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writes:To the men out there, please be brutally honest: If you were single and looking, and met a woman who was in her mid 30s and had no children and claimed to not want any, would you think she was a loser/mentally ill?I ask because I have zero desire to have children, do not have the time, patience or the money to spend on little ones, although I don't mind taking my nieces for a few hours! However, a lot of people I meet ask me if there is something wrong (infertile, etc) with me.Whats the deal, are women with no children off putting. I notice that a lot of single mums snapping up the single available guys! Are women with children actually a turn on?
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reader, MissTellAll  +, writes (7 June 2011):
 I know you're asking all the men, but I find this kind of ironic because just the other day I saw posts about a man COMPLAINING that all women want kids.
That being said, know that there is someone out there for YOU, not for your body to dump sperm into and pop out a kid.
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reader, freeme +, writes (6 June 2011):
 It really depends on the guy. It seems you know yourself well enough to know you don't want to be, or wouldn't be a good mom. That's admirable. Don't compromise on it.
For me, I would have moved on when I was looking, because I knew I wanted kids.
But to men that don't want kids, you are probably a wet dream come true!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): seriously its not off putting if anything its attractive!!! most men like the choice of having children and if you dont want any that means more fun and holidays and stuff like that. good for you girl
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 June 2011):
 We've seen plenty of guys on here who find it hard to find a woman who doesn't want kids.. you're the first woman I see who wonders if it's off putting.
So in other words: no I don't think it's a problem for you. I think more men than women are fine if they never have children.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (6 June 2011):
 No but where is the need?
A woman who wants kids, that is easy. There is even a song about, all it takes is a single night or less. Lots of men willing to help a woman get pregnant and never be seen again.
The other way around, if a man wants a kid but not a woman, that is hard. There are sperm banks but no baby banks. The difference is of course that the contribution of the man can be done in minutes... oh okay seconds. But the contribution of the woman takes 9 months. And while few men are attached to their sperm, women seem to develop some bond to their egg over 9 months off growth.
What does this all lead to? The men you see going after single mothers WANT kids and NEED a woman for that and the only way for a man to get a kid is to commit to a woman.
Men who do not want kids are plentiful. But what need do they have to commit to a single woman?
It is not that a woman not wanting kids is a turnoff but why commit? Real love? Sure maybe. But you are fishing in a small pool. Single men who don't want kids but want to get married/committed to a 30 something woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): It's not so much a turn off or turn on either way, but the fact is that if a man wants children he's going to go for a woman that wants the same. If he already has children he's looking for a woman that will be loving towards them.
There are plenty of men out there that don't want children but these tend to be the men that don't want to settle down either. After all, the need for children is what tends to make men want to settle down.
Sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011):
In general, I think men prefer to date women who do not already have kids because of the drama that sometimes comes with the father. As to whether men would want to have kids with you, that depends. Some men like children. Some do not. I never really did, but as I get older I am more on the fence about it. I would be completely happy with a woman who did not want kids, however. Nothing wrong with that.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (6 June 2011):
 I know you are asking the men, but I think you would be pleased to find out there are lots of men out there that WANT to be childless by choice. I remember seeing a post around here last week from a man what wanted to start a relationship with a woman who did not have or want kids.
I would start looking for social groups with people your age who WANT to be childless by choice. Good Luck:)
No, children do not make a woman sexier. Confidence in yourself, regardless of offspring, makes you sexy!
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