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*hief524
writes:I was dating this girl for little over a month. She has had guys do some very bad things to her. A year ago her ex husband talked her into an abortion. The day of the abortions he stayed home and got drunk with his friends. That is why he is here ex. Something happened and I got mad and overreacted. She broke up with me. I finally talked to her after 3 days. She said that she forgives me. I really think she said it so I'd leave her alone. She also said that she will never trust me and doesn't think that she could ever look at me the same way. When she loses trust she never regains it and she never feels much for that person again.She said that what happened was little and if I acted that way what would happen if something big happened.She is an amazing woman and if I can get her back I will. I would go no contact with her but I think she really will just brush me off since are relationship was so short.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): Even though she tells you she will never trust you again, trust CAN be rebuilt. If you are serious about getting this relationship back, be persistent. Do simple, kind things for her. Give her a chance to see that you just messed up but that you are able to be trusted again...actions speak louder than words, and women need to have a guy they can count on to be there for her. If you are there for her without being a pest, and continue to be a good friend to her, she will eventually start to reconsider this rule she has of never trusting again. As much as I hate to admit it, I almost gave up on someone that broke my trust. It was only by admitting how stupid they were and their continued presence in my life that I learned to count on them again. Let this be a lesson learned- trust, given freely at first, is so hard to regain once you have broken it with someone. Good luck.
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (3 September 2009):
 To be honest I think a lot of people (myself included) would take the same path. If after a month someone I dated did something to really make me question the kind of person they are - I wouldn't be emotionally invested enough to want to give it a second chance.I think it is entirely possible she forgives you for the incident but just doesn't see any reason to try again.I think you should consider letting it go, she's made it pretty clear.
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