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writes:Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix.I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives and girlfriends are complaining about these two issues.Women cheat to but usually its in retaliation you can see by the post and in society the proportion of males cheating is far higher. men make these a habit and a lifestyle completely giving in to what they know is wrong. The more you do something the better off you feel doing it the more you see others do t the easier it is to justify.Im not bashing porn watchers im bashing the ones that indulge in it succumb to it fall prey to their fantasy world while there wives are dying inside and there family falls apart.Its become so acceptable in our society there are 13 year old asking how will they know if there bf will cheat on them. Boys can be forgiven but these grown men out there running around cheating on there wives and watching porn till there keyboards fall apart are WEAK.weakness n. The condition or quality of being weak. A personal defect or failing A special fondness or inclination. If your special fondness is porn and unfaithfulness while your partner suffers You fit that description.Temptations are all around us we have to be strong and avoid them sexual temptations are the strongest of all,It doesn't matter how successful you are how much money you make how good of an athlete you are or how much weight you can pick up if you give into your temptations and allow them to become addictions and rule your life you have failed.Rite now especially in the United States there has been rash of affairs and scandals of many well known and wealthy people these kind of men get preyed on buy temptresses. Men need to be stronger they need to take care of there families find some kind of intestinal fortitude.Fathers need to instill in their sons the proper way to deal with these things and how to treat women.Temptation will always be there fantasies will always come into the mind, but a man of true strength will not bend to these things. There comes a point when you say to yourself this isn't rite but you make a conscience decision to allow your self to succumb that's the point of failure.Everyone has there moment of weakness but you learn from your mistakes and set backs you either keep climbing or let go of the rope. Addictions can be difficult to over come and any one can fall fall at times but a man needs to find the strength to pull himself up and surely his wife would help.
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reader, rolfen  +, writes (6 November 2011):
 If these men are weak, just going on about it here and calling them weak - which almost sounds like public humiliation, is not helping much, is it?
Regarding the proportion of men cheating, where did you get that information?
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reader, rolfen +, writes (6 November 2011):
I'll second "Code Warrior": It takes two to cheat.Ponder about that.Also, regarding your original post, if a man finds the inner strength to pull himself up, he does not need his wife's help anymore.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (31 December 2009):
RAINORFIRE is verified as being by the original poster of the question Interesting Bridget but i take lack of self control as a weakness.
Im not saying women are blameless and they do not cheat but in my experience the majority of married cheaters are men.Men and women tend to cheat for different reasons, for men its usually something physical and for women an emotional reasons i address that in another post.
Of course there are always exeptions and i cant talk about what i dont kno about, maybe women do cheat more but male cheating is better documented from presidents and moviestars to Golfers and family men.
Im not gonna round up the women who aid these men in cheating when they know a man is married and call them an accomplice, though they are equally at fault, the bottom line is a man should be strong enough to resist these temptations.
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reader, bridgettesamerica +, writes (24 December 2009):
nothing burns me more than a cheater.. its not a weakness. not at all. its sign that the person lacks the self control required to be in a committed relationship and or does not love the person they are in a relationship with. i was cheated on by my last boyfriend.. i cant remember anything that has confused and hurt me more than that. on the one hand you want to believe they care but .. they cheated so it cant possibly be true.. no matter how nice they are to you. and it scars a woman. makes her afraid of the next man.. makes he doubt herself.. i have looked at myself a million times picking myself apart for not being good enough because of him. i dont think they could possibly know the damage cheating causes.. or maybe im wrong.. and people who cheat just do not care who is damaged in the process
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reader, thetruthhurts  +, writes (24 December 2009):
first u cant blame men females do cheat too. im 19 years old and ive never cheated and will never cheat and have never thought about cheating. ive had a fair share of relationships and guess what out of 11 relationshipe 9 ive been cheated on by girls u have to see it both ways girls cheat too not just guys and it hurts men just as much as woman u cant take it all out on men
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): i know as many or more women who cheat. Women cheat and manage to cry and be perceived as victims somehow...while men cheat and are seen as total sleazebuckets. Why is that. We have the same resposibility to say NO! We all at some point will have the temptation presented...and we all will come face to face with our weaknesses and strengths. Its an eye opening experience. Mal
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (22 December 2009):
 I think the weakness is not in being attracted to another person, but in not having the gumption to do the right thing, admit your partner is not doing it for you anymore, and then stop wasting their time and life by cheating whilst they live out the charade of a happy (or at least committed) partnership that you have painted for them. If someone wants to do something with someone other than their partner that makes them happy, they should at least have the courtesy of allowing that partner the same opportunity to find their own happiness by cutting them loose. IMO. Applies to men and women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): Here are some irrational thoughts to ponder:
Is the proportion of males in extra-marital liaisons far higher or is it simply that men admit it and women keep quiet about it? If we were to compile the figures on the Tiger Woods episode there's a ratio of something like 14 women to 1 man engaging in hanky-panky. Of course, the fact he's a billionaire has nothing to do with it, does it? They'll probably say they did it for love. Yeah, right. Sure they did. Sexual temptation or financial temptation? Weak man or weak women? I know which I think it is.
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