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female
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anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid, i think i maybe be in love or infatuated with my cousin. Him and i met at a funeral a couple of months ago, the attraction from my side was instant, we didn't know we were related.We exchanged numbers and have been in constant contact ever since.We talk everyday, from morning to sunset and sometimes until the early hours of the morning. We talk about everything, we both are comfortable and honest with each other.I have never had a cousin that i could open up to the way in which i open up to him. We flirt like crazy with each other its almost as though we forget that we are related but sometimes when our conversation get too heated we remind each other that we are. Recently he told me that he was attracted to me since the day we met and wishes that we werent related sometimes, he told me that if we werent related that he would have made a move on me that very same day coz the attraction was far beyond, until a cousin of ours told him that we are related. Truthfully i feel the same. He is the first person i think of when i wake up in the mornings and he is the last person i think of when i go to bed at night. He occupies most of my thoughts, i just smile when i think of him, dream of him and i doing unspeakable things to each other. He makes me happy.Our conversations light up my day lol i even lyk how he gets jealous of my guy friends sometimes, telling me he doesnt want me hanging around guys. He even gets jealous when i ask him to greet his friends for me when they are chilling. We have never met up since we met but he says he wants to move to my city next year January so im helping him look for a place to stay. please help me and not judge me... I don't wanna feel this way anymore...i cant feel this way for him anymore coz its not right. The attraction grows everyday and i like it i wont lie but this situation is driving me insane. Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2014): Is he your first cousin, or a second or third degree cousin?
If he's a 2nd or 3rd cousin, then all is well. I know many people married to not so distant cousins. While 1st cousins is not the end of the world, I would advise against it if you ever marry because the genes are so close and your off spring are more predisposed to malformations/defects. I know several couples married to a 1st cousin but their kids don't seem that with it, and one of them had a child with a malformation. That being said, the choice is ultimately yours as you can't help who you love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2014): You gotta take control of your brain and train your mind. Find his faults and repeat them to yourself often. Imagine him doing terrible things. Etc.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (27 September 2014):
 I don't think you have to worry about offspring having birth defects at the cousin level but check to be certain then do whatever feels natural.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (27 September 2014):
 Cousin marriage is legal in New Zealand, so as far as the law is concerned you aren't doing anything wrong. Is it your families' reaction that you're concerned about?
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reader, moon river  +, writes (27 September 2014):
 You just need to cut contact and both cool off. Agree not to talk for a couple of months. It's either that or the look on your parents face when they find out your banging your cousin
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