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writes:Bit of background information:I'm 18 and about to enter my second semester of college, my Girlfriend is 17 and in High School. We've been dating for over a year now.We started dating when I was a Senior in High School. We saw each other every day at school and such and we got along well so everything was going great. Then, after I graduated, I starting taking summer college courses at the college I'm going to. And of course once that happened we had lots less time together as I had to focus on my classes.And while I didn't know this until a while after we started dating, my Girlfriend has depression, anxiety disorder, and bipolar disorder. I've been able to help her through it fairly well, but it's resulted in her becomming dependent on me to help her when she's having trouble. And while it wasn't a big deal when we saw each other all the time when I was in high school, now that I'm in college and don't have as much time it's putting more and more of a strain on things.During the Fall is when I really started to notice how dependent she had become on me, as it was getting to the point where I didn't feel like she could function without me be being there to help. If I wasn't able to talk to her on FaceBook or not able to do something with her because I had other things I needed to get done, usually either some drama would happen or she'd have a panic attack or etc. To the point where either she had fits, started crying, or as she did once walked all the way to my house in the snow to see me without telling her parents (That one went over well...).While I never really realized it until now, she's started to drive all her friends away for various reasons and doesn't feel like she can go to them for help anymore, and her parents don't help the situation at all (Her Mom acts fairly immature, I assume has similar disorders to what my girlfriend has though I couldn't say for sure, and her Dad has been abusive at times as well as fights with her Mom on a regular basis and doesn't want to help her). So I'm basically all she has at this point, and I'm not really able to help as much as she needs because I have college I have to focus on. (And I should note -- Her family doesn't currently have the money to pay for the medicine her doctors recommended as well as she hates the idea of being dependent on medicine)When it comes down to it, while I hate to admit it I can't see myself living with her or this working out down the road with this continuing, and every time I attempt to talk about it with her it just results in her blaming herself for everything and getting very depressed, to the point where I'm afriad she's going to get suicidal (Which she has in the past).Point being: I care about her deeply, but at the same time I just can't see us working out anymore at this point and it's causing me tons of added stress on top of what I have from school and from trying to keep her sane. And I can't talk to her about it without it ending badly and not getting anywhere. But at the same time, I have a hard time wanting to end it because I'm honestly just scared of what might happen to her if I end it.Anybody have suggestions of how to handle this or been in a similar situation?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 December 2012):
 You cannot help this girl. She needs medical attention and medication to help her bipolarity.
Like the above poster posted, I'm sure there is a clinic she can be directed to for assistance and her parents to be able to afford the medication.
Also she has to want to help herself. You being her crutch isn't helping. I suggest you break up with her and urge her to get help. She is NOT your responsibility.
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reader, banditsmom1124 +, writes (30 December 2012):
 http://www.mdjunction.com/forums/bipolar-type-ii-discussions/general-support/111857-free-meds-for-low-income
i found this link after doing a search...also she should talk to school counselors for help.
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