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writes:For the first time in my life, I'm regretting a decision I made. I never have before because I've always seen choices as experience, even if I only learn never to make a similar choice again...But now I need some advice on how to live with my choices.Last year I applied for college in a different state because my boyfriend wanted to move there. Then we split up, I found out I got in and started getting to know an incredible guy. We have both never felt this kind of connection with anyone before. I have never felt so happy with someone, or this free to be my real self with a guy. Then I moved over here 5 months ago. He told me I should date over here (though he isn't dating back home). I've tried, but it just doesn't work. I think the guys I date can tell that my heart's not in it. I haven't seen my guy for 6 weeks and it feels like forever. I love him in a way I never hoped was possible. I miss seeing him so much. I have some videos we took of us together and watched them this morning. It was fantastic to see his face and hear his voice. I'm starting to cry just thinking about it. I also started thinking about my life if I hadn't moved here (I had no choice considering how hard jobs are to get these days, coming here was my only option). Now I'm stuck here for 3-4 years. What do you think I should do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): Stick with your choice! If he is right for you he will still be there in 3-4 years. if not you will find this conection again. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): No, I can't transfer - I should've mentioned it's a PhD I'm doing, so all my samples, the experts who can help me and the many millions of dollars worth of equipment are over here. We were taking weekend trips back and forth every few weeks until he went on a holiday 6 weeks ago. When he gets back I guess we'll start doing that again, but I can't really afford it on my scholarship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): you can not be certain he isn't dating other people. he told you to move on and date guys and he is probably doing the same.
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (22 July 2009):
 I'm not sure how the college system works over there, but over here in Australia it would be possible in most cases to transfer to another University. Is that an option over there?On the bright side try to focus on the good things, you've found someone amazing that you really connect with, where there's a will there's a way!
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