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writes:So being a 29 year old and single for a year I seem to have gotten myself into a rather difficult situation ... Whilst recently on holiday I met a guy who i noticed, and few days over the holiday the usual eye contact etc. We exchanged numbers and decided to meet up next night for a night out. Turns out he has a bf and they wanted a threeway, I was hesitant at first but went with it, call it holiday spirit and all. I've been home a few weeks and me and the guy have struck up a sort of chatting texting relationship. He says he's unhappy in his relationship and intends to break up with him. I feel myself falling for this guy and I feel terribly guilty about his bf, but I can't seem to stop myself or my feelings. He says he's never been in this situation where he likes someone else etc ... I don't really know what to do wether to continue talking or tell him if he wants to continue he has to break up with his partner first! I have never been in this situation before so just looking for some advice thanks.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 October 2014):
 I agree with Honeypie..
walk away until he is over his current partner. that means he has left, moved out and cut all ties... until they are formally not a couple you are just a little bit on the side...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 October 2014):
 Honestly, the best thing you can do (for yourself) is walk away. Let him know that you really DO like him, but you don't think it' fair on his BF to keep it going.
IF he genuinely care for you, he will end it with the BF.
NEVER settle being someones "something" on the side.
It's EASY enough for him to "be unhappy" with his BF (specially while on holiday...) but there are NO reason for him to STAY if he truly IS unhappy. NO ONE is MAKING him stay. It's a choice. Get my point?
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