing she has done (i was a little jelous she had posted pics of her on facebook with other lads from a party) but i didnt tell her that, any way eventualy after some heart to hearts she said she doesnt think it will work out between us and we should call it day, i did my best to change her mind but she was adamant it was over, and i cannot get over her!! im allways checking facebook seing what shes up to resisting the urge to message her seing how she is but its so hard, i feel so alone not texting her every minuite every day , i feel so bad... but i know ive got to move on so ive been speaking to some other lass on facebook whent and met up with her, feeling better cos ive got some lass to work on, only for me to check facebook and shes in a relationship, fuck sake. HOW do i move on??!?! nothing ever seems to work out with girls (thers been more lasses ive been in 'situations' with) i want to be with some one , i feel a bit left out, i feel soooooo confident now, tho, like i cant stay away from a mirror, girls are allways telling me how hot i am, i allways get eyed up by girls (i know from experience from eying lasses up myself ;) )obviously i cant rely on facebook to pick girls up, but i dont go clubbing.... what do i do?? i just cannot get over her, and my life is turning into a boring routine!what can i do? i still get realy anxious in certain situations, and get very depressed very easily i fucking hate it, it feels like im not living my life to my full potential, like girls allways say im hot n that, it feels like i should be out every day chatting up as much girls as possible, like i should be living my life likes its geordie shore (if ur british ull understand that bit) but i allways still think of this girl she doesnt understand how much i like her, n i just get depressed thinking ther is nothing i can do and im alone
View related questions:
clubbing, confidence, depressed, facebook, flirt, move on, shy, still a virgin, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, janniepeg  +, writes (23 December 2012):
 You had been relying too much on a woman to escape from your feelings of loneliness. Women can sense high maintenance from you and want to run from that burden. You can be with the most attentive woman and that emptiness will not go away. Sooner or later you will feel that she does not text you enough, she is not sensitive enough to your feelings, or you don't feel enough warmth in the relationship. I hope this depression is just a phase, and not a chronic problem. You are not alone in this. People can get depressed when they figure that all attempts of happiness is futile and we only have ourselves to count on. It is a huge shock to our system when we grow up feeling we have to depend on others for happiness and now we often make decisions alone. The sooner you accept the fact that we are born alone, we die alone, the sooner you can cope with the reality of life. When you can look outside from your shell, nothing is really wrong with you. You have a good job. You are single and free.
|
