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writes:i am 27 years and my boyfriend have 26 we r met 5 years before and my mother died when was young i got married when i was 19 and due to some problemwe r seperated and i had a kid now he was seven years my problem is before 5 years i met this guy he is one year younger than me now he saying that he cant marry me bcause a divorcee with kid his parents never accept but he saying that he loves me he dont have proper answer he is not like before .my father also diedme and my son alone what will do am now 27 .i love him so deeply and i asked him to just give me a ring then we cn continue with secret relation.but he refuses that if he marry me its only consent of his parents.his best friend i know him 5 years he usually giving pressure to me to get rid that boy and dont spoil his life and his parents.what will do
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (6 December 2012):
He is really saying "I dont want to marry a woman who is divorced w a child."
Thank him for being honest about the direction of the relationship and move on.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 December 2012):
 I was once with a guy I loved and adored. He liked me. He still likes me over 20 years later. I so wanted to be with him... his reason for not wanting to be with me was that his parents would not accept my religion.
The truth was he was just not that into me. He used his parents being upset with his choice as a reason for not being with me but it was just a cover. It was really that he was not interested in me THAT way.
why would you want to be his dirty secret?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2012): OP you're with a guy who has told you that you do not have a future with him. If his parents are so against you then why is he with you now? He's just using you OP until he finds another girl who his parents will allow him to marry.
He does not want to spend the rest of his life with you, it's nothing to do with his parents, he's going against their wishes by being your boyfriend so if he did want to be with you and get married he could go against them in that too but he won't because he doesn't see a future with you and he's not going to change his mind.
So you have two choices, stay with him and hope until he eventually dumps you, or dump him now and move on to a guy who you can have a future with.
Good luck.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 December 2012):
 If there is no future with his guy WHY keep him around?
Isn't he then just using you? Til something more parent appropriate comes along that they WILL accept?
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