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Archived questions from: October, 2014 (see latest in Breaking up category)

Breaking up: Help and advice

How do I get over fighting this feeling like I was wrong for leaving him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3673 days ago

31 October 2014 (F) - I have been broken up with my ex for a month now. I understand it hurts but am i supposed to feel like i am wrong? We were together 5 full years. Over the years he became unloving to me and made me feel like i was scum under his shoes but for some ...

My boyfriend is great but I need time alone!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3674 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. He's really perfect, or as close as can be. He's kind, genuine, smart, has a great job, thoughtful, respectful, our sex is great, my family and friends love him... He has never, ever done me ...

I'm very attached to him and rely on him as I am still getting used to living away from home! Advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3675 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - I moved out home for university in september and very soon after arriving a met someone. we were very close for around 5 weeks seeing each other day. and although we weree offically a couple we may have well of been. admittedly we spent too much ...

I do miss him. But first I want him to miss me. So HOW do I ensure that he really misses me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3674 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - Okay so there is this guy I like. recently we hung out and he told me how he thinks i'm beautiful and that he likes my personality. I like him a lot too hes really cool, and we seemed to have been getting a long just fine, but the problem is. ...

I don't trust him, don't accept his baggage, but he won't leave me alone

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3675 days ago

28 October 2014 (?) - Hello dearcupid, I've gotten great advice here before so now I'm back again. I have been seeing somebody for the last 10 months. I ended up falling deeply in love with him. He's the drama, when we first met it wasn't long before he found out she was ...

Since my parents divorced my mother has changed. Why does she continue to reject me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3675 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - My parents are divorced. It was a messy, painful battle, and my mother is the one who initiated it. Since then, she has moved away and changed into a completely different person. Her social life is so busy she no longer has time for me. And when...

He's controlling and abusive. What's the best way to handle this situation?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3675 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Been with my partner almost five years, we have a four year old son together. For the last two years our relationship has been very rocky. It has been an unhappy relationship for me, since being with him he has stopped me seeing family and frien...

Met online. He's separated but still married. Did he break up due to me questioning him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3677 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - I really need your advice here- I'm female (27) been dating this amazing man (35) who's separated but still married that I met online, -we went on four amazing dates (2 dinners, drinks and an art exhibition). We instantly clicked and we had amazing ...

I told him if he wants to be with me he has to break up with his partner first

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3677 days ago

26 October 2014 (M) - So being a 29 year old and single for a year I seem to have gotten myself into a rather difficult situation ... Whilst recently on holiday I met a guy who i noticed, and few days over the holiday the usual eye contact etc. We exchanged numbers and ...

Am I right to stay with him when there are so many issues in our relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3678 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I'm so confused. I don't know if I want to be with my partner of 7 years any more?? The trouble is we have been together for all this time and I wouldn't know what to do or who I am without him. It has been getting clearer over the last year that we ...

My ex chose to become engaged 6 days after we broke up. Should I even listen to her explanation?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3678 days ago

26 October 2014 (M) - My ex left me for another man who is fat, creepy old, and has a 19yr old daughter. The next day after breaking up, shes in a relationship. 6 days after, they are engaged. She is 23, he is 36. She Is a model and gorgeous, and he is disgusting. I su...

He's abusive. Why do I take him back, even though I know he is not good for me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3678 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid Where do I start? I was with my ex was 4 years. Earlier it used be fun, for past few months the verbal emotional abuse is more than I can take. He withdraws affection and love. Makes me beg with him to even talk to me, at last talks to...

I'm exhausting myself running from the pain of this breakup!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3678 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - My ex of two years and I split up and left things in a really rough way. A lot was left unsaid and unsettled and honestly, very hurtfully. It's been approaching a month, and I truly don't feel like I'm getting over it at all, I'm just ignoring it...

Why did my ex boyfriend disappear instead of properly breaking up with me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3678 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I decided to ask this question because I'm just curious about it. Earlier this year, I was in a relationship (4 months, not very long) with someone I met on a dating site. I'm 19 and he was 22. He was very strange and there were many red flags, a...

My boyfriend cheated on me twice so I ended things but now he's begging to come back!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3678 days ago

25 October 2014 (F) - Dear cupid, I'm here again, but I must first thank you all for your tremendous help, I'm glad to be a part of this forum. Pls I seek your advice once again. I've been in a relationship for 7years, and I've lived with him for 2years, my boyfriend is ...

I have strong feelings for her. She says we're not compatible. How do I get over this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3679 days ago

25 October 2014 (M) - Dear Cupid I am a 46 year old man, after being out of the dating scene for a very long time I met this gorgeous 48 year old lady at work. We got talking initially I asked her out and she declined stating that she was in a complicated relation...

Why is my ex happier with his new girl?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3678 days ago

25 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend broke up with me last month after a year together. We had a baby before he left as well. Two weeks after our break up he got with a really young girl. Our relationship was not good. He was always at the bar, drunk, doing drugs, ...

Why does my ex randomly email every few months?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3662 days ago

23 October 2014 (F) - My ex boyfriend will randomly email about every few months or so and has done so for about four years. If this four years we only dated about 5 months. We kept getting back together off and on, but I would be faced with the same issues that I left ...

Separation anxiety-how long until you get better?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3656 days ago

22 October 2014 (F) - Please don't judge and I'm only asking to try to learn and grow as a person. I've been in a relationship for 10 yrs. and for the past year and a half it's been miserable. I had an affair and I didn't fall in love, i did it to satisfy my sexual needs ...

Whenever he said her name or showed me her photo, I could feel the hairs on the back of my neck stand up.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3682 days ago

21 October 2014 (F) - Recently, a high school friend of my husband's has contacted him. He has had female friends before and works with lots of women, which I've never had an issue with so I'm certainly not the jealous type, but this woman gives me a funny feeling. ...

Lost him after 8 1/2 years overnight

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3682 days ago

21 October 2014 (F) - 8 1/2 years we were together through all kinds of troubles but after 8 1/2 years he ended it in a cruel way. I think he planned ahead. Came to my house took things he hdId for and ended it by telling me I was selfish stubborn ect.... I was in shock ...

He tries to turn our love making into some sort of sordid porno by imitating what he has watched, which doesn't do anything for me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3684 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for six months. I'm 26 and he's 29. We see each other every weekend and text and call each other daily. Our relationship in general is wonderful and we have lots in common, however,...

Is it shallow to want to break up with someone because they lack intelligence?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2910 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - It's is shallow to want to break up with someone because they lack intelligence? I'm having a hard time being in this relationship because my boyfriend's lack of intelligence and common sense. His decision making is poor, and his mental capacity is ...

I've been wondering if my LDR Bf is lying to me and cheating. Or has he stopped loving me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3681 days ago

19 October 2014 (F) - Ok so i'm dating this guy on the phone I live in one state and he lives in another place. Anyway so first he was all in love with me and all that and then after a while we started to argue a little. After some more time he said he is so busy with...

He says my nature is bad. That was his reason for breaking up with me. What was my fault?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3686 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - I met a guy online 3 months back. On the first day itself I had phone sex with him. Initially he was very loving. We were even planning to meet. He used to say if I make you pregnant I will marry you. He said we will make videos while having sex...

Despite all the troubles, why does he keep on coming back to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3685 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - i dated a boy for nine months, we broke up publicly in may 2014, however soon realising the mistake we had made and that we still loved each other. We tried to continue our relationship in secret. however one night he held a party, but he spent mo...

What can I do considering it seems that I am in another abusive relationship and pregnant too?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3686 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - I am so depressed and need some help/advice... I am 22 on Thursday. I have two kids (3 and 5) and I am 23 weeks with my third. I have messed up my life up so much... I was with a "man" for 5 years and he physically and emotionally abuse...

I miss her. Do you think she is in a rebound relationship? If yes, how long do you think it will last?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3686 days ago

18 October 2014 (M) - Hello, I have a question, but i need to tell you the most important details you will need for decision in the shortest possible way. My ex (also my Classmate!!) had a boyfriend, but I got her from him and she became my girlfriend, they were ...

He says he doesn't want sex with me because he's bored!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3687 days ago

17 October 2014 (F) - I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 22, we used to have sex like 6-8,times a month which I was fine with but now he doesn't want to do it at all because he says he's bored. And it really hurt a lot. Shouldn't we be doing it a lot more since we are ...

He doesn't show me love or appreciation! Should we just move on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3687 days ago

17 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend and I broke up in June 2014, but then we decided that we waned to be together and work things out. So we are still broken up and we are trying to build our self back into a relationship. He moved back in and the first month he moved ...

Will he ever forgive me for the way I broke up with him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3687 days ago

17 October 2014 (F) - I just ended a pretty horrible 2 and a half year relationship. There is no justification but I did it through text message. Each time we talked on the phone prior to break up it would start and I would say that I wanted to break up and then he ...

Why is he contacting me again?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3688 days ago

16 October 2014 (F) - I met my ex on a dating site about a year ago....we dated for about 4 months and broke up at the beginning of this year because he kept doting over another woman and I became tired of hearing about her. Since then, I have seen him back on the same...

Is it normal to be so indecisive when considering ending a relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3688 days ago

16 October 2014 (F) - Hello all. I'm in the process of trying decide whether I can be happy in my current relationship. When I think about ending things and not being together all I can think about is how amazing he is. When I think about staying in the relation...

We've broken up but my ex still supports me financially

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3688 days ago

16 October 2014 (F) - I am going through break up. It will be two weeks on Sat. Despite everything he and I have gone through, and the wrong I feel he does, I still very much care for him and would like it to work. We would have a lot to work on. He was complete...

We broke up but are now back together but my boyfriend isn't treating me the same

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3687 days ago

15 October 2014 (F) - I've post questions before and I wish to get more advice and opinion.. Recently, me and my boyfriend getting back after a rough breakup and now he's acting like he doesn't interested much like before.. From what he said he make me feel insecure...

Was I wrong for asking for time and attention?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3689 days ago

15 October 2014 (F) - I was in long distance relationship. Never met him. Initially he took out time for talking. But then he started to work for around 16 hours. I understood his commitment for work. But he even stopped messaging. If I asked him something he replied ...

I got married less than a month ago and I think it was a mistake! What do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3689 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - I just got married less than a month ago and I am having all of these feelings and thoughts that it isn't right. That I made a mistake. He isn't the one. I feel so lost because I have been with him for over 5 years... since I was 19 years old. Don't ...

Could it be men see hurt in my body language, and that's why I am still single?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3690 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid,I really want to have a friend for the new year but no one seems to be looking my way if they are I can't tell.I have been single for many years about 13 and now I want companionship.I just turned 43 yesterday I feel and look young I ...

How do I break up with this liar I love?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3689 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid, I've met this guy ten months ago. He seemed like a decent individual. We took our time to get to know one another. We've been intimate approximately 6 times throughout the 10 months of dating. I've always been skeptical about ...

What can I do? She is my very loyal LDR Gf. If I tell her how often I cheated she may breakup with me.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3691 days ago

13 October 2014 (M) - Hi, in 2009 i was visiting my friend in another town so i met and she is a neigbour of my friend ,she gave me her numbers when i went home the same day i called her we talked suddenly the following day her phone was not working,so i thought like she ...

Torn between my ex husband and the other guy. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3691 days ago

13 October 2014 (F) - I am torn between my ex husband and my new guy. Here is the story, My life overal was not too bad but I have been unhappy from some issues which my ex wouldn't do anything about it. The main issue was him being over passive and his family over ...

I decided to break up with her, but I have this crushing feeling that I need her in my life!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3691 days ago

12 October 2014 (M) - Hey everybody, how's it going? I used to go on this site years ago when I was desperate for advice, and lately I've been finding myself feeling the same way - hopeless. I'm 21 years old and I just recently ended a relationship with my girlfrie...

Should I help my friend financially for divorce or counseling?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3691 days ago

12 October 2014 (M) - I have longtime female friend. I'm separated and in the middle of the divorce process. She's married, very unhappily. We talk often and get together every now and then for dinner. She told me she was jealous I'm getting out of my marriage saying she ...

I miss her. She was my closest friend. How do I move on from the sadness I feel now that our affair is over?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3691 days ago

12 October 2014 (M) - I had an affair with another woman that lasted a very long time. Our affair lasted 12 years. It was the right thing to do for both of us. She is considerably younger than me and neither of us thought it would go on so long...but it just never ended ...

Is it over or will he be back? Has he been telling me lies and have his family assisted him to get away from me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3692 days ago

12 October 2014 (F) - My. boyfriend lived with me for 9 months..told me I was the best thing that ever hhappened to him. He said he wanted to marry me. The appartment people were not going to renew my lease, one reason was because he was there. I wanted to start ...

I need a way out, but my heart is in the way. Still living with her, but we've broken up due to my lie.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3692 days ago

12 October 2014 (M) - ok, had my GF for a year and a half. Six months in she revealed everything, and I mean everything, 401K, savings...everything. She expected the same from me and I wasn't comfortable with that so I just threw some numbers out. Obviously not th...

Is my request for her not to speak to him unreasonable?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3694 days ago

10 October 2014 (M) - Ok. a few months back i posted a thread where my girlfriend had went to stay with her male best friend for a while and he'd declared his love for her etc etc she never told me about him telling her he loved her until a few weeks after it happene...

Am I holding on to this marriage for nothing?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3694 days ago

10 October 2014 (F) - I was 8 months pregnant with our third child when I found out my husband was cheating on me. We reconciled I though. After I had our daughter on his birthday 2 weeks later he left me and moved in with her ( He did support us financially the whole ...

I can't get over my girlfriend not being a virgin!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3684 days ago

10 October 2014 (F) - Hi, I have a serious problem that I don't know how to adress. Me and my girlfriend have known each other since we were in our teens. It's been about 8 years now that we've been friends. We've always gotten along great, been best friends and fel...

How to I stop yearning for my ex Bf? Do these feelings every fade?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3694 days ago

9 October 2014 (F) - How do I stop yearning for my ex bf? It's been 5 years since we broke up after an 8 year relationship. My problem is that the feeling that I have lost my home are still there, and I don't know how to make this stop. We had been living together,...