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writes:So the guy i have been seeing for the past 2 months ended things with me. things before were absolutely great. texted me, introduced me to his family, his friends, told me how smart and pretty and funny i was. he wasn't the player type at all. but what was his reason to stop seeing me? his ex came back into the picture and he realized his strong feelings for her again. He's been seeing for about a week now (funny, because that's when i noticed a difference) and he felt it was unfair to see the both of us. He explained how he had a great time with me and he loved every second of it. I know he did have feelings for me and I believe you can have feelings for two people at once- but it just sucks being the girl rejected.Now I've been in that situation before- where I broke up with the guy, then got back together just to break up one more time. and I don't know about you guys- but IT NEVER WORKS. EVER. you break up with someone for a reason- unless they change (which 90 percent don't) there is no point of coming back.oh and he texted me this today... told me he was too much of a wuss to even call me. I never replied. He texted me: hello? can we talk soon?I know this isn't going anywhere- but I'm debating if I should call (and be an adult) and be like, don't ever talk to me ever again. or if I should just ignore him? I'm ignoring him- burns more on his part ;) I feel like he'll be running back soon once he realizes why he broke up with her in the first place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2009): If you're asking for how to make him mad: Now that you've ignored him for a few days, call him casually and act like an adult, which would completely shame him. Tell him you agree that he's too wussy to be your boyfriend, so you won't be seeing each other again. Cut him off if he tries to apologize. Don't hang up on him (you want to be an impeccable adult, remember?), but say goodbye firmly before hanging up. :)Do NOT tell him things won't work out with his former ex. He will interpret that to mean you are jealous!Do NOT have a moment of weakness and wish him luck with his new/old girlfriend. If you're going to be mean, go all out!If, however, you decide instead to be nice and accept him back, also go all out. Call him (again, be an adult, i.e. someone he will want to come back to). Tell him you're sorry things turned out this way, but if that's the way it is, that's the way it is.Do not use blame or I-told-you-so or mind games. Do not hold this incident against him. When he comes back, just laugh and say, "Yeah, I knew that would happen. You're really lucky, Casanova, because I still want you." and Don't Mention It Again.
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reader, flicka23  +, writes (22 July 2009):
 Your relationship with the guy has been going for the past two months but I guess that his relationship with his ex has lasted for more than two months. This may explain why he feels more attached to his ex as they shared more moments together. It seems that he has not yet forgotten his ex as he has not given himself the time to get over this break up and has started another relationship with you too soon. You are now paying for his mistake. You can call him or take his call to discuss where the situation is and listen to what he has to say. You tell him that you are talking to him because you have consideration for him. He has to choose with whom he wants to be, you cannot accept to be rejected once more as you are not his object
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (22 July 2009):
 I definitely don't think calling him and telling him never to talk to you again is the best thing to do. I also don't think it's the more adult option.Take the high ground in this situation. It doesn't seem like the sms he sent you is even giving you anything to respond to - what does he expect you to do? Agree? Tell him he's not a wuss?Ignoring him might make things awkward in the future, but it's the preferred option out of those listed.I would either agree to talk to him, be civil about it, let him speak his part and you speak yours, or just wish him luck and be on your way.Nothing is so aggravating than calmness- Oscar WildeIt's true :P
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