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writes:I have been with my children's father off and on for 18 years we are both in our early 40's but he won't commit to us. We have two gorgeous daughters together. We have had our share of trouble along the way. I have lived with him before but he had a girlfriend so it was crazy and we had to leave. But he says there isn't anyone special right now, I hope so cause we still sleep together. Now I have to move, I want him to step up to the plate, I want him to let us move in with him. He has his own home. I just don't know how to approach him. I want to do the right thing by are daughters. How do I convince him to allow us to move in but let him think it was all his idea. I want to move asap. But I do have until Sept. But I want to get the girls registered for school and settled in. Please help!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, confused09 +, writes (14 July 2009):
confused09 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for giving me some advice. hope you read my response back as well. Rainorfire your right we are grown up why don't we act like it. He can be very negative. Sometime I think he is bipolar he has really bad moods swings but I love him and I know all about the mood swings.
Have been knowing him since 1991. I Love Him plain and simple but he isn't in love with me this i know. He loves me cause I am his daughters mother.And we have Great sex!!! yes still.
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reader, confused09 +, writes (14 July 2009):
confused09 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI love him and i want us to be a family.he pays child support.he says he loves me. But not in love. Why cant wf just be a family. Raise our daughters together under the same roof. We get along fine.
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reader, confused09 +, writes (14 July 2009):
confused09 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have been in love with him for
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (14 July 2009):
 this sounds wrong your both to old to be playing games just tell him how you feel do you even love this guy at all does he love you theres so many questions if you do it your way things will turn out bad why do you want to move in with him at any rate if your just looking for a roof over your head and chilldren he has to take the chilldren atleast you need to sit down and have a responsible adult conversation with this man and stop all the scheeming what kind of example are you setting for your daughters he should also be supporting his chilldren as well if he isnt
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (14 July 2009):
 Why are you looking to hoodwink him?"let him think it was his idea" what the hell is that? Do you have so little disregard for this guy that you feel like you have to sucker him into keeping you around?I am having a hard time understanding this. Does he support either you or the daughters financially? Are you divorced. were you ever married? does he pay spousal support of some kind?I really think you need to rethink this. It doesent seem like you really care about him, so why the hell do you want to live under the same roof? Sounds like you have some ulterior motive that you have left out of your post.Can you explain further?
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