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Archived questions from: October, 2009 (see latest in Breaking up category)

Breaking up: Help and advice

He's playing with my head. How can I get over this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5477 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - Once i started back to the life ,back on the track , he got back to me .....why ? i am not going to finish from this story or what ? he broke my heart 3 months ago , he said awful things about me, trashed my reputation he was the happiest...

How could he say he might love me only to drop me shortly after?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I had been dating this guy that lived in my hometown for almost 7 months. The first 2 months were while I was at college, but when I was home, I followed him to all the summer ball games he played. When I had to go back, he told me how he would ...

I broke up with him! Is he an abuser?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of four years(long distance for about 2 years, he lives in england) have just broke up because i have decided to end it after her verbally attacked me over a ridiculous reason. Here it goes...so my boyfriend is 25, lives alone pays his ...

If I leave him he has no one else!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm in need of some help,I have been with my boyfriend for the last 3 years, and i now feel like i'm stuck because if I leave him he has no one else. this is because he changed universitys (to the one im at)and has made no other friends. H...

How do I reply to his text?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Hey everyone. So I have been devasted and lost for the past week and a bit because my boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me. It was a shock and I haven't been able to function properly all week. His is reasons for breaking up with me were the ...

Should I just break up with my boyfriend and live my life?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I've been with my boyfriend for just over two years now. We have a good relationship, but I'm no longer sure about if we should be together. The reasons why I doubt the relationship is that he can be really aggressive and (in my opinion) selfish and ...

Feelings hurt...what's next?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5475 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I have been with my partner for 2years and known him for 3-4, recently he did something that really hurt my feelings to the point that I doubted if I wanted to stay together. I love my partner and realize that he did not hurt my feelings ...

Why is he so unsure about what he wants in life yet IS so sure he doesn't want to be with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - My ex-boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me about two months ago. The reason we broke up was because he lost his feelings for me. Recently we had a conversation where he said we can't be together if our goals/ wants are different. So i asked him ...

Should I tell him what happened? I'm leaning towards no.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of a year and I broke up over a month ago and at first we were still sleeping together until I told him it would end up hurting me and we needed to stop. He had been really mean and unappreciative of me during the relationship and he ...

Any ideas on what I could say to meet up with my ex again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5531 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - About 3 years ago now, me and my ex-boyfriend split up when he went to College 2 1/2 hours away from where we live.. (his decision to split up not mine) after going out for around 7 months. He was my first love, so I did fall hard for him at the ...

Does he still love me? Have I a chance to get him back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5531 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I split from my boyfriend over a year ago and i cant get over him, i met a guy straight after the bad split which ended with an argument and no contact afterwards. we had contact 5 months ago and i asked aboout trying again, he said no as it was too ...

How would you act and behave to your ex that dumped you?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5531 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - If it were you, how would treat an ex that yea was good and bad to you, not necessarily the best, you made your own mistakes but was very cold to you which eventually led to breaking up with you after trying so hard to mend things. You finally ...

Help! My girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago. I'm sad. Can I do anything to resolve?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5531 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - We have been together for a year and a half. My ex gf and I took a break about 2 months ago because we've been bickering. She's been stressed out at work, school, and dealing with a messed up family. She said she wanted to take some time to be ...

How can I get her to come back to me...?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5531 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Me and my ex went out for 2 years, we broke up about 3 months ago and in that 2 years i hurt her bad but i told her it would never happen again and it didnt she hurt me also. about a month and a half ago she got another boyfriend i wanna get back ...

Was she afraid I would turn out like the other boys she dated?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5531 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - well she's my ex now but before we started dating she told me that she had been hurt by alot of guys and all she wanted was for me to give her a chance which I had no problem doing because I truly liked her. She seemed different than alot of girls I ...

Can I Do Anything to Resolve?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5531 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - My girlfriend broke up with me a few days ago. I'm sad. Can I do anything to resolve? We have been together for a year and a half. My ex gf and I took a break about 2 months ago because we've been bickering. She's been stressed out at work, sch...

I'm not "in love" with my girlfriend, and she's kind of crazy. I'm scared to break up with her, what do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - I have been dating my girlfriend for a year and a half now and I've realized that I'm not "IN" love with her ....we get along great sometimes but most of the time it's real bad fighting and its REAL bad if we've be drinking.... she starts hitting me ...

I'm worried my ex will tell everyone I'm bisexual!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - I'm bisexual male that was in a gay relationship after my wife divorce me. I'm 60 and my lover is 20 years younger. We had our up and down just like most relationship. Recently, I bump into an old girl friend of mine in high school. We falling for ...

No guy will like me, they all just want sex. I just want to crawl into a black hole and not come out. Can someone help me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5497 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Okay so me and my well now ex have been dating for about a year and a half. I was 16 when I met him and we started dating when I turned 17. I'm 18 now and he's 21. We recently broke up for I don't even remember, but he "joked" that he wants to get ...

Am I giving off the wrong vibes that I cannot get a man?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - I've never had a boyfriend before but in college i've had my share of interactions with guys that only consisted of sex. Last month I broke it off with this guy who turned out to be untrustworthy. I completely put my all into making it work with ...

Should I beg for a second chance, and hope its all a phase on her part?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5529 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - Im just here to vent. It's prolly obvious that it's over and nothing can be done. I fell in love with this girl years ago... gave her everything I had, planned my future around her, would do anything for her. I looked forward to spending the rest of ...

Is there any way I can save this? Whatever I say is falling on deaf ears!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5532 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - (i posted a few days ago, but have reposted with extra details) my boyfriend of three years works very hard, and long hours. he has a son who lives with him, and money is tight. i also work but part time, i have three sons and we usually s...

How do I let the other man go without hurting his feelings?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5533 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - i am / was in a relationship with a great guy. but had another on the side. i love my man and see my self even married to this man but i don't know how to let the other one go. l have feelings for the other one but i don't see a futre with that ...

Telling me about a BJ he received at work, is he trying to make me jealous?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5533 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - Ok here it goes, and sorry if this is long. Last year i dated this guy for 3months (i new him before this and i fell in love with him). Anyways I dumped him on new year's. I felt really bad about doing it and i never got over him for the longe...

He said he can't trust me... what do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5533 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - I recently just broke up with my boyfriend. We were dating for a year and a half and were very serious we even moved to another state together FL. We had a lot of trust issues in our relationship. In the beginning of our relationship we were madly ...

Should I just leave him alone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5533 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - After three years my Ex and I broke up. The reason was because he is an alcoholic and the disease became progressively worse. He sent me a text that stated that he must remain distant from me because every time he thinks of me and how he failed me ...

Will your first love ever come back?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5533 days ago

28 October 2009 (M) - Hi, My girlfriend recently broke up with me during the first two weeks of her three month internship. We are both young and she wants to find herself and do her own things with no strings attached. She wants me to do the same. She doesn't want me ...

How do you get out and about and back on the market?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5533 days ago

28 October 2009 (?) - Hey all, I've asked questions here before and always gotten a good response so here goes again. Don't be afraid to be forthright, I'd like the truth. I broke up with a girl a few years ago and realised that I hadnt developed myself as a pe...

He ended our relationship after I accused him of flirting with another woman and now he won’t talk to me...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5533 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - My man ended our brief relationship after I accused him of flirting with another woman and now he won’t talk to me…. This behaviour is very out of character for me and it probably only happened because I had one glass of wine too many but I am af...

How do you know if the reason you get back with your ex is you, or the new baby?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5524 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - Am 16 wks pregnant. Broken up with partner. He is unsupportive but acting weird. When we were together - he would buy food cos he was practically living with me and I would cook it for him. He didn't want to go to any scans or hospital appointments ...

Did he appreciate my honesty and my regard for his health?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5534 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - This is a question for men, but ladies feel free to answer too especially if you had a similar experience. How would you guys react to a woman you previously dated/ seeing casually informing you after a month or so of breaking up/ parting ways (es...

What should I do if something happens between us?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5526 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - I feel so weird talking about this. Here's the back story: My ex (we'll call him seymour)and I were best friends. We started dating when I was a senior in high school and he was still a junior. I fell for him and well let's just say it didn't e...

Is he truly not ready, or just not into me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5534 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - Hi there, I met this man who is 30 and has just come out of a 7 year relationship. He bought a house and lived with his ex. She has moved out but they are now going through settlement. He says it is completely over and there is nothing between ...

How do I get over my first?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5533 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - hi am 22years i had sex for the first time in march ,but it's like dis i think i like dis guy more than he likes me,he said that he has feelings for me but too me it doesn't show.since we started having sex he had sex with two other women and came ...

How can I hurt him the most to get back at him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

28 October 2009 (?) - My ex was stringing me alone, giving me false hope that we were gonna get back together so he could keep me as either an option contract, a booty call, or so that he could keep having so much power over someone to make himself feel good, or maybe ...

Should I persue this girl and our internet "relationship"?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5534 days ago

28 October 2009 (M) - me and this girl I know have been in a sort of internet relationship for about 2 or 3 years. Well actually we were in one for about 5 months and then we lost contact. So I guess you can say it was over. This was in 2006-2007. Forward to may 2008 and ...

What should I say when I write him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5534 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - Hey there we broke up 3 month ago ,, i cant get over him , he already did i moved in my life , but i still love him and keep thinking of him any way i have a lot of spams on my e-mail and i receive a lot of junk mail ,, so he got e-mail fr...

My girlfriend had a rebound during a short breakup now wants me back.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5534 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - My relationship lasted for 1 year then I broke up with her. I apologized within 24 hours and wanted her back but she said no she needed more time to think about getting back together. We got back together 1 month later. I asked her if she did anyt...

Did he ever have feelings for me? Or was I used?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5534 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I have been involved with someone for around three years he is Indian and I am British.He deceived me and went to India and got married and he broke my heart,we split up nearly a year ago and I still think about him sometimes.The biggest thing for ...

Should I give him time? Or should I move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5530 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - please read this although its long i really need someone to help me. i was with my boyfriend for three years, ten months into the relationship he cheated on me, it lasted for three weeks until i found out. we stayed together, and his cheati...

What do I do to get it into his head that I do not want to get into a relationship with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5389 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - theres this guy, call him David, i had got to know him during this camp thing from our school which was for 11 days in june last year. we had got pretty close and after we got back, he asked me out sometime near end of august. after eight days i had ...

Does she think she is not worthy of me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5534 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - my ex gf cheated on me and then broke up with me the next day. She didnt tell me til about a month later and said that was the reason she broke up with me. She said she felt guilty. I forgave her and we remained friends. We even discussed hangin out ...

How do I break up with my "back-up" boyfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5534 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I wanted to break up with him because there was so much I didn't know about him - we met on the internet and you know, people don't really like posting personal information about themselves. So yeah, I got prepared and got a "back-up" boyfriend just ...

I don't think I can stand to have him in my life anymore, should I just walk away?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5534 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - This is kinda a followup to something i logged in April. The guy that i am seeing on and off as friends has again being going through a rough time. I have tried to be supportive but he just keeps pushing me away. We were supposed to be meeting up ...

He never mentioned he was going away to Europe for months on end, should I cut him out of my life completely?

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27 October 2009 (F) - I split up with my ex around 2 months ago after living with him a year and seeing him on and off for 5. When we split up my ex banged on about us not working now but didnt mean we couldnt work in time, so on so forth. However I discovered via a...

Now I am single my married friends have cooled on me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5534 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I am in my forties and have gone through a divorce. I have female friends both married and single. Since I am newly single some of my married friends have cooled on me. Not sure why. Any thoughts?...

Is she breaking up with me? What does she mean by 'needing time alone'?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - If my girl friend said to me that we are not breaking up but she ask for time apart is she breaking up with me?...

What should I do and what am I doing wrong?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5535 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - i have been together with my girlfriend for 2 years and we lived together for 8 months and she recently told me that she wanted me to leave because she felt we should be apart for a while till we are more grown up. She just most recently told me ...

I can help but think my boyfreind's ex is a better lover than me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5535 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I've written here before, but I'm afraid I just can't get past it. I (20 years old) have been with my boyfriend (22 years old) for a little over nine months now. Everything is going fine, though we're both very busy holding down full-time jobs and ...

Please suggest a solution to this! He knows I care about him, he must care about me too, if he keeps in touch, right?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5534 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - Here I go again. My x bf has been texting me he says we will be "forever friends" but he is living with a woman he met and started seeing when my mother was dying and I couldnt/wouldnt devote 100% of my time to him. He wants to meet up with me ...