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*erenotincontrol
writes:Hey guys I think my relationship is failing and I really need some advice on how to fix it. We have been dating 15 months now and it has been great, After about 12 months things just started to get repetitive...We can barely text each other now we have nothing to say! My girl friend has got incredibly obsessive and SO clingy! It kills me to admit it but its so true. The obsessive part I can withstand its not the worst thing in the world like but its this clingyness which is driving me insane, Im 18 years old and she hates me drinking or getting high or off my face from legal highs. I mean fair enough Its ok to worry(not that I ever got into any trouble) but getting odd and not talking to me over it is kinda hard. And again its only over been the past few months that this is happening. Its hard to stop drinking because my friends rely on me because Im always the guy that gets the party going. Im just one of those people!Even our sex has gotten boring and dull. We tried alot of different things.We were lieing in bed while ago and when we were cuddling I just felt nothing like I used to.Please please PLEASE!! if you could give me advice I would really really appreciate it. Im so confused...Have I lost all feelings for her? Is it just that our relationship needs a spark? Is it time to move on?:(Please be honest.As I said. ANYTHING you will say will help me so much.Thank you xxxx
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reader, werenotincontrol +, writes (5 December 2008):
werenotincontrol is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYa thats true "petina1"
But Im not an alcoholic or anything...Id drink about 3 times in a month.
Im not a heavy drinker, Ya I love to have a few drinks but I dont induldge in it ya know?
Another thing which I forgot to mention is its very reptitive our relationship...Like I could possibly set up a bot to send what messages and when in a day
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reader, petina1  +, writes (4 December 2008):
 You should really think about the drinking. If she is concerned about it then it could be something that could get out of hand in the future. It's a well known fact that alcohol reduces the sperm count, so that could also be a factor in your sex life. You admit that you like a drink and so she's not all wrong is she in worrying. Try keeping off the drink for a month and see how much energy you have for other things. Drinking in moderation is fine but it is right up there with subsstance use as far as damaging effects on the body. I'm not suggesting you stop drinking altogether because a drink to socialize now and again doesnt hurt but merely suggesting that by trying to keep off it for a month to see if you feel a difference in your 'wellbeing'. hope this helps.
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reader, Jadedgirl +, writes (4 December 2008):
I am afraid that for a lot of people the 'Honeymoon period' of a relationship where everything seems great, wears off after six months to a year. Thats when you really discover if you want to be with someone. I would say that if you are having this many doubts its time to move on. If you are not sure if you are still in love then you probably aren't. If you have started being attracted to other girls at all then i would definitely say its time to go.
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