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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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We need each other, but our parents are morbidly trying to separate us
Q. I need Help..I dont want to be criticized i just want help.I just had a miscarriage(i was 5 weeks preg) im 15 years old my boyfriend is almost 17.My parents went completely crazy on me even tho they knew i was not a virgin when i got with him. my ...
A. 17 July 2009: Im thinking this post is BS Why because you state your father broke your cellphone has locked you away from the world then why do you still have a computer with internet acess? IF its in fact true then i apologize and am sorry for your loss and ... (read in full...)
If you guys don't know each other, how can you tell if he's interested or not?
Q. Hmm I was just wondering cause of this particular incident. i'm at university and there's this guy in my faculty that i used to see around once in a very long while. Anyway we are both in the same camps this time around and well, I noticed him ...
A. 17 July 2009: didnt you post this before, any way if hes not bothering you just ignore him maybe he recognizes you just say hi to him or something no biggie... (read in full...)
Is she a prostitute?
Q. Hello.Im writing about one girl that i know.She is very beautyfull-tall with straight black hair and green eyes and she is strange i think that she is shy a little.One night she said to me that two friends of hers will come to take her home with a ...
A. 17 July 2009: Word hmmm i would say dont worry about it if you like her hangout with her and be her freind the truth will come out in time what ever you do dont kiss her or sleep with her haha til you find out... (read in full...)
Teaching is my greatest love but I'm scared Ill screw up
Q. Hi I realize this is not the time to be complaining about having a job. I'm extremely grateful that I was just offered a position for September. I am just out of college and the job is as a teacher, what I trained to do. The problem is almost every ...
A. 17 July 2009: You cant become a good teacher till you learn to teach by teaching. are your fears are normal but you dint get this far by giving in to them in september those chilldren will be looking up to you and there future is entrusted to you so follow your ... (read in full...)
I don't love him
Q. help! okay so I just started dating this guy i met on facebook and he told me that he really love me, but i just realized i dont love him back. what should i do? I want to break up with him but I dont know how to cause I dont want to hurt him. He'...
A. 17 July 2009: so ride it out enjoy the sex hell get the hint eventually... (read in full...)
I like this girl who's hung up on her ex
Q. NEED HELP!!!!!!! I've been dating a girl, who is perfect in every way. I know she likes me, but shes stuck on her first boyfriend, who cheated on her. I really like her, and she knows that. I tried asking here if she just wanted to be friend b...
A. 17 July 2009: If your the age you say you are then i cant see how a girl in her 20s is hung up on her first bf but if thats the case move on man be freinds if she wants freinds with benefits even but dont get to serious about this girl she has to overcome her ... (read in full...)
Two of my friends slept with my ex, should I befriend them again?
Q. I found out that my good two "friends" were sleeping with my now ex-boyfriend. I dumped them all and I haven't talk to them for about 2 months. Well My "friends" have been begging me to hang with me because they are sorry and want us to be buddies ...
A. 17 July 2009: Theese dont sound like freinds personally i would move on theese girls seem immature, but on the same not people should be given a second chance at times everyone makes a mistake, what do theese girls bring to the table are they normally there for ... (read in full...)
The girl of my dreams is walking in and out of my life
Q. Hi, (Sorry for such a long message) I have a situation that I never thought I'd be in and was just wondering what other people's perspectives are. I am in a long distance relationship with a girl form Hong Kong (we've been dating on and off for m...
A. 17 July 2009: It sounds to me like you to are following diffrent paths in life, I htink you will benefit more from being a good friend with this girl then trying to form a relationship with so many obstcles in the way. Love makes us do crazy things we dont ... (read in full...)
Does he want my friendship or just sex?
Q. So, I met "boy" late 2006, I was 16 and he was 18. We went out a couple of times w/ friends and he visited me numerous times in school, but we never even kissed. So long story short we started seeing other people and then I was single, he lost his ...
A. 15 July 2009: I agree with sami he likes you but you two have been freinds along time you dont want to blo it just tell him your waiting for the rite guy if you really are and see where it goes ... (read in full...)
Could his unemployment be why he's putting us on hold?
Q. So I met this guy a few weeks ago and we hung out a couple of times and had this amazing chemistry and connection. The third time we hung out I invited him over for dinner because my roomie is also seeing his friend so we all had dinner together. I ...
A. 15 July 2009: but i would say its probably not completly it a money issue the fact of not having a job can be depressing a man can feel like a bum and its not good for your confidence hes probably heard it from plenty of girls before look at the society we live ... (read in full...)
Nervous about fooling around with my girlfriend
Q. Hi, me and my girlfriend have been going out for a couple of weeks. and its been amazing I really like her and she really likes me too. we haven't gotten to anything physical but we would like to..id do anything with/for her. all we've done is ...
A. 15 July 2009: just go with the flow some things come natural to you your born knowing how to swim believe it or not. size doesnt matter for a BJ besides at your age your gf wont care about size she's a virgin so if it was huge it would kill her any way dont wory ... (read in full...)
Help! my sister was raped and the police don't want to help us!!
Q. i seriously need some advice here. not even the police are helpful! it all started when my sister saw this ad in a local newspaper. this bar was looking for a waitress. so she called the bar and asked if she could come by and have an interview wit...
A. 15 July 2009: I hope thats not your real name you used you should have posted this anonymously specially since you mention hiring thugs to beat someone up. I can say if it was my sister i would have committed some sins against those men allready they would be ... (read in full...)
Did I read him wrong?
Q. There's this guy at my work, he is 25 (5 years older than me) and i think he might like me. I can sense something in his body language. He can't help but smile when he looks at me. and he always notices me and says hello when i walk in. but maybe he ...
A. 15 July 2009: I wouldnt say women say have an instinct lol as so much as wen a man likes a woman he tries to let her kno subtly its really pretty obvious, now at his age he should be able to just come out and say what hes feelin. dont over analyze this play it ... (read in full...)
Why would a guy look at a girl and not do anything else?
Q. Hmm I was just wondering cause of this particular incident. i'm at university and there's this guy in my faculty that i used to see around once in a very long while. Anyway we are both in the same camps this time around and well, I noticed him ...
A. 15 July 2009: LOL HE likes you !!! dont do anything if he doesnt have the guts to say something hes a punk you want a man with a backbone, if you really want to give this guy a chance i would say just say hi to him, give him an excuse to talk to you and not just ... (read in full...)
I'm just not sure if he's the one or what I want!
Q. I am with a guy who is completely in love with me and wants to be with me and I don't know what I want. Is there something wrong with me? I hear about all these girls who turn 30 and who are still single and can't find the right guy and here I am ...
A. 15 July 2009: HMM DO YOU LOVE THIS GUY cif not can you see you self falling in love with him? It sounds like your letting a past experience interfere if this man is as good as you say it seems like a good deal express your concerns with him maybe hes willing to ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend left me after a mishap during sex
Q. my girlfriend of one month left me 5 days ago cause 2 weeks ago during rough sex I must have did something to her cervix now she cant have sex with me may be more o f a problem but she wants to leave also or shes confused cause she said she cant be ...
A. 15 July 2009: WOmen are like kaleidoscopes full of pretty colors but not very practical, IF you care about her and want to be with her you need to talk to her and she needs to see a doctor im sure the damage isnt permanent
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I think my man is a pimp and I'm scared! What can I do?
Q. please tell me if you think this sounds like something to do with organized crime-okay,so a few years ago I knew this girl who I'm sure was a prostitute-she would go to different men's houses and come back with cash-one day she took me to this man's ...
A. 15 July 2009: GO TO THE POLICE TELL THEM JUST WHAT YOU WROTE HERe THATS YOUR ONLY OPTIONS good luck and be safe... (read in full...)
My habit really embarrasses me and I need help to stop doing it!
Q. Ummm, ok, first, to get things straight, this is habit ALONE. Right, it's quite embarassing, because at school, guys tease me and say stuff about *it* (if you know what I mean...) I have a bad habit of shaking my legs up and down and up and down, ...
A. 15 July 2009: Sounds like a problem you should speak with your parents you may need to see a doctor it could be a medical issue... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he want to meet up again?
Q. Trying desperately to forget about this guy I had an affair with, but I still eagerly await a text or call. We only slept together once and now it has been 3 weeks since we've been together.We text about every other day, but never discuss what we ...
A. 15 July 2009: Tell him just what you said in here if your age is what you say it is your an adult and the teenage games are far behind you he needs to step up aswell just be open and honest let him kno how you feel ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he want to meet up again?
Q. Trying desperately to forget about this guy I had an affair with, but I still eagerly await a text or call. We only slept together once and now it has been 3 weeks since we've been together.We text about every other day, but never discuss what we ...
A. 15 July 2009: Tell him just what you said in here if your age is what you say it is your an adult and the teenage games are far behind you he needs to step up aswell just be open and honest let him kno how you feel ... (read in full...)
I'm Pregnant! Do I marry this guy or not??
Q. I am in the Army and have spent the last 11 months in training and in a holding status. I had been seeing a guy for the last 8 months and broke up with him a week ago. The next day I found out I was pregnant. It was an accident and I was told ...
A. 15 July 2009: His Debt seems to be a big issue for you, you said he got most of it from his school loans thats reasonable its not like he gambled it away, so the guy has a degree and hes in the Army he can pay his Debt down theres alot of millitary resources ... (read in full...)
He's 4 years older and we don't see each other much
Q. well..im 15 and my boyfriend is 19,we been going out for 1month and I really like I feel something special for him and I think he feelsz the same way too...im kind of wondering if this will work out,since there's age difference and we don't see ...
A. 15 July 2009: Im gonna have to say that it probably wont work out hes not gonna want a gf that cant hang out and go to the club with him,hell be 21 with a 16 yr old gf thats not kool, my opinion on 19 yr old guys that have 14 yr old gf is this there trying to ... (read in full...)
I can't figure out if he's gay or not
Q. Hello, I'm a 19 year old gay male. I'm still closeted to all but one person and guess what? I've got the perennial gay problem -- I like someone and I don't know if they're gay or not. I know that this is asked a lot, but I'm looking to see what ...
A. 15 July 2009: If you dont ask you wont kno it might be embarasing but youll live and if hes a decent person hell understand if hes not gay hell let you kno but honestly im gonna say hes gay or really naive or just not sure of what he is... (read in full...)
How can I be around him without feeling anxious and worried?
Q. I am gay and have just left college and have never had the courage to talk to a boy who I have seen for the 2 years I've been there! We have made brief eye contact a couple of times but I don't think it has meant anything, and now every time it ...
A. 14 July 2009: HMM i had a guy flirt with me alot whenever i would go to the gym well i knew he was gay immeditly from the first time he talked to me he would even ask me if i wanted to hang out at the club etc give me pointers on my work outs he was stronger and ... (read in full...)
Feelings for my ex-husband's uncle
Q. Hi, I am a 24yr old female with 2 children 10mos and 25mos. I am newly divorced but have been seperated for 3 years. The prooblem is I have always had feelings for my ex-husbands uncle. We have always been friends before my husband and I met. My ex ...
A. 14 July 2009: sounds like a good plan i wish you luck its seems like this could work out for you... (read in full...)
How can I get my children's father to step up to the plate?!?
Q. I have been with my children's father off and on for 18 years we are both in our early 40's but he won't commit to us. We have two gorgeous daughters together. We have had our share of trouble along the way. I have lived with him before but he had a ...
A. 14 July 2009: this sounds wrong your both to old to be playing games just tell him how you feel do you even love this guy at all does he love you theres so many questions if you do it your way things will turn out bad why do you want to move in with him at any ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my cousin because he won't marry me?
Q. Well I've been going with my third cousin for almost twelve years. I have tried to date other men but I can't leave him. Right now I'm still in love with him and all I want for him to do is marry me but I think he is afraid to do it because of what ...
A. 14 July 2009: I think if you love each other get married give him a final deadline if he wont marry you move on and dont look back... (read in full...)
Summer time FUN!
Q. This is just an observation, as I am not currently in a relationship of any sorts and haven't been for a long long while, can all the young women from ages 18 to 65, please stop dressing so provocatively. It's bad enough my hormones are in ...
A. 14 July 2009: haha Hes gotta a point the other day i saw a crowed of hallie berries walking down the street in short shorts and bikini tops i was like omg in the middle of the city its not even miami beach or nothing lol. women dress sexy for women the average ... (read in full...)
I think I am in love, am I, and can I make this work despite of the age gap?
Q. hey i need help asap i met this guy and he is perfect i work in theater so i hav alot of gay friends (im bi so is this guy) but all of them think we r perfect and i totally agree i hav had many crushes and not to many boyfriends but not once hav i ...
A. 14 July 2009: Your going to have to be able to take alot of criticism because of your age diffrence but you say your bi maybe your used to it, secondly theres some legal issues involved though you may aprove others ie your parents may not being 13 your subject to ... (read in full...)
Married an older guy, but after 3 years I now regret it.
Q. im married to my hubby for now 3 years.i was 20 when i married him, arranged marriage but with my consent.he is 15 years older than me and actualy looks that old too, at times people avtually thought he was my father.at that time i was so stupid to ...
A. 14 July 2009: YOU cant let other peoples opinions dictat your decisions in life this seems to be a good man theres no guarantee you will find another that treats you this way, your young now and your freinds opinions mean alot to you but in ten years you will ... (read in full...)
I think I love my best friend!
Q. Ok to cut to the point... i think im in love with my best friend and dont know what to do about it... ok short(ish) version: it didnt start like that but her mom and dad absolutly adore me and want me to date their daughter and my parents want the ...
A. 14 July 2009: DONt do it bro when you get that close to a girl shes like kryptonite deadly stay freinds your to young for love your gonna go off diffrent directions and grow apart eventually just stay freinds with this girl going out with her will be a bad ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my nextdoor neighbor? Could this get awkward?
Q. I have a crush on my next door neighbour (same age). How can we date without having an awkward life if we break up (i.e seeing her and her parents often etc) To top things off, she's good friends with my sister (who told me she's ok with me going ...
A. 14 July 2009: Your pretty young so im gonna say its highly doubtful your gonna be with her forever you will probably just grow apart as work and school become bigger forces in your life, when you say like im assuming its just normal physical attraction opposite ... (read in full...)
My wife cheated while I was away. Everyone knew but me! How do we get past this?
Q. My wife cheated on me with a friend that I engaged to do some work for me while I was away from home. He had to keep contact with her to ensure work is completed and he even visited my home in my absence. He spilled the beans to someone close to...
A. 14 July 2009: Then start by telling her you forgive her. shes only human. men like to think their wife or gf is perfect we even try to hold them to a higher standard than ourselves but theyre just flesh n blood and susceptible to all the temptations we are. if ... (read in full...)
How can I forget about someone I am completely in love with?
Q. I've been completely in love with someone for over a year. We only ever met once and we're not in touch but since we met I haven't been able to stop thinking about her. There is no possibility of this going anywhere yet I can't seem to move on. How ...
A. 14 July 2009: we always want what we cant have, even if we could reach the stars we couldnt touch them, love is like a kaleidoscope full of pretty colors but ultimately useless. basically you just have to forget her your not a teenage girl anymore if you kno ... (read in full...)
Drinks gets drunk and turns into Mr Hyde!!
Q. ok so,iv been with my boyfriend now for over 2 yrs.i love him so much and i know he loves me ha tells me every day but the thing is,that when he gets a few drinks into him i never know what he's goin to do next.the way he treats me is so mean and ...
A. 14 July 2009: hes bad news could you imagine starting a family with this guy well hes probably not going to change you need to get rid of him before he hurts you even kills you you seem like a nice woman you can do way better, You can make him choose either you ... (read in full...)
Chatting online with his ex....Do you think that's ok?
Q. Do you think it is okay for your fiance to be chatting to an ex on msn??Don't know what they were chatting about but he tells me they don't talk anymore?? ...
A. 14 July 2009: well sometimes exes can remain good friends i wouldnt worry about it as long as it not interfering with your relationship with him if you start being supscious or even acuse him of cheating it could ruin your relation ship. I would say dont worry ... (read in full...)
Is this just a phase or have I gone too far?
Q. I have a problem and it's quite weird so I don't quite know who else to talk to. Background: I've been going out with this lovely man for 2 years now. He is 28 and I'm 22. I've always received a lot of male attention but I never met the person I ...
A. 14 July 2009: interesting.. If hes willing to put up with you seeing other men and you still want to be with him i dont see the problem you kno longer have to lie about it he seems like a guy that really cares about you and loves you if you leave him fo some guy ... (read in full...)
My b/f keeps asking me for anal sex, I don't know what to do or how it's done?
Q. Ok, my boyfriend keeps asking me to have anal sex with him. I have never taken it up the butt and am not sure if it will hurt or what i am supposed to do. Can you help me?...
A. 14 July 2009: I would recomend watching some videos on it you can find plenty online just to see the basics if he takes his time and your prepared it shouldnt be to bad some girls really enjoy it. From a male perspective i would say if your really into this guy ... (read in full...)
I want to know how other people have dealt with the issue of sex and their parents...
Q. I would just like to know if any of you guys told your parents that you had either lost your virginity or were thinking of losing it? And how did they react to it? If you didn't tell them, do you feel guilty at all? Thanks xx...
A. 14 July 2009: Well if your the ages your say your between then your an adult and can do what you want you dont have to talk to your parents about sex if you dont want to secondly they probably assume your allready doing it,or want to do a and are naturally ... (read in full...)
Having erection problems... and I'm only 17!
Q. Ok So i am a 17 years old healthy guy(breakdancer) I had a bad sex experience like 7 months ago it was my first time too.. And i was inside her but it slipped off and i never got hard again to go back in..it was on the beach and it was winter ...
A. 14 July 2009: That is f**ked up but theres good news you have youth on your side, you should find out what the long term side effects of the drug is. geting an erection really doesnt have to do with confidence if your with a girl and your nervous it might impair ... (read in full...)
I don't want a physical relationship, I want something meaningful.
Q. I meet this guy well over 1yr ago, we exchanges numbers 3 to 4 months ago. We went on two dates within the last two weeks and basically went all the way last night our third meeting. I’m 26 and at this point in I’m tired of dating for sport. I’m ...
A. 14 July 2009: Life is about second chances and I beleive God forgives. you havnt messed up or thrown anything away just learn from this and try and continue to stick to your beliefs If your really religious and need help i recommended reading the Bible the new ... (read in full...)
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