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*urious101
writes:I'm a woman who likes to watch lesbian porn for hours and masturbate to it...do you think i'm gay. The reason i ask is i only go out and have relationships with men.
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reader, lilmizzbaybehh  +, writes (4 August 2009):
no way i am a lesbien and love it but i cant stand girl on girl porn infact i love watchin gay porn weird hay but its the fact that it turns u on and others migght not
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): It is basic female sexual conditioning to be the object of male attention. Women preen and groom in mirros constantly as they wish to be as attractive as possible, percieved through the males eyes.
Notice how little girls flip up their dresses- to the embarrassment of the parents, how teenage girls FALL for boys and horse about for their males' attention.
This is normal primate-human behaviour.
Thus- when watching women on women porn- which is much more realistic enjoyable sexual play for women- women are in a sense viewing themselves through the eyes of their male lover. They also see the ":mystery" of their own genitalia- which is hidden from view.
And there is probably a psychological element of the "bad"/ "naughty"/forbidden/kinky at play- after all the brain is the largest sex organ
So, no you are not gay- you are essentially being a male-perspective voyeur- which in essence is watching yourself- thus an extension of masturbating in front of a mirror.
Here is a good academic paper on this phenomenon:
http://www.uvm.edu/~tstreete/powerpose/conclusion.html
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (20 July 2009):
 I'm the same, I find lesbian porn a little easier to relate to. I find the oral factor a turn on and I find that it is usually done a lot more sensually in lesbian porn.
It's more about the actions and movements for me, my mind will flicker to the thought of my boyfriend doing this or that while I'm watching.
I love men, and would never consider a relationship with a woman but most of the porn I watch happens to be of the lesbian variety. You're not alone and if you only desire to be in a relationship with men you're not gay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): I am the same and I have asked myself this question however I am not gay/lesbian. The reason I like lesbian porn is that I feel women treat each other with more respect and tenderness physically during their act than male on female and I enjoy seeing the satisfaction a woman gets from being treated right - women aim to satisfy each other more. Men are more forceful and aggressive verges on abusive and controlling sometimes and I find that less erotic. However I also think its because in lesbian porn you get more focus and attention on oral sex and this is a turn on for me personally. I would not worry about it whatever turns you on is for a reason. I like the fact I like it - think it makes me more in touch with what pleasures me. I think lots of women find other womens bodies attractive - they are nice to look at after all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): This begs the question of whether anyone is totally straight or gay, or whether the labels really matter anyway. You only have relationships with men. That would mean you're straight, UNLESS you are open to the idea of being with women, and would like to try it in real life rather than just enjoying lesbian porn. In which case, you're bisexual. I suspect one's porn viewing habits don't matter too much. I find some straight guy-on-girl porn really delightful, but all my sexual encounters have been exclusively with men. I've never seen lesbian porn and can't imagine it would do anything for me, what with there being no men there. This doesn't mean I'll never want to be with a woman, though. Some of them are gorgeous! You are what you are, no point agonising over it. If you feel like you're really missing out on something and want to have sex with a woman, just go out and do it!
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reader, meg2989 +, writes (19 July 2009):
 Well, if youve never been with a women sexually or dated a women, then I doubt you would have any way of knowing. Have you ever had a desire to date or be with a woman? Do you ever look at woman when youre out on the town? Have you ever been curious about a woman? If you answered yes to these questions I would consider you " Bi - curious" but not gay. Go and maybe "explore" if you have the interest to, maybe you will find out more about yourself. On a personal note, I always had a feeling that I was bisexual. Ive always been attracted to boys, but I questioned my sexuality since the age of ten. When I was 18 I finally experienced what it was like to be with a woman, and realized that I was infact bisexual. So you really just have to see for yourself. Good luck in finding yourself! message me if you need anything!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): Nope, alot of women like to masterbate to lesbian porn, you might be bisexual or just lesbian porn turns you on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): If you only date men then how can you be asking if you're gay?
Prehaps bisexual since bi refers to "two" or "both" etc. and sexual obviuosly refers to sexuality.. but of course you don't really think you're gay if you ONLY date men.
Lot's of women masturbate to lesbian porn. women are sexier then men. That's how we wree meant to be!
~Sy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): Do you feel a strong attraction to girls out and about or just in porn? If not and if you don't feel an urge to date them then its probably just a faze or a sexual fantasy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): I wouldn't consider you to be gay because you enjoy that. I mean maybe watching Lesbian porn helps you because you can observe a lady (ladies) being pleased and it helps you to stimulate/relate to yourself as you please yourself as you masturbate.
The question is do you ever have lustful thoughts towards ladies? (I ask rhetorically)
But in conclusion I don't think your gay because you watch it :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): I was on the same boat as you, i didny understand why i enjoyed watching it so much and started to wonder if i was gay, but i to only date men, i just started to think that i could mot imagen me with a girl, could you? i could only picture my self with men, try to watch normal porn, boy&girl, and see if this turns you on, i dont believe you have a problem, its just something you enjoy watching.
Hope this helps xx
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