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*abbitt1992
writes:How can I convince my friend to pop my cherry before I go off to the college? I really don't believe in "True Love", so I'm not waiting for the right man. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009): I waited until I had already graduated from college. It was actually my senior year in college that I met my first love. You don't really realize how special something so intimate is until you're with someone amazing whom you love. Its really a feeling you can't explain; wait for it, you won't regret it.
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (7 August 2009):
 Regardless of whether you believe in true love, from personal experience I think you should wait to have it with someone that cares about you.
To put it quite bluntly the difference is this: you can have sex with someone who's using your vagina as a replacement for their hand, as rough and quick as they usually like it. As long as they get off, they won't be too fussed.
OR, you can wait and have sex with someone who cares about you. It doesn't have to be true love as such, but ideally it will be with someone that goes slow when you need them to and makes it as good for you as they can.
Sex (particularly the first time) can be pretty embarrassing believe me, so it should be with someone you're really comfortable with.
Like I said, it doesn't need to be true love, but if you want sex that is remotely enjoyable don't give it to just anyone because you'll only be ruining it for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009): Whoa! Yos, is correct. True Love does exist and I hope you do come to the time, where you may believe in it. It's a truely remarkable thing to experience. So with those words, I want to say to you, hun...Please wait and have sex with the person who commits and loves you, girl. He's out there, it may just take time to finding that love.
Now about this sex/virginity thing. I've said this before to many adolescent female out there...and here it is again. A young female must always, always, always use good judgment and decide if it's the right time and the right person. This means considering a few very important factors, like the possibility of becoming pregnant or getting a sexually transmitted disease. You can use all the fancy-schmancy contraceptives out there but there is no 100% guaruntee that you may not get pregnant? A baby is a lifetime committment and could hinder future goals for you. Please...make that decision when you are ready for it. Sex should be an expression of truest love - and with someone who wants to be with only you..(at your age, this means Dating/Committing to you) A gal just doesn't hand this over to any guy on a hormonal whim. The emotional regrets may come back and bite you, hard...eg: nine months down the road when you are in the local maternity ward, giving birth alone with no support from him.
Last words and read this carefully. When it comes to sex, there are two very important things to remember: one, that you are ultimately the person in charge of your own happiness and your own body; and two, you have a lot of time to wait until you're totally sure about it. If you decide to put off sex, it's OK - no matter what anyone says. Being a virgin is one of the things that proves you are in charge of you, in charge of your life. And it will show that you are powerful enough and mature to make your own decisions about your mind and body. Keep being strong, hun and keep putting the highest value on YOU. Think this through carefully. dear. Good luck
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reader, Yos  +, writes (7 August 2009):
 True love is very real. It will happen to you one day, and when it does you'll likely wish you hadn't convinced your friend to pop your cherry for whatever reason you have now.
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reader, \m/J.D\m/  +, writes (7 August 2009):
 I lost my V to my best mate of 7yrs... I saw him once after that. Wait till your with someone you care about, or at least cares about you. statistically you will have sex with more than one person. When it happens it happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009): I suggest you don't go for cherry popping. Preserve it for yr future pleasure.
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reader, TheAgonyAunt +, writes (7 August 2009):
 You shouldnt have to 'convince' anyone to have sex with you, they should want to willingly.Why cant you wait until you get a boyfriend and have sex with them?I just dont understand why you want to 'get rid' of your virginity?Can you tell me why, because you didnt give much information?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009): Do it with your boyfriend, not your friend.
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (7 August 2009):
 Um, ask him/her to have sex with you. I'm sure they'll gladly oblige.
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