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writes:I meet this guy well over 1yr ago, we exchanges numbers 3 to 4 months ago. We went on two dates within the last two weeks and basically went all the way last night our third meeting. I’m 26 and at this point in I’m tired of dating for sport. I’m looking for something more fulfilling and meaningful! I don’t feel I know him well enough(but what I do know is that he is a really sweet guy)I told him I wanted to take things slow but he was so persistent. Now I regret ever knowing him. I feel like an object and I was only fulfilling his request and not mine. I’m trying to live the Christian life and feel like I messed everything up when I allowed him to go all the way. I wasn’t even into it I did it to satisfy him. I feel useless and like all of my effort is non existence now. And anything I was trying to achieve is voided because of a stupid mistake. I don’t want a physical relationship I want something meaningful. Anyways do you have any advice for me? I want someone I can grow with and I get the feeling that I won’t get this from him sense we moved so fast and I don’t think he will understand if I don’t continue the relationship this way! Man I messed up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): Like many men, he took advantage of your good nature. And I'm a man myself, but I've seen too many friends and colleagues do similar things.I'd try placing an advert on a dating site, but make it very clear that you're looking for a long term relationship and not just brief flings. Also, don't have sex with him until you want too - at that point it should be making love, and will be all the more important.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (14 July 2009):
 Life is about second chances and I beleive God forgives. you havnt messed up or thrown anything away just learn from this and try and continue to stick to your beliefs If your really religious and need help i recommended reading the Bible the new testament especially theres many books in it that can help you
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reader, ErinPatterson +, writes (13 July 2009):
 it sounds like you are both adults. If he was persistant and you where not ready than its too late now. I am not trying to be rude but you sound like a really old fashioned kind of gal. which is ok but .. it depends on teh situation and the girl and the guy..its not like your a kid and say oh god I just gave it up..your a grown woman..bottom line if you didnt want to do it you should of said kindly..I care about you or like you but I really am not ready..you didnt so forget it move on..and dont worry about it..
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (13 July 2009):
 Well, the next time you hold on for yourself. Don't do anything with a guy just because he's pressuring you into it. If you don't feel comfortable, hold back. A good man will respect your wishes and not force or whine his way into your bed.
God put you on the earth to to walk the path of a righteous woman. Believe in yourself and believe in doing the right thing, and you can't go wrong. There will be a lot of temptations thrown your way and you will feel weak at times...we all do, we all have to deal with the challenges of being single in a crazy world. God has a plan for you though, and if you stay strong, know and stick to your standards, and have faith, a good man will be in your life sooner than you know.
Don't get down on yourself because you slipped up though. Nobody in this world is perfect and we all make mistakes. The key thing is to get back up and back on the path.
Good luck.
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