My bf is going to see his ex...and I am not happy!
Q. My boyfriend is perhaps going to meet up with his ex as friends. Am I in my rights to say I am not at all happy about it. Or is this asking for the whole "choose me or her" thing. Help. And girls, please tell me how you'd feel and what you do, and ...
A. 10 November 2009: What triggered it? And have they been friends for the entire time you've been together? I am very good friends with my ex boyfriend and have been for the whole time I've been with my boyfriend. However if I was to suddenly organise to meet up with ... (read in full...)
What gives?
Q. Ok so here goes.. My BF and I agreed to take things slow. He said we needed to talk. This was after 6 weeks of no contact. He said he loves me and cares about me. We made plans to get together to talk and grab a bite to eat on Friday. Frid...
A. 22 October 2009: If this is your first real fight then why exactly did you guys decide to take things slow, why haven't you guys spoke for 6 weeks? Are you actually still together, is he still your boyfriend? Because I know if I hadn't spoken to my boyfrien... (read in full...)
Did he cheat because he doesn't believe I won't hurt him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out since May 2nd. I had a feeling 2 months ago he had an affair. so one night we were laying in bed and I asked him if he had ever had sex with her. he said no way not with all those stretch marks and flab. I ...
A. 21 October 2009: The fact you're on this website, and the information you include in your question suggests to me that you know that you need to leave him, you're just looking for a little push to do it.
He cheated on you, he won't let you meet his female friends ... (read in full...)
How can I change myself so I'll forget about him?
Q. Hi everybody. I used to post about my boyfriend before. And finally we broke up. But we still talking like friend. I think I still love him. Yeah! for sure I love him. I still worry about him. We talk at day time after we broke up, but I called him ...
A. 21 October 2009: You're not going to forget about him while he's still in your life. You're not together so you have no right to be checking up on where he is - eventually things like that will have an impact on your friendship with him and it's not unlikely that ... (read in full...)
I want this to work since I can't prove he cheated. Any ideas on getting my confidence in him back?
Q. I have been in a relationship with this man for over 3 years now, I'm very committed to this relationship. I've had a hidden fear that he's cheated on me since sometime in our second year together because our sex life drastically changed. Then last ...
A. 21 October 2009: A relationship isn't exactly a court of law, you don't need to prove to a panel of people that he cheated. You say you KNOW he was lying, instead of addressing the situation in a way that considers your security - he's chosen to address the ... (read in full...)
I offended her over a little thing, now she won't have me back
Q. I was dating this girl for little over a month. She has had guys do some very bad things to her. A year ago her ex husband talked her into an abortion. The day of the abortions he stayed home and got drunk with his friends. That is why he is here ...
A. 3 September 2009: To be honest I think a lot of people (myself included) would take the same path. If after a month someone I dated did something to really make me question the kind of person they are - I wouldn't be emotionally invested enough to want to give it a ... (read in full...)
I'm always the one to call or text him!
Q. Okay, so I need your advice on two things: WHY is this boy being so weird and HOW do I get over him. I've known this guy for over a year now, but recently we were involved in something together so I got to see him a few times a week. He didn't ...
A. 26 August 2009: I don't see mixed signals here. I see a guy who likes you a little bit and probably loves the attention and the things you offer him. If a guy likes you, he will contact you. He will call and sms and arrange to see you. It's that simple. Sure, he... (read in full...)
Why do people want and desire to marry?
Q. This is not the rant of a commitment-phobic partner, it's a real and serious question. I plan on getting married. I want to and when I really think about it, I honestly have no genuine idea why. None. We've created this institution call...
A. 26 August 2009: I am in exactly the same boat as you! I'm not a commitment phobe, the thought of spending my life with one person, although daunting at my age is definitely something I want for myself. If someone asks me if I see marriage in my future, I answer ... (read in full...)
Is this inconsiderate of him or do you think I'm overreacting?
Q. My boyfriend has no problem telling me that other women he comes accross or sees on TV are better looking then me. I would prefer believing that in his eyes I am the most beautiful woman in the world. I know there are women more attractive then me, ...
A. 25 August 2009: Wow I think that is completely insensitive, if my boyfriend started comparing me to other women, well I would start to seriously consider the future of that relationship.
It's either stupidity, or a very nasty streak and neither of these sound very... (read in full...)
We broke up, but he still comes to my place for sex
Q. so my boyfriend and i broke up about two weeks ago.. but he still comes over my house once in a while and we have sex.. we know we still love each other but i dont think its rite wat we r doing.. wat do you guys think?!...
A. 18 August 2009: It's not a good idea. You still have the emotional attachment of a relationship without any of the security, you still have the existing issues of the relationship without any real drive to fix them as you two aren't really together. For one you'... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is talking behind my back, what do I do?
Q. well recently I browsed through his chatlogs, out of curiosity and after that, he confessed that he made me seem demanding behind my back to all of his friends, but not on purpose. I only read one of the conversations he had with a mutual friend(...
A. 13 August 2009: There is a big big difference between having a rational discussion with friends about the issues in your relationship, and bad mouthing your partner to anyone who will listen. He falls into the latter category. To be perfectly honest, he seems... (read in full...)
Dating a new guy and he's going away for a month...
Q. Hi, I met a man 2 weeks before through a friend. We hit it off and have met a couple of times ever since. He did tell me that he has been divorced last year and has a 3 yr old child. his ex wife and child lives in another country, he visits his ch...
A. 13 August 2009: Ask him! You will drive yourself crazy while he's away wondering what your boundaries are, and if you're anything like many other females your frustration with the situation may lead you to raise the issue while he is away, through ... (read in full...)
I can't imagine a life without oral ...
Q. i'm having a big problem with my fiance... he loves getting orals, even insists on it... but won't give me any. the main problem is that fondling and all the rest, including penetration give me orgasm, but not really powerful. my ex always gave me ...
A. 12 August 2009: Have you discussed this with him? Have you asked why? The lack of communication regarding the issue is more troubling than the lack of oral. Though I can understand how that must feel as well, when you're willing to do whatever it takes to please y... (read in full...)
I don't believe in true love so I want my friend to pop my cherry!
Q. How can I convince my friend to pop my cherry before I go off to the college? I really don't believe in "True Love", so I'm not waiting for the right man....
A. 7 August 2009: Regardless of whether you believe in true love, from personal experience I think you should wait to have it with someone that cares about you.
To put it quite bluntly the difference is this: you can have sex with someone who's using your vagina as a... (read in full...)
How can I tell her the truth about how many people I slept with, without losing her?
Q. I have told my girlfriend that I only slept with 5 people as she has only slept with 4. I did this at the start of the relationship. Last night she asked me again for the names of the people but I could not remember who I had told her as my f...
A. 7 August 2009: I don't think it needs to be discussed, and I wouldn't test the waters again with 'joke' questions like that - what you think comes across as a hypothetical question will only plant the seeds of doubt in her mind. The experiences you had in the past... (read in full...)
Does his sexual request reflect his level of respect for me?
Q. My new bf and I are having a long distance thing, we see each other every other wkend. We mainly communicate through daily txts. Naturally sometimes our txts turn abit dirty : ) We have told each other our sexual requests for nxt time we meet up....
A. 5 August 2009: Disagree strongly with the previous anon posters. Aside from immature prudish statements I don't see any value in that comment. I don't think the sexual acts he wishes to engage in with you reflect his opinion of you. I think they reflect his own ... (read in full...)
Why won't my heart listen to my head?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months over 2 months ago. He was never going to be the one for me and I knew this at the time. I relly liked spending time with him though and we got pretty close. Im having a hard time dealing with being apart from ...
A. 5 August 2009: How long did you try the no communication thing for? I gather by the fact you've only broken up for two months and the contact is pretty few and far between when you are talking, that it couldn't have been for an exceptionally long period of time.
Y... (read in full...)
I'm bi but I can't seem to show affection to the girl I am attracted to.
Q. Ok basically, me and my best friend are both bi and we both have feelings for eachother. we're both 15, girls and too shy to try anything. The other day she told me she loved me, and i love her back but I dont know what to do about it, or if i ...
A. 4 August 2009: Honestly if a male teenager had posted that he wasnt able to show the girl he liked affection would anyone suggest he was confused about his sexuality? I think that's a bit unfair. It can be difficult as a teenager to show someone you care. Since ... (read in full...)
He says no one compares to me, then why does he keeps leaving me?
Q. If a man loves you and wants to be with u .and they r saying that u make them a bettter person. And he has never felt this way b4.hes lucky. I only no the true him. Why would he keep leaving me.then begging me back wks and months later saying how ...
A. 4 August 2009: Because he knows that's what he needs to say in order to gain your favour again. He gets the pleasure of sleeping with random women and having the pleasure and ego boost of that, as well as having a devoted ex on the side who will be there waiting ... (read in full...)
Why won't my heart listen to my head?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months over 2 months ago. He was never going to be the one for me and I knew this at the time. I relly liked spending time with him though and we got pretty close. Im having a hard time dealing with being apart from ...
A. 4 August 2009: I think the regular contact is what is keeping you hanging on. Even though you realise he is not the one when you see and hear from him - the contact reaffirms his interest in you and that interest seems to become necessary to your sense of self ... (read in full...)
Do I just need to 'buck up' and take it?
Q. Please help. I am 19 and have been with my boyfriend for over 2 and a half years. I've never had intercourse, but he is 23 and has since he was 18... We've done oral mostly, and I've only been fingered a couple of times, with a ton of pain. I...
A. 2 August 2009: Don't get drunk, that is for sure. You will feel much more pleasure if you experience sex without being drunk. Firstly, if your doctor is aware your hymen is intact I am assuming this means you've been to the doctors and are assured everythi... (read in full...)
My b/f doesn't satisfy me sexually
Q. Ive been dating my bf for 8 mths now, we have a great connection.We are in our mid to late 20s with previous relationship experiences prior to us dating. We have reached level of intimacy, though I'm hitting a stale mate at a point in which makes ...
A. 2 August 2009: After 8 months of you climbing on top and not saying anything - how is he to know it's not working for you?
Why should he know better? Every one likes different things, there is no ultimate guide to pleasuring someone, and if there was the very firs... (read in full...)
How do I tell guys I'm not interested?
Q. I'm finding out there is a couple other guys who like me, but I know I am not attracted mentally or physically. I'm thinking this is because, I like Bob (code name) and I know he likes me so, I'm kind of putting other guys on hold for him. But I k...
A. 31 July 2009: I don't think you should say you're in a complicated situation right now (if you can avoid it). When you like someone (particularly in your teenage years) most people will cling onto any little bit of hope they have, and telling them the situation ... (read in full...)
Is honesty really the best policy??
Q. Okay my situation..is I've been talking to this guy lets call him john well we met and everything it went well at first I was nervous but then i got comfortable.It felt like there was chemistry between us..okay so a couple days later we wanted to ...
A. 31 July 2009: It is a bit worrying that you felt uncomfortable in the place he chose for you guys to hang out and he refused to leave?
Why did you feel uncomfortable there? Did it feel unsafe?
I don't think what you did was wrong. He wouldn't leave, he wo... (read in full...)
If two fingers hurt a penis is going to horrible!
Q. the other week i was at a party and ended up making out with a guy i like, he fingered me but he only used one finger and when he tried to use two it hurt alot, how can i make it looser? cz i'm 17 and wanna have sex but if two fingers hurt a penis ...
A. 31 July 2009: Even after years of sex I still find two fingers uncomfortable, but enjoy sex. It's a different feeling, and while your first time will probably hurt if you're relaxed and lubed up it will be manageable. Don't try make yourself looser, you'll be ... (read in full...)
Females: How do you react when a guy is hugging you and he gets an erection?
Q. Females: How do you react when a guy is hugging you and he gets an erection? Do you act flattered? Are you usually disgusted? I hug this girl from time to time and I always get an erection whilst hugging her. I used to find it embarassing unti...
A. 29 July 2009: It would depend on the guy really. Currently, if it was anyone other than my boyfriend I'd be uncomfortable and cut back on the hugs considerably! While I was single, if it was a cute guy I had some interest in, it would be flattering and a turn on.... (read in full...)
Do any of you ladies have trouble with two or more orgasms in one day?
Q. Hi ladies, I was just wondering. Do you have more trouble achieving an orgasm if you've already had one that day? Say you have one in the early afternoon, then try again at night. Just wondering. Thanks!...
A. 29 July 2009: Not at all. After a very large number of orgasms in one session I eventually find it harder to orgasm. But the number is pretty large, and after a small break I'm good to go again.... (read in full...)
Are there other women out there that are like this?
Q. what's your take on this? my girlfriend doesn't like french kissing, giving oral, handjobs or anything else sexually towards me. When we have sex its all up to me. It's ok for me to touch her during foreplay. She just doesnt really get in to it. I ...
A. 26 July 2009: How old is she? Is it possible she is inexperienced and is afraid to do these things with you for fear of not meeting your expectations?
How does she respond when you attempt to pleasure her?
How long have you guys been together? Has it been lik... (read in full...)
Women only: Oral sex or intercourse?
Q. This questions is for women only: This might sound like a weird question but just think about it for a minute. If you had to choose between really good oral sex or actual intercourse - Which would you prefer, a really good tongue licking you dry all ...
A. 26 July 2009: Intercourse! I get more powerful orgasms from oral, but the closeness and mutual satisfaction of sex makes it the winner.... (read in full...)
I have same name crushes, am I crazy?
Q. Is it weird that I keep crushing on guys with the same first name? I'm fairly sure it's just co-incidence but has anyone else ever found the same thing happening to them? There are two guys that I have fancied for a few a years and they are both...
A. 23 July 2009: It's a pretty common name, and I think it's a pretty common situation. One of my friends ends up dating guys called Josh, and in high school I dated an number of Nicks. I also found when I was in high school I often attached significance to trends a... (read in full...)
My friends get hit on, I don't?
Q. I am an attractive, quiet type and I am Indie...I have wild curly and can not stand to dress provocative or in loud colors. I do not have that Charlie Angel big hair nor own a pair of Audrey Hepburn (I think thats spelled corrrectly) glasses. N...
A. 22 July 2009: Guys in general will go for who ever seems approachable most of the time. Sure, the sleazy, over confident guys will approach the hottest girl at the bar with a subtle pinch on the ass, but most guys won't. You mention you are indie, I think th... (read in full...)
I'm starting to feel like a caged animal in this relationship!
Q. My partner and I have been together for almost a year now, when we first started dating we use to go out heaps. Now we both work during the week the only time we get to see each other is on weekends. We hardly go out anywhere and he never spends m...
A. 22 July 2009: This post reminds me so much of my last relationship! From the mother to the never leaving the house to the absent father to the minimal spending of money! Does he ever go out with his friends? Does he work - is money especially tight at the mome... (read in full...)
He broke up with me for his ex, how do I approach this?
Q. So the guy i have been seeing for the past 2 months ended things with me. things before were absolutely great. texted me, introduced me to his family, his friends, told me how smart and pretty and funny i was. he wasn't the player type at all. but ...
A. 22 July 2009: I definitely don't think calling him and telling him never to talk to you again is the best thing to do. I also don't think it's the more adult option. Take the high ground in this situation. It doesn't seem like the sms he sent you is even givi... (read in full...)
I'm stuck here for 3-4 years away from my BF and regretting it!
Q. For the first time in my life, I'm regretting a decision I made. I never have before because I've always seen choices as experience, even if I only learn never to make a similar choice again...But now I need some advice on how to live with my ...
A. 22 July 2009: I'm not sure how the college system works over there, but over here in Australia it would be possible in most cases to transfer to another University. Is that an option over there? On the bright side try to focus on the good things, you've f... (read in full...)
I trusted my long-term boyfriend enough to stop using condoms with him, but now I am itchy! Could it just be thrush or something more?
Q. I need help. I hope I am just worrying for nothing. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and been completely faithful. Before him I have only had sex with 3 other guys all who were my boyfriends. I was safe with all of them (using ...
A. 21 July 2009: The only really helpful advice you get will be from your doctor. Make an appointment straight away.
You seem to trust your boyfriend, and that's great. Personally I would be reluctant in testing that trust through my own sexual health. Boys par... (read in full...)
New hot date! Face is a mess! What should I do?
Q. Ok i have a date this saturday with a guy i met off the internet...he seems great, good looking etc....but i have bad acne...lumps on my cheeks etc and my confidence is on the floor....even with makeup the lumps can be seen...im not sure if i should ...
A. 21 July 2009: In time for Saturday there's not a great deal you can do, but every little bit helps. The way you describe your acne as lumps - is it cystic acne?
Are you currently using any skincare products or medication to assist it? Is it an ongoing prob... (read in full...)
Would you date someone who was the wrong star sign?
Q. would you avoid dating someone that was the wrong starsign? im seeing a man whose supposed to bethe worst match for me yet we love each other to bits, yet i keep thinking if we were together full time we wouldnt work..any views on this?...
A. 21 July 2009: I have never in my life factored someones star sign into any assessment of them, or my relationships. So yes, I'm sure I've dated many guys of the wrong star sign!... (read in full...)
My friends feel more like family than my actual family do
Q. Hello. I would assume its an issue. When I'm around my parents I'm quiet, easily annoyed and angered. I have a step-mother, with her I feel like the 3rd party ya know? I get left out with my family. Cleaning,running errands for my parents and what...
A. 21 July 2009: I must agree with lovestruck. Family may not always behave as you would like them to, or offer the same kind of entertainment and companionship that friends do, but despite your differences with your family members I bet they would do anything... (read in full...)
She only ever talks about her problems, never listens to mine
Q. Hi there, This may be quite a common situation, but I haven't really been exposed to it. This question is a friendship question, and I know it's long, but I'd really appreciate your persistence! I'm 15 years old, although I'm commonly mistake...
A. 21 July 2009: Ahhh how I remember this problem from my high school days! I think you should be straightforward with your best friend about it. Tell her you're interested in her life and like hearing about it - all aspects of it, but friendship is a two way stre... (read in full...)
I masturbate to lesbian porn but only date men. Am I gay?
Q. I'm a woman who likes to watch lesbian porn for hours and masturbate to it...do you think i'm gay. The reason i ask is i only go out and have relationships with men....
A. 20 July 2009: I'm the same, I find lesbian porn a little easier to relate to. I find the oral factor a turn on and I find that it is usually done a lot more sensually in lesbian porn.
It's more about the actions and movements for me, my mind will flicker to the ... (read in full...)
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