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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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Should I wait for him to text me or what?
Q. I don't know what to do with myself. I just wait for him to text me because we haven't talked since thursday night. He knows that I like him and he showed all the signs that he was into me too. We've been on and off talking for about 2 years now. ...
A. 21 July 2009: LOL The guy still has his own life he may be busy just give it time if he likes you hell pursue you, maybe he doesnt want to come on to strong who knows we can ponder this forever, why dont you focus on you a bit more talk to other guys gve them ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a lump on his penis and won't go to get it checked. Help!
Q. Hi, I know this isn't anything to do with relationships, but I'm worried for my boyfriend, he had a little lump on his penis and you can move it around and he won't get it seen to which really annoys me, he thinks it might be cancer and won't get it ...
A. 21 July 2009: well it can be embarrassing you can try and convince him or get a freind to help you maybe an older guy you both can trust, I cant really say i blame the guy i probably wouldnt go to a doctor either, it could be nothing if its serious ie cancer hell ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend has started treating me poorly and I'm not sure how to work things out
Q. Hi, i know alot of you will probably rub this off as nothing due to the fact that im "young" by most of your standards, but i would really appreciate some honest help here... me and my girlfriend have been together for about a year and 4 months, ...
A. 20 July 2009: Right now i get the feeling that she thinks i wont break up with her, and shes just freely treating me poorly
theres your problem solution hmm well depends on your game i guess you can tell her how youve been feeling lately.
or you can ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me I would fail
Q. My bf just told me that I would fail at my career because I'm not loud and out going enough. I was so hurt by what he said. He thinks hes an expert cause a friend of his works in the industry. The thing is though, you dont have to be like that to be ...
A. 20 July 2009: The emotional damage is done you dont seem like youve ever had any criticism before your taking this hard not that i blame you but still. Your bf is a jerk break up with tell him you need to think things over getting away from him may help get a ... (read in full...)
He says he'll call later but he never does!
Q. Here it goes. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now. Lately he has been developing this habit of stating that he'll call 'later' that day, only to not do so. His excuses range from being really stressed and busy to having h...
A. 20 July 2009: I think you shouldnt worry so mutch about what your bf is doing what are you doing hmmm its the middle of summer what have you acomplished 40 years from now when you think back what memories will you have for the summer of the last year of the first ... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity to a guy I hardly know and now I'm feeling guilty
Q. hi, i lose my viginity to a guy i barely know, we dated several times and he is expeienced he knows how to make me feel good, then that happened, i even didn't bleed a lot cause he is so good at it, now he is going to leave me cause he said he need ...
A. 20 July 2009: why are you feeling guilty you said it was good you enjoyed yourself. You should not stop seing him if you like him and have a good time hes leaving so try and have as mutch fun with him as you can untill then he could be the best lover you ever ... (read in full...)
IS it appropriate to send flowers to an ex on an anniversary?
Q. My gf and I had dated for almost four years. We lived together for one, we didn't end on a bad note, never any huge problems, I am a pretty good guy. We were very good friends before we started dating and became lovers. We broke up over a month ago, ...
A. 20 July 2009: I honestly think you should move on it seems like shes really unsure of things and is keeping you as a back up. She said she loves you as a friend so shes letting you kno all she wants with you is a friendship it sounds like you where good to her ... (read in full...)
Stuck in a loop of humdrum and can't get out
Q. I have planned a holiday with my partner but we are not travelling together but have arranged to meet upon occasions. I have not been intimate with him for over a year. I kinda went off him a bit as I did not feel our relationship was...
A. 20 July 2009: why are you still with this person your not happy its appears to be going nowhere its unfair to you and him to continue the charade. you only have one life why waste it on meaninglesness ... (read in full...)
How do I know if it is just friendship or if it is something more?
Q. We were both deeply hurt by the town gossip and so we took a step back from the relationship. We are slowly stepping back into it but I am confused. Keep in mind that this man was head over heels for me as he put it I was life and his soul and he ...
A. 20 July 2009: Go with your gut insticts it sounds like you like him and he likes you, why did you let town gossip break you up.... (read in full...)
How do I explain? What to do... please help!
Q. I am a 25 year old female. I have only been with my boyfriend for almost two years.We have three children all together in our home. I have a 4 yr old son from a previous relationship, he has a 2 1/2 yr. old son from a previous relationship and we ...
A. 20 July 2009: Theres something else your husband is accusing you of this alleged infidelity as a way of expressing his discontent with something basically hes starting a fight hes unhappy and by accusing you of cheating he solidifies his belief that its your ... (read in full...)
I'm the boss's daughter, but his mom is my supervisor. We like each other but don't know if dating would be inappropriate. Help!
Q. Alright so I work at this tiny little store with only like 5 employees. So we're all a pretty close-knit group. Well, this one kid and I have gotten really close, to the point where he admitted that he likes me and wants to date me. Awesome, ...
A. 20 July 2009: Talk to your dad im sure your parents wouldnt have a problem it would make things convient for them your father is going to kno exactly who this boy is and if anything goes wrong he can call your mother lol sounds like a good plan but i think you ... (read in full...)
I've tried to get away, but the harrassment continues ...
Q. Well, if you have followed my other posts, you will know that i had a married woman chasing me at work, tried to get away, finaly got away, had to cry "hostile work enviroment" to management, they changed my schedule, but it still overlaps hers 3-4 ...
A. 20 July 2009: Thats sexual harrasment try to get evidence of her unwanted sexual advances record her save her text etc save your documents and record your complaints you may have to go to the policeits more rare for a man to be harrased in this way people may not ... (read in full...)
Does boyfriend want me for love? or lust?
Q. my name is adrianna and i have this boyfriend and sometimes i wonder if he wants me for love or lust. i want him to want me as his girlfriend but sometimes i feel like he justs wants me for sex, but other times i feel like he wants me. i don't kn...
A. 20 July 2009: Hmm are you happy with this guy, hes a man hes gonna want sex. If you want more out of the relationship let him know, it doesnt sound like your really into this guy if your ready to break up with him over this and havnt even spoke with him yet
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Do I have OCD? What to do?
Q. Hi, so i have a comfort issue. For the last 5 years ive been obsessively wearing coats. No matter how hot it gets. When im not wearing one I panic and feel naked and ugly and exposed. My parents wont leave me alone about it. We r going to Cali soon ...
A. 19 July 2009: Hmm yes it could be a medical problem sounds like obsessive compulsive disorder, OCD for those who dont kno. I would suggest speaking with a doctor and explain to your parents how you feel many people dont take mental disorders serious adhd is a cop ... (read in full...)
I don't know where this is going..if ANYWHERE?
Q. if you would, please help give me some opinions or advice. with the guy that i met online. we have been talking to each other for nearly two months. we have traded pictures and he has told me that he likes me a few times a while back. if he does not...
A. 19 July 2009: First i must say thanks for posting i like to read things like this from the female perspective. as for this guy he could be nervous or shy maybe hes not very confident in himself insecure. maybe hes thinking you wont like him. theres many things ... (read in full...)
Teenage love and very confused!
Q. I was young 15.. never been in love and didn't plan on falling in love when I met this guy. We met, by his best friend and became a couple. In the beginning of the relationship, I wasn't all that into him. I ended up giving him a chance and falling ...
A. 19 July 2009: Im confused
By the way it's been 2 years now. We're all grow up.
But what do you guys think? What happened? Help? ADVICE PLEASE
So your no longer with this guy,?
any way love has its phases first it can be awkward then it heets up your... (read in full...)
How should I tell this guy that I like him?
Q. i like this guy in my class. i think he likes me too but i cant be sure. i really want to tell him that i like him. i cant keep it in myself anymore. i need to tell him. i just dont know how......
A. 19 July 2009: Its summer why are you in class, well you didnt say what kind of class summer class i guess. well if a pretty girl where to come up to me and ask me if i would like to hangout some time i would say sure so thats all you have to do really dont be shy ... (read in full...)
Should I keep having phone sex with him?
Q. Hey its mi again well I got another problem my“friend” says he will wait but we had to keep haveing phone sex...... idk if we should cause im kinda getting boerd.... so I told him meybe.....wat do u guys think should I at least keep haveing phone ...
A. 19 July 2009: well if your getting bored with phone sex and you start having sex maybe you will get bored with that. Phone sex is safe not really sex but you wont get an std just make sure you wash the phone off, you wont get pregnant you wont get a reputation ... (read in full...)
Should I apologise to her parents?
Q. I am having a problem that my girlfriends parents have noticed that I have given her a love bite on her neck and on her chest. She has also done the same to me, both of our parents are now annoyed and have forbid us from seeing each other out side ...
A. 19 July 2009: You can try talking to them if there forbidding you from seeing her they dont sound like understanding parents they may have religious or personal reasons it seems like there not ready for there daughter to date. Its not like you did anyhting wrong ... (read in full...)
I'm only 22, but feel like I'm living the life of a 60 year old!
Q. I have a bad social life. There are so man reasons for this, No money, flaky unsincere friends, my no-bf situation, spending the last year of my life in th books studying for my degree that now that I am finished and want to go out and have fun...
A. 19 July 2009: AWWW your adorable, I have often wondered this if you watch tv or look at facebook profiles some people seem to have tons of friends there's even a tv show called friends, i tried to figure out what was the big deal.
Some things i noti... (read in full...)
I'm so frightened. I think hes suffering from post traumatic stress
Q. I married my best friend of over ten years three years ago; right outside of high school. A month later, I found out I was pregnant. Two months into it, my husband enlisted in the US Army. He was deployed to Iraq four months before I gave birth. ...
A. 17 July 2009: OMG you need to ge tout of there immiediatly for the sake of your child find a safe place for your child parents close freind etc and you need ot get him help seriously before someone gets hurt your husband is a veteran and disserves any and all ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that my boyfriend's best friend has feelings for him?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been having problems. I feel his best friend wants to take him away from me. We'll be together for a year in 2 weeks. He tells me he loves his best friend but is in love with me. I feel he is gonna pick her over me. She ...
A. 17 July 2009: you shouldnt worry but i dont beleive a male and female can be friends with out having attraction for each other over time unless they are sister and brother. only time will tell who he chooses. If I where you, the next time a guy ask for your num... (read in full...)
How should I aproach this guy in my class? I'm kind of afraid!
Q. I have a crush on a guy in my class. Everyone says he likes me but I don't know if it's true. There's a week left in school and I'm going to move soon. I want to tell him that I like him, but I'm kinda afraid. I need help ASAP. What can I do? theres...
A. 17 July 2009: hmmm well if you like this guy go for it stop worrying about what those little girls say they sit around spreading rumors because they dont have man go talk to that boy before its to late. you can slip him a note too in his locker or something with ... (read in full...)
I like guys who look more feminine. Is this normal?
Q. Is it normal for a girl like me to be attracted to androgynous guys? (Like Johnny Depp or David Bowie) I'm 100% straight, but I just have this fetish for guys that are kind of feminine. Is that normal for a woman?...
A. 17 July 2009: yeah people like what they like those guys are considered hotthrobs* your not the only girl that is crazy over them ... (read in full...)
How do you forgive and forget the lies and deceit?
Q. Two years ago my husband had an affair and ended it. The affair lasted about eight months. I didn't know about the affair, but I was suspicious about his whereabouts during that period. Against my better intuition, I chose to trust my husband at the ...
A. 17 July 2009: get a counselor and tell your husband how your feeling, thats the best advice anyone can give you you need a professional counselor this is a traumatic emotional thing for you dont go it alone ... (read in full...)
I feel like he is not interested anymore and I don't know what I've done wrong. What should I do?
Q. I just don't know what to do anymore. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months now, well 6 months to this exact day actually, and everything has gone really well (we've had our slight up's and down's but what couple haven't) but just recently he ...
A. 17 July 2009: awwww i feel bad for you you seem like a sweet girl hmmm let me think, somehting may be going on in this guys life but i think its to mutch weight for you to try and carry tell him your going to give him his space and let him work out what ever is ... (read in full...)
One night stand with Lothario leads to pregnancy!
Q. I went on a girls night out a few weeks ago, had a good time, had fun, but unfortunately I couldn't resist the advances of a good-looking Lothario, and I slept with him. I didn't plan to sleep with him but was under the influence at the time. A se...
A. 17 July 2009: wow you should thank your lucky stars hes so forgiving and understanding but hes rte any way hes your husband hes supposed to forgive you you didnt have chilldren can your husband have chilldren i think oyu need to talk with him about that ie your ... (read in full...)
Is changing your appearance a good way to get over someone?
Q. my boyfriend and i spilt up a few days ago, we havent really dicussed it, i just said it was over and that was that, i dont really want to go into details about it, but i had good reasons for it though. i don't want to ever go back, but i have long ...
A. 17 July 2009: Yeah dye it blond cant hurt besides they have more fun and if your into them go ahead pierce that lip your only young once your gonna be a fox that boy might end up beggin you back lol sigh... (read in full...)
Do you know what love is?
Q. Hi this isn't really a help question more i want peoples opinions on what they think the definition of love is? my definition is someone you love and care for is always there for no matter the circumstances someone you can never stop thinking ab...
A. 17 July 2009: theres diffrent kinds of love
religious family and sexual theres love you fall into then theres love at first sight.
im going to give my opinion of sexual love the love i feel your most describing and asking opinions on.
when you see some... (read in full...)
My virgin GF cried during foreplay, is this my fault?
Q. My girlfriend told me she going to give her virginity (I didn’t pressure her and I’m not a virgin). We waited until my birthday to do it just to make a bit more fun. She acted really nervous around me. When the day come she was really freaked. I ...
A. 17 July 2009: whats the big deal girls and this virginity thing another great mystery of life, any way dude get a new gf one thats on your level shes a virgin so the sex wont be all that great shell probably lay there like a dead fish no a dead snail im sure you ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and sex is on my mind! I have so many questions!
Q. I'm 13 years old, and I'm having the urges to have sex. What do I do? I know, I am Way to young. and I want to wait for the right guy, and be a saint. but, The orgasims. It very tempting. And the boys my age, Offer it all the time. Its my ...
A. 17 July 2009: no one can top anonymouses post that was pretty damn good she should get an account wow i feel all enlightened. as for the poster well... whoaaaa i dont even remember being 13 but you sound like a horn dog its all good maybe you have a higher then ... (read in full...)
Feeling awkward with my virgin b/f
Q. I love my boyfriend, but I'm a lot more sexually experienced around him, he's a virgin and I'm his first girlfriend, I lost my virginity at 14 and have had several partners. I feel quite awkward around him, any tips??...
A. 17 July 2009: THis is cute it seems liek you will ahve to take a more active role,,,, but forst you hvnt given us mutch detail ie has he mentioned he wanted to have sex do you make sexual advances, has he rejected your sexual advances. he could be feeling ... (read in full...)
Morning after first time sex and I'm sick! what could it be?
Q. okay so you dont need details so i wont make this too long!.. but yesterday my parents went away and because im an only child, i didnt want to be alone for the first night, so my boyfriend (of almost a year) stayed over. we got a film, pizza etc.. ...
A. 17 July 2009: if it was an std you wouldnt feel it the next morn it sounds like that boy needs to learn to be a little more gentle next time tell him to slo down if it doenst go away soon go see a doc he could have broke somehting... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity to a guy who I'm only going to spend another month and a half with?
Q. I'm 18 and a virgin. My boyfriend of the same age is not a virgin. We started going out a month ago, and we were friends before that. I'm leaving in September for university, and we agreed at the beginning that we would not do long distance. We've ...
A. 17 July 2009: first off loosing your virginity isnt that important in canada any way kno will beleive your a virgin any way and if you tell them there just going to want to have sex with you more, if you go to college a virgin your probably going to loose it to ... (read in full...)
Nervous about getting a blowjob for the first time!
Q. Hey, i've been seeing a girl for some weeks now. it seems to be getting a bit sexual. i haven't done anything with a girl before but is about to sometime next week. she has said she wants to give me a blowjob, but im nervous. is there any tips, i ...
A. 17 July 2009: JUst stick it in her mouth let her do the rest you can try using a flavored condom, its not rocket science... (read in full...)
Sex has become a much higher priority to him than me
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we've been living together for almost 2 years. He says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and that he loves me with all his heart. The problem is, our sex life has steadily gone downhill over ...
A. 17 July 2009: wow give this guy an ultimatum seek help or your leaving you cant go on like this forever and obviously he doesnt care about you as much as you care for him... (read in full...)
I'm concerned about the porn I found on his computer!
Q. So recently I was on my boyfriend's computer and saw that he had google searched and dowloaded a porn video. The name sounded weird to me so I looked it up later and it turns out it was from a porn site where men have sex with women while they're ...
A. 17 July 2009: His computer is his personal property its none of your damn business basically. im late on this but i hope you didnt say anything to him about it your opinion doesnt matter its basically like reading his mind hes intitled to his fantasies weather ... (read in full...)
How can I get out of this trap of a marriage and keep custody of my children?
Q. Dear All, I'm married to a British man(I'm Indian) and we have 2 children under 4yrs of age. We have lots of arguements atleast one every day. Just one for example: I have bought water/liquid absorbing doormat(light green,one of those JML magic ca...
A. 17 July 2009: this is so sad i cant see my self treating a wife that way, you should watch the movie enough, you have to step up let your husband kno your not putting up with his bs anymore,start planning now go take your road test not being able to drive is a ... (read in full...)
What do you do when your man prefers porn over you?
Q. I'm in my 40's and still get compliments from 20yr. old guys!..but my man prefers porn over me? ive tried everything i'm willing to do for him..but he still does this..we have a child together.. and i want to be a family..but it hurts to know..that ...
A. 17 July 2009: Its probably normal but not rite he should be dedicated to you but at this point and your age what are your options is he taking care of his family putting bread on the table it seems harmless to me aslong as hes not physically sleeping with theese ... (read in full...)
My husband is hiding text messages to other women!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 6 months now. I haven't caught him cheating persay but I have caught him texting several females. The first one said she wanted a relationship from him not something on the side. that stopped. Then I found ...
A. 17 July 2009: this guy is shady tell him you cant make a life with some one you dont trust and end it hes married the time to be talking to theese other women is over my space face book texting all goes out the window when you get married he needs to grow up and ... (read in full...)
We need each other, but our parents are morbidly trying to separate us
Q. I need Help..I dont want to be criticized i just want help.I just had a miscarriage(i was 5 weeks preg) im 15 years old my boyfriend is almost 17.My parents went completely crazy on me even tho they knew i was not a virgin when i got with him. my ...
A. 17 July 2009: Im thinking this post is BS Why because you state your father broke your cellphone has locked you away from the world then why do you still have a computer with internet acess? IF its in fact true then i apologize and am sorry for your loss and ... (read in full...)
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