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writes:Ok here goes! Please any answers would be grateful to you for advice! So , shortened down I met my partner and few months later we were madly in love and I was pregnant. I hardly knew his family but spent some time with them. They never made an effort to come to my house and see me tho when I was preg was always me going to them. And when my baby was born it was constant asking when we were going down to see them I had a traumatic birth and could hardly walk it took me longer to recover from my ceaserian birth and they just couldn't understAnd this instead they turned on my family who we were living with at the time saying my parents see the baby all the time and they don't. And things have stemmed from this jealousy that now when I go to work my mum looks after my d I just didn't feel ready to leave my daughter with them as I feel like I hardly no them and they have never made any effort with me. The asked one night to have my d overnight and I refused and they started calling me alsorts like fat b**** and that they were going to fone social services and get my d taken off me to which I laughed and told them to bring it on my daughter is my world and that's what they would have saw had they came! After this I just feel numb as to what to do I hate them for the way they treat me. His sister and brother aren't quite the full shilling and keep asking to 'get' my daughter and I tell them no there maturity for their age is very questionable and unstable And I get a lot of crap from them all because they want my girl why should they get what they want after the way they treat me? Also my partners father financially abused him at a young age and we are in debt for another 2yrs until it's paid off. Me and my partner Arw getting mArried soon and it's common knowledge parents want to chip in for their kids but not them so he asked them to pay our cars £500 and he gets told we are sponging off people when my dad said he was paying our wedding I don't think it's sponging it's what dad's want to do just like if my child gets married we will do all we can to help his gran has also took there side over the arguing which if it was my grandparents they would tell me to keep them out of it and they weren't getting involved. It's horrible as when she was I'll with cAncer my partner is the one who fixed her boiler took her shopping and helped her and this how he is repaid Please help what should I do? My friends are telling me there not normal and I should just give up with them and not have any contact
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2014): Yep, they're all one can short of a six pack. For your own sanity you're better off without them. Your partner would be too, I am guessing his father either stole money that was his or similar? What father does that? What family wouldn't come to visit their son and the mother of his child, especially if the birth was tricky. You can easily cut them out but for him it sip be harder, but he deserves better than their crap.
Maybe he has an aunt or uncle who are sane? He doesn't have to cut off everyone but it seems there are quite a few who are just plain ignorant. Good luck, concentrate on each other and the family you are creating x
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (13 September 2014):
 You can't do anything about stupid people except stay away from them as much as posible. You can't fix stupid!
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