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male
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36-40,
*amilyguy
writes:what's your take on this? my girlfriend doesn't like french kissing, giving oral, handjobs or anything else sexually towards me. When we have sex its all up to me. It's ok for me to touch her during foreplay. She just doesnt really get in to it. I tried many times to talk about this but she doesnt really say much. I'm getting really bored in the bedroom and dont know what to do. same position (me on top). Is there any other women out there that are like this?
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (26 July 2009):
 How old is she? Is it possible she is inexperienced and is afraid to do these things with you for fear of not meeting your expectations?
How does she respond when you attempt to pleasure her?
How long have you guys been together? Has it been like this from the start?
Have you tried talking dirty, watching porn together, foreplay with toys? Does she have any fetishes you could work with to get her in the mood?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009): some women are A-Sexual and wouldnt like sex at all !!
and i dated a girl from this type,
try to sepak to her about this problem
with her and if there is no progress
then she is mostly A-Sexual
try to find soon before it is too late
or you well find your self masterbating while she is next to you !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009): I imagine there are other women out there like this....but she sounds like she has some hangups around sex. Perhaps she is not ready to have sex with you and is just going through the motions to keep you?
I would keep trying to talk to her about it and ask her what is wrong, is she not relaxed enough before sex, would a hot bath help her, some candles, more romance. Put it to her by asking what she wants you to do to improve things for her, you will get much farther than telling her you are bored or frustrated. Give that a try and see where you get. Also, if you really love this girl, counseling can really help. Some women just don't know about their own bodies and need some help and guidance in enjoying sex....this is probably fixable with patience and some help.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (26 July 2009):
yes, but they are home alone tonight... she needs to loosen up and learn to enjoy a healthy sex life... or your going to out grow her and find someone else to have that healty sex life with.
She doesn't sound aroused, more like she's going though with it for other reasons, like she's massivly insecure.
She needs to address this, for both of your sake...
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