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writes:my problem might seem a bit silly. i lived at my boyfriends parents house for about 5months but i would always avoid his parents, i wouldnt talk to them and wouldnt come out of his bedroom until they went out. i have had some problems with his dad, he doesnt like me because i was in care and im a bit younger than my boyfriend. we have been invited over for christmas and i really want to make an effort and go. any advice??
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (5 December 2008):
 Hi there, If it were me, I would go over for the occasion, wearing a very nice subdued outfit, not a lot of make-up and my most charming smile. Be as talkative as need be, with something interesting to say, I would be engaging, and show the best face that I could. I would compliment his mother on her cooking, if she cooks, ask if you can help with whatever needs to be done. I would be gracious and I would be overly appreciative of the invitation, when I leave, and be so charming that they would think that you have matured so much, that they would be very happy that their son was with you. Seduce them with kindness, you will be amazed at the results. After all, these are people that you might be with in the future as a family. Treat them that way. The other thing is as petina said, they invited you over, that is a very good thing, they could have tried to make a statement and only invited their son, but they love him, and they feel that he cares for you and want to include you. That's class, so be as nice as you can and everyone will feel good after it is over. Take care and enjoy the holiday. Also as petina memtioned, bring a gift, I would suggest asking your boyfriend, what kind of wine his parents like. Wishing you the best.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (5 December 2008):
 my sons girlfriend who moved in 2 1/2 years ago was just like you. She used to stay in their bedroom most of the time, a bit shy I thought. Now tho' she has settled and treated this place like her own home, I can tell because she dumps her coat and stuff all over the living room. In a way at least I know she is more comfortable now. It can be a bit daunting living in someone else's house and trying to guess what they are thinking. The fact that you have been invited over Christmas is a very good sign. Take his dad a lovely present that he really likes and I'm sure you will win him over. hope this helps.
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