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writes:Hi there, really hoping someone can help me..I've liked this guy for a good few years now and although we've grown close and I've become one of his best friends he's never wanted to be anything more. Last year he found out that I liked him and told me straight out that he didn't have feelings for me.About 6 months ago he started seeing another of my friend's which I've been finding hard to deal with -particularly as he's constantly coming to me for advice about their relationship. He's always telling me about what they do together, asking for my opinion when they have arguements or asking what presents he could buy her. For example, after the first time they kissed he actually rang me to tell me! What am I supposed to do?! I want to be there for him as a friend and offer my support when he needs it but hearing about him and his girlfriend tears me apart. I've asked him in the past not to tell me things about their relationship as it's private and should be kept between the two of them but he says he "likes telling me". He has other friends (including guy friends) so why doesn't he tell them all this instead of me? Does he know that I still like him and enjoys upsetting me or something? Another thing I've noticed is that in school he goes up to his girlfriend, hugs her and stares directly at me while he's holding her. Other people have noticed this too and I really don't understand why he does it. Is he trying to make me jealous? Any comments would be welcomed, thankyou!
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reader, petina1 +, writes (6 December 2008):
 I was going to say that he is treating you like a friend, but after reading the last bit where he is staring at you when he hugs her, that sounds like he is trying to make you jealous. When he tries to tell you about his relationship with her be more forceful and tell him you don't want to know, then he can't feed his desire to make you jealous. hope this helps.
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reader, kasey.xo  +, writes (6 December 2008):
i think he could be trying to make you jealous but at the same time feels he has to tell you. he probably trusts you with his life. and guys never like telling other guy friends about relationship problems. you could try just pushing him away but in the long run that will hurt you even more. so the best bet is to just tell him what hes doing.good luck, i know a guy like this and he's a pain so i can understand what you are going through :)
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