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Archived questions from: September, 2014 (see latest in Family category)

Family: Help and advice

What am I doing wrong in our relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3700 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. We used to have a lot of fun together , hanging with friends, drinking, going out etc... I got pregnant right away. After being together for 4 months I got pregnant with our son. The whole ...

I'm concerned about my new boyfriend going traveling with his sister!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - I've been dating this lovely man for two months now and we're both very keen on each other and make time to see one another at least twice a week. He's 39 and I'm 36 and he's been single for two years. He's very close with his sister who is si...

I want my stepdad to walk me down the aisle!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - Dear aunts and uncles I am getting married next year and I should be getting excited but instead I'm feeling anxious about it all, the bottom line is who should walk me down the aisle My folks split when I was 2 my father was violent to my...

Not interested in being his easy option. But do you think he'll think I led him on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3704 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid My brother in law recently tried match making me with a single friend of his! This guy started messaging me and things began to flow. He started off pleasant enough but the messages soon started to turn very flirtatious! He kn...

Is he stringing me along? Or is his mother encouraging him to make contact?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3705 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - Two years ago, my first bf and I were in contact and somewhat talking in good terms as friends. I attended his brother's funeral to show my respect to his family and himself since we were in a relationship together for close to 5 years and I have ...

Is my husband of 20 years getting ready to have another affair?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 3699 days ago

30 September 2014 (F) - my husband has contacted an old flame on facebook said he has been very happy with me, but after 20 years things are not what they used to be. He told this person he has been searching for her for 20 years and has never been so happy to see anyo...

Clean now and sober for 23 months. How can I show these people that I've changed?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

29 September 2014 (M) - When I was in my early 20's I began a bad habit that got me hooked on drugs (pills) and alcohol. I was able to hide it from almost everyone I knew. I met an amazing girl “T”, who had no idea what she was getting into and I thought I could ju...

Could the abuse I suffered as a child explain my same-sex attraction?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3704 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - I'm 24 years old. As a child and teen, I experienced sexual abuse growing up in Saudi Arabia. My mother is full Saudi and my father is an American military man. I was born in the U.S. and am an american citizen, but moved to Saudi when I was one and ...

Is there any other way to handle the situation considering how strict my parents are?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3705 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Hello :) This guy really likes me and he even said "I love you" to me and I'm actually really into this guy. We started off really good friends and we found that we have a lot in common. We actually tried dating and it lasted for 7 months but a...

3 wishes: want him to treat me better, be more passionate, and erase his tattoo. Too much to ask for??

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3702 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He's wonderful man. We are both 25 and he's going to proposed me and give me that hint ( asking me about the engage ring that I like and accidentally told me that he's going to marry me next year). ...

I'm just having a really hard time dealing with my uncle's death and the guilt is pretty overwhelming at the moment

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3705 days ago

29 September 2014 (F) - Hey everyone, this isn't a relationship question but I've been using this site for over a year now and love the advice and help people give on here and thought you guys could give me some for my current situation. Unfortunately my uncle passed ...

My traditional father doesn't think I should date

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3706 days ago

28 September 2014 (F) - Hello :) I'm 15 turning 16 in 4 months time. I am currently having an intimate thing going on with this guy.. And we were actually boyfriend and girlfriend but then we decided to go back to being "friends" but nothing's change except the status. ...

I'm off to a good start in life but my mother will never value me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3707 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - Hi everyone, I came on here because I just wanted some advice. I am 22 years old, I also have an older sister who is 24 years old. Growing up I always knew my mum loved her more than me, growing up my mum use to pick on me, she use to poke fun at ...

I'm in love with my cousin and want to get rid of these feelings

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3705 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid, i think i maybe be in love or infatuated with my cousin. Him and i met at a funeral a couple of months ago, the attraction from my side was instant, we didn't know we were related.We exchanged numbers and have been in constant contact ...

Recently saw my Mum, when she was younger, in a commercial film, where she was topless. It has grossed me out. How do I get over this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3707 days ago

27 September 2014 (M) - I'm grossed out after knowing my Mum did a cameo topless scene in a film? Recently, I saw my Mum topless in an old movie. It was a cameo appearance but it shocked the hell out of me and disgusted me. I don't know how to deal to with it. ...

Old flame returns! What to say or do? He wants to be friends but he doesn't want his wife to get hurt??

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

27 September 2014 (F) - I was contacted by my first love on facebook. He said he was happily married on facebook as am I; Our relationship was 33 years ago. We dated as teens and were in love till he went away to school he said we should date others and didn't want t...

I lied with a fake ID and fake photo. Now he knows the truth he's blocked me. What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3705 days ago

26 September 2014 (F) - I love a guy bt I sent him fake photos and used to speak to him using a fake id. we are in a long distance relationshp for 6 months. He is the son of my friend and her neighbour.. He knows my sister because my sister lives same place as my friend...

He's moving to another country. How do I handle losing the love of my life?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3708 days ago

26 September 2014 (F) - So this is a really heartbreaking time for me. My OH and I have been together for almost 3 years. It was an epic love affair like in the movies, we really "get" one another and we have been through hell and back many times but we survived it all.We ...

How to I talk to my parents and explain that their comments are hurtful?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3708 days ago

26 September 2014 (F) - Hi everybody. My issue I'm having is with my elderly parents. They are amazing people, I would say the kindest people I've ever met. They would give you every last penny they had if they thought it would make you happy. They are fantastic parent...

Why was my sister friend so rude to me and why are women so mean to each other?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3707 days ago

26 September 2014 (F) - A few months ago my younger sister ( who lives in another state) got married, smallish amount of people around 60, at the end of the night there were buses that took us from the venue to the car park in the town where we all had parked car...

My bf's dad doesn't treat his son right and I don't know how to handle their conflicts

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3709 days ago

26 September 2014 (F) - I have a problem with my bf's dad. I've been with my bf for about 3 yrs now and I've always heard him bash on his dad. It took me at least a yr to understand their relationship because my bf was too embarrassed to share it with me. Anyways, my bf's ...

My husband supports his grown children more than us!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3708 days ago

25 September 2014 (F) - I have married to this man for 22 years and we have no children together but he seems to support them first rather then our home and things get put back. Am I wrong for being mad about this.plus his grown daughter has a job and a child of her own ...

I enjoy my life but want to feel important to someone else

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3713 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - I'm confused about why I want things/ people in my life... I have a group of friends who are quite loud and chatty and funny. I'm fairly quiet. If I speak up in the group - nobody hears me, and nobody ever responds to me. When we use Whatsapp to ...

My boyfriend calls MY parents "mum" and "dad"!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3713 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - Hi all need some aadvice. my bf calls my parents mum and dad and says inlaws... he doesn't have and parents as both died when he was young. In past relationships they have only ever called them my there first names and I find this hard he calls th...

My Gf has refused to see me for 7 months and despite the fact she is pregnant. What can I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3713 days ago

21 September 2014 (M) - Hi! I haven't seen my girlfriend in over 7 months.. she has autism, bipolar and also cancer so she is pretty sick at most of the times, we also have a baby on the way and I love her but I don't know what to do as I'm always worried about he...

Am a making a bad choice in marrying this man? We do fight constantly. He can be controlling.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

21 September 2014 (F) - My fiancé and I have been fighting constantly about everything but our last fight earlier today made me question if I'm making the right choice to marry him. I guess I'm looking for an outsiders view as to weather or not I should continue to purs...

My fears about love are keeping me from fully enjoying my relationship!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3700 days ago

20 September 2014 (F) - A while back, I started talking to a guy on a dating site who was a 95% match with me. (I'm 18, he's 21) We realized that we have a HUGE amount of common interests, and really hit it off. We went on dates together and talked for many hours and found ...

I love him and we've been together 5 years. But how can I convince him to erase his recent tattoo?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3713 days ago

20 September 2014 (F) - l been with my boyfriend for 5 years and our relationship was great. We are the same age. He loves me so much and serious about our relationship. He would do anything to make me happy. But now he has changed. Its because of me too. Its my fault. I...

I'm over my ex, but I feel emotional about his new baby with another woman

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3714 days ago

19 September 2014 (F) - Hi I will try to condense a long complex story .I split with my sons dad three and a half years ago .it was a painful and messy split .we had a very intense 5 years together where we were either deeply in love of fighting. We were over the moon when ...

I love him but not his tattoo! How can I convince him to erase it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3708 days ago

19 September 2014 (F) - l been with my boyfriend for 5 years and our relationship was great. We are both 25. He loves me so much and serious about our relationship. He would do anything to make me happy. But now he has changed. Its because of me too. Its my fault. I've ...

She has caused trouble for us and my friend and I cannot stand her. How can we drop her from our lives?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3711 days ago

18 September 2014 (F) - My friends and I have this issue that we really can't talk to an adult in our lives about without getting into trouble and we don't know how to solve the problem either. There's this girl who hangs around us who we really just don't like and w...

Did I really love him? We are now divorcing. Why don't I feel worse? I'm not crying over this breakup.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3716 days ago

18 September 2014 (F) - 6 months ago I thought I married my best friend and love of my life. We were together for 3 years, lived together for the last 2. It was practically love at first sight! We waited to have sex for the first time. Even our first kiss took time, li...

Why would an apparently happily married person claim that they are in a "complicated" relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3717 days ago

16 September 2014 (F) - When somebody puts on facebook that they are in a complicated relationship, but they still live together, go to family gatherings together. What does it really mean? Obviously they are still going out as couple but is it that they are having p...

Why are they rubbing their relationship in my face?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3716 days ago

16 September 2014 (F) - I have been divorced for 3 yrs. I didn't have a great marriage as my ex husband had an affair with his older child's mother. I took him back knowing what was going on and stayed in that crap for 8 yrs. One day I filed for divorced and never ...

Yet another Christmas all alone. What do I do?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3718 days ago

15 September 2014 (F) - It looks like I am spending Christmas on my own this year as I am single, childless still since my divorce - so its just me and my dog! In the past I had Christmas's ruined by my ex husband and his family so now I am divorced I don't have that drama ...

What do you uncles and aunts mean when you say "children come first" if a childless person is dating or married to another person who has a child or children?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3719 days ago

14 September 2014 (F) - Hi. I'd like to know, what do the aunts and uncles and others mean when they say: "children come first" if a childless person is dating or married to another personwho has a child or children? Does that mean the person with children does not have ...

Does he want to be in our child's life or not? His new Gf says he saves pictures of his son that I post on FB

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3718 days ago

14 September 2014 (F) - I was with someone for only a month before I found out I was pregnant. At first he wanted nothing to do with me or my child, but two months into my pregnancy he decided he wanted to be there, however, this soon changed a month later when he left ...

Can my mom and her new husband really change my name? I don't want them to!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3720 days ago

14 September 2014 (M) - My dad die when i was ten, and for 2 years it was just me and mum. I still miss my dad. Mum made a new friend Dave, he is okay actually and i get along great with him. After a while we all started holidaying together and then Dave moved in with us. ...

What should I do about this tension between mom and I?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3721 days ago

13 September 2014 (F) - I've lived at home my entire life and recently graduated. Now that I'm working, I pay for my own things and rent to my parents for my room. However my parents kindly gave me a "discount" and so I don't pay for utilities. My sister in univer...

Can I claim Housing Benefit in my situation and move out? Are there any free helplines I can call or people I can speak to about my situation at home?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3721 days ago

13 September 2014 (F) - I'm 21, and my family has been abusive towards me ever since I've grown up. My dad used to be physically abusive (though my mum divorced him when I was at uni, and doesn't see him any more), and my mum and elder siblings have always been extremely ...

I need suggestions for convincing my purely orthodox Indian family!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3721 days ago

13 September 2014 (F) - im in relationship from past 3 and a half years..... and we want to get married.... my parents are not at all getting convinced for this... im facing lot of problems in convincing them bec my mom cries and my dad scolds me as its a question of pr...

All advice welcome: crazy in laws

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3721 days ago

13 September 2014 (F) - Ok here goes! Please any answers would be grateful to you for advice! So , shortened down I met my partner and few months later we were madly in love and I was pregnant. I hardly knew his family but spent some time with them. They never made an ...

I do not like my fiance's disrespect towards my personal space or the way he lets his niece invade it!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3723 days ago

11 September 2014 (F) - i have been really upset with my fiancé since two weekends ago, i am really particular about my personal space and he knows that, as a young child i had to share a room with my brothers while living in an extended family household, my parents built ...

Why is my cousin being so mean to me? Is he getting back at me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3723 days ago

11 September 2014 (F) - Hi. I'm almost 15, a girl and a virgin. I never had a bf, only friends. The reason I never had a bf is that my parents didn't allow it because I was too young. Now a few months ago I've met this guy who's a friend of my cousin that lives near me and ...

My step-son confessed to something I haven't encountered before

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3723 days ago

10 September 2014 (F) - So my step son is 11 going on 12. I have known him since he was 5 years old. He told me the other night that he couldn't sleep cause he did something and it was on his mind. He didn't want to tell me but I got it out of him. He told me it was ...

His step-dad has banned all sleepovers!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3723 days ago

9 September 2014 (F) - So both me and my partner (let's call him Alex) are 23 and we've been together since we were 19. I live in shared housing at Uni but Alex is studying from home. After the first few months of getting together we were allowed to stay at each other's ...

My girlfriend's mum smokes cannabis and drinks daily and her family life is affecting our relationship.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3725 days ago

9 September 2014 (M) - Dear reader, I have been with my girlfriend for nearly two years. She is 19, I am 22 and I am finding it hard to cope with her family. When I met her my gf did not want me to visit her house or family. This was due to her mum smoking cannabis ...

How can I convince my parents that he and I are just friends and I should be allowed to go to Hawaii with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3725 days ago

9 September 2014 (F) - This friend invited me to go to Hawaii with him over the summer. I think it will be great, but my parents have always had a sneaking suspicion that we're more than just friends. We're definitely not, but they're very conservative and even the fact ...

I'm pregnant and alone, an Army wife stressed by my mother-in-law's comments on Facebook!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3725 days ago

9 September 2014 (F) - I dated my husband for 6 years and we just got married before he joined the Army. I'm 35 weeks so far and it's been very stressful and a lonely experience for me, I'm living alone in our old apartment and his parents are not far from me. The only ...

How close is too close for cousins relationships with each other

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3725 days ago

8 September 2014 (F) - My brother is over a decade older than me and married with no children. Because of the economy my brother had to take a job in another state and he flies back home during the month. His first job was by our youngest female cousin who has always b...