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writes:Do you think it is okay for your fiance to be chatting to an ex on msn??Don't know what they were chatting about but he tells me they don't talk anymore??
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009): good Day to you. If it is totally innocent let him show you the message traffic back and forth. Based on his answer,either ok or no will answer your doubts,
been there
Angela UK.
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reader, tony40star  +, writes (24 July 2009):
 I think most of the time its not good tell him that, My wife lied to me and told me she did not have sex with her ex. I really got frustrated when she started chatting to him I caught her out she argued with me I really don't know why but she has now stopped for all I know. When things are dicey in a relationship you dont want extra issues. But nicely tell him....Tony
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reader, uncle Frank  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 No it is not OK.If he has a relationship with you he should have a relationship with you and not with ex or y or z.Tell him nicely and gently, but if he persists: drop him.He will probably drop you anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): I agree with "trust your gut" - I would no sooner text with an ex than call her on my way to work or meet her for lunch. If he's doing this more than once a month (and more than a very few texts) then he's having an emotional exchange with her. If it's innocent, then he needs to get it out in the open and let you meet her and spend time with her. Freinds are meant to be around - ex's who one is slipping the bone to are not...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): If it was something they had to settle,ok. If he`s lying to you then whatever he`s doing doesnt matter anymore because his dishonesty alone should tell you what to do. If it was ok why is he hiding it?
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (14 July 2009):
 well sometimes exes can remain good friends i wouldnt worry about it as long as it not interfering with your relationship with him if you start being supscious or even acuse him of cheating it could ruin your relation ship. I would say dont worry about it untill you see a reason to dont tell him not to talk to his ex becuse no grown man wants to be told who he can and cannot talk to so trust him for now and dont dwell on it
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (14 July 2009):
 So your fiance is chatting on MSN to his ex.
I will answer your question with a question or three for you:
Do you think it's wrong? What is your gut telling you? Do you know for a fact that he is not talking to her anymore? Does he clear his browsing history and act secretively around the computer?
Young lady, always and I mean ALWAYS trust your gut. If it seems wrong, then most likely it is. I certainly would not be chatting with my ex if I was engaged. I would be acting like someone who is engaged to be married.
Men who take commitment seriously don't chat to their exes on MSN. I suggest you may need to remind him of what an engagement is.
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