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writes:Hi, I'm 17, and I've had sex before and done other stuff too, but I don;t enjoy it. The thought of doing anything intimate like that with anyone makes me feel really ill. I don't know why it is, I will still get turned on, but I could never act on those feelings. is there something wrong with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (7 December 2012):
At 17, you're probably just too young at this point. This will likely change as you mature.
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reader, idontevenrecognisemyself +, writes (6 December 2012):
I agree with karlos5021. I have been with two guys prior to My boyfriend. Both of them asked me to sleep with them, but it just didn't seem to interest me that much. I just kept putting it off because I didn't have those feelings that make sex what it is. With my current boyfriend, I knew from the first time we met that I loved him and therefore it's so much more special.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2012): Maybe the thoughts of sex you're having are about sex with random guys? Sex is far more meaningful when its between two people who know, love and trust each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2012): There would only be something wrong with you if this was negatively impacting on your life. Unless you're in a long term loving relationship right now and want to make love to your boyfriend, then there's no problem. Chances are that's just the kind of situation you need for having sex.
Lots of people don't like the idea of just fooling around and having sex while dating or casually. Some need to have a real deep emotional connection before they're comfortable doing so.
There is nothing wrong with you OP, you'll probably be more into the idea once you fall in love.
It's not a bad idea to look for reasons though, things such as how crappy your experiences were, or maybe the idea of penis' makes you feel ill or maybe you felt cheap etc. Worth thinking about.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 December 2012):
 nope nothing wrong with you... 17 is still young to be having sex.... if you don't like it don't do it.
When you meet the "right" person it will happen.
if it does not happen by the time you are say 24 and have been dating a while, perhaps then it might be time to revisit your fear with a qualified therapist but at this point in time I see no problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2012): That's probably because you did all those things with someone you don't really have true feelings for.
There is nothing wrong with you. You simply are not ready for sex yet.
When you are attracted to someone who means something special to you, you trust and feel safe and secure, you will be aroused and you will want more from that other person.
However, if you feel scared, threatened or uncomfortable with any act of sex, you should NOT engage or do it just because the other person wants you to.
When the time is right, with the right person it will all make sense and it will feel right. Until then, don't put yourself in situations where you are feeling this way.
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