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writes:so the girl I love I guess cause recently there has been a bunch of BS and were not talking accept through a mutual friend who is on my side. Thank God for that. anyway apparently she is gonna date this guy to get back at me for what I don't know I have only been nice to her. Also to make me jealous which isn't gonna happen cause I honestly feel like she isn't worth it in that aspect. I am being careful about what I say because I would like to become friends or date her later on but she needs to grow up first. So from what I have heard the guy she likes now isn't very nice and kinda is a D bag. He puts himself first and ignores her calls and stuff. All of this info I have gotten I didn't ask for it just came up in conversation because my friend is trying to help me out. So my friend (a girl) said when not if this guy leaves her or breaks up with her and if she calls me I can't be sympathetic. If I pick up Im probably gonna say I told you so not to be mean but honestly I have told her this before about the last guy and I can't deal with her anymore like that. She is a up coming junior in high school and he is a freshman in college so idk what her parents think about that. My question is if she calls me what should I do because at the moment I don't care about her and Im going on a date friday but unlike her being an asshole Im not trying to make her jealous and put up pics all over facebook of me and this girl I know. From everyone I have talked to they agree with me that Im being good about it and not being nasty trying to get back at her.This is the first time someone tried to make me jealous deliberately and I think its funny cause its not gonna work, She could date a celebrity and it wouldn't bother me I got more sh*t going on in my life than to care about what she is doing. Cause right now my mom has stage three colon cancer and is battling that. She also knows that so idk why she thinks I care.Thanks for the help. Im looking forward to her call and telling her whats up
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reader, justfriends +, writes (3 June 2011):
justfriends is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you so much. It means a lot to hear from someone else on this subject matter. I will take everything you said to heart and try my best.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (3 June 2011):
 I will give you the same advice I gave my son (who is 17).Dating at your age is a way of trying on relationships much like trying on clothes. You are going to learn what fits well and what doesnt. You learn what looks best on you and what what makes you feel your best. Dating is a LEARNING experience.You are not talking to this girl anymore because something did not fit right and you broke up. Right? They call it a break up because it is BROKEN.Do not concern yourself with what choices she makes unless she asks your opinion. Then give it with respect and directly. Whatever her reasons she has to date someone else-it is her responsibility and her consequences. Do not involve yourself.It is her parents concern if she is dating someone innappropriate. You may want to date her later, but if she chooses that, she should know who you really are! That includes speaking your feelings honestly about what you want out of your own relationships!It is mature of YOU to want to be her freind, but stay out of her dating experiences. Find OTHER things to talk just as you would your guy freinds. It sends a signal to her that you are not going to be provoked into jealous reactions. Be direct and be respectful. So far, you are doing great and do not worry about what she thinks or does:)So sorry to hear about your Mom. She has a son to be proud of!:)Good Luck and Best Wishes!
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