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writes:Ok to cut to the point... i think im in love with my best friend and dont know what to do about it... ok short(ish) version: it didnt start like that but her mom and dad absolutly adore me and want me to date their daughter and my parents want the samething I didn't think that would happen... yet here i am starting to fall for her and we would always joke about how we would never do something like that and resently she started talking about us dating how we would now what the other likes and dislikes and all that stuff and we are being kind of flirty back and forth and every time we hang out together i'm in a emotional turmoil i don't want to lose my best friend but i hate keeping this bottled up and i cant tell anyone because shes the one i always talked to about this kind of stuff and i don't know how to find out if she likes me.P.S. it doesn't help that im the meaning of the word "Shy"Can anyone help me through this
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): well, you guys flirting with each other is a good sign, be alittle more comfortable with each other's bodies, hands around her waist, hugs, cuddles are great. kisses too, but start slow, and when she is comfortable with your kisses, find the right time to move in for something more intimate.
drop hints to her, and dont stop being her best friend, but dont make it seem like your life revolves around hers. make her call you. absence can be a beautiful thing but too much space can kill.
try to do some activities together that build adrealine. something exciting.
i am actually trying to woe my best friend too, still trying hard at it. i almost screwed everything up when i pushed too hard and when emo on her almost... was so close to losing it all....its a long painful transition... dont rush, and whatever you do, dont jump the gun
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (14 July 2009):
 DONt do it bro when you get that close to a girl shes like kryptonite deadly stay freinds your to young for love your gonna go off diffrent directions and grow apart eventually just stay freinds with this girl going out with her will be a bad decision put it this way stars look pretty from earth but if you where up close and personal with one it would microwave you like a toaster struttle left in the oven for an hour, you can only see her from one perspective the best freind one not the gf one then what happens if you break up youll never have a freind like that again just build on your freindship and try and make it last maybe when your older and have more expereince you can persue her in a more then freind way by older i mean graduated highschool and college too you dont want to practice a relationship with a girl like this best freinds can make the best long term spouse but if you rush into it you can ruin the whole deal your young go out there have some fun and learn the game if you still have feelings for her come back a seasoned veteran and get your girl but rte now is too soon Thats not to say you cant be freinds with benefits but that would slightly change your relationship as well.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (13 July 2009):
 well why not just talk to her the same as you would normally and tell her how you feel i mean she's your best friend you can talk to her about anything right? :)
i mean you'll never know what could of been if you guys don't tell eachother how you feel.
this could be something really special and you'll never know because you never gave it a chance to blossom into something beautiful.
why not just try talking to her about it if not in person over text? or maybe msn or facebook/myspace.
you should tell her because she could be thinking the same as you what if?
don't be shy she's your best friend :)
hope this helps sweety! keep us updated :) message me you want to talk further.
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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