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writes:guys, how long do you usually wait to ask a girl out on the first date after you've gotten her number? i recently met a guy and we clicked really well, good conversation, flirting and all. when i got home i got a msg from him saying he would think of something for our date and let me know. i read that some guys follow the 3 day or the one week rule? this confuses me because if a guy's interested in you, what's with all these games? i've only ever been in a serious relationship and that lasted 2 years, this whole dating thing is SO confusing for me. help please! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2011):
Personally, I don't call the next day because it takes me that long to work up the nerve and figure out what we might do. I call the day after that. It's no hard and fast rule, though. Wait too long and she won't even remember who you are if she's in high demand!
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (26 May 2011):
 When you are dating you OPEN to all people and all things.
You have NO obligation to wait..soooo
Do not wait for a thing! :) Keep living your life! Live it well, have fun with freinds, go out on YOUR own.
Nothing is more attractive to a guy than a girl who has her OWN life-it makes YOU more interesting! If he calls and you have plans, DO NOT cancel your plans! Offer another time. It is not playing games, you are just making your life first here.
(You are not in a commitment-thus keeping plans with freinds, other dates, family...comes first!)
Any guy worth having is going to make the effort to get to know you! If he really likes you, he will KEEP calling and make sure he is FIRST on your calendar! :)
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2011): If I really like someone I call right away and set a date. He isn't very interested if he has not set a date or taking his time following up.
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reader, Odds +, writes (26 May 2011):
 The games are for two reasons - 1) girls don't like guys who seem to eager, and 2) guys like to have a plan of action, so putting a solid number to it is easier than playing by ear.
Personally, I think too many girls know about the 3-day rule (or follow it themselves), and one week is way too long. In the off chance I can't pick a good time based off the individual case, I'll call on the second day. Some girls respond just fine after only one, or even being called right after the date; others need more time.
Don't worry about it too much. Just go with things, if it seems scripted it's probably because he asked his friends for advice - meaning he wants to get things right with you, not screw it up. If it seems natural, even better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2011): I don't wait too long. If a girl is a catch, she will probably have others on the line, so I assume she'll forget about me after a week and make other plans. It depends a lot tho on how close to the weekend it is, what her schedule is like, etc.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 May 2011):
I didn't wait around. When I met my girlfriend, we spent some time talking (an afternoon) and I asked if she'd like to meet up some time again. She said yes.
So there - no time wasted at all.
I'd just wait for this guy. Give him 5 days, then don't bother. If he was that interested, he'd have asked you out in that text, not said he'd think of a time.
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