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writes:Ok I don't know if this is a problem, I'm 22 and I'm a horn dog. I get easily turned on, but if I'm not having sex and we're just getting freaky before we do anything, I tend to lose my erection, could this be because sometimes I get a little nervous or shy? I can stand naked in front of my girl but this sometimes happens. When she's laying down in front of me and we're about to have sex, I lose my erection, not fully, but I like it to be as hard as when she was turning me on. When I'm penetrating her though, it is as hard as a rock. Ok now, after ejaculation, I often still have an erection, but there was a time that she gave me oral sex until I ejaculated, it took a bit but she enjoyed it and I enjoyed it more, it was a ver very intense umm... male orgasm? I was really turned on and I wanted to keep going but I had lost my full erection, she climbed on top of me and we both tried to get my erection back, it was halfway there but it stayed there, I barely even felt my penis, we tried for about 5-7 minutes and nothing. Is this normal, what the heck happened? At least I did my job afterwards to satisfy her, I'm not a selfish person.
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reader, Felina  +, writes (7 December 2008):
 Hi again.Hey,I think youre forgeting something...Forgive me if i m wrong but I think youre just focussing in the physical part.In my opinion,sex is almost entirely psycological.For instance,If you are alone masturbating and just not thinking about anything stimulating,do you even get an erection?I think not...
Maybe the problem isnt youre body.Maybe you just need some mental stimulation.Not that im saying youre relationship has a problem.But I think there is always a time when a couple needs to upgrade the sex relationship.Why not sharing some crazy fantasies,telling each other about them,make up stories about them?Or maybe watch some porn together?Do it very relaxed,just to see where it goes...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay, but what about randomly losing my erection when I'm about to, it gets frustrating sometimes because, she's like right there all ready and begging, and I have to play with it a bit to get it back up completely. It really sucks to try and penetrate when it's all bending. I do give her a good time though, she always has an orgasm before I do, which that's another question I will be asking soon. Usually I give her over 30 minutes of non-stop action, well maybe a little break because she needs rest when she has an orgasm. There might be a connection to that don't you think? Kind of hard to keep an erection at first, but the good thing is that I last in bed for the first round. Now I do enjoy very much pleasuring her and that does turn me on, but I get her so into the mood that she begs for penetration. The best way to get me fully erected is when she gives me oral, but if she doesn't then some or most of the times it's really hard for me to.. "get it up" lol.
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reader, Felina +, writes (4 December 2008):
Hi!Im a 25 year old girl,and ,well I think I already have some experience about men in bed.And maybe you have the idea that the man must stay completly hard along all the experience...but I dont think thats the way it works.
Ofcourse if youre horny,you must have it hard and big,but sex is not only about the penetration.I like to take as long as I can manage,before penetration.And I find it perfectly normal if a man is hard,but then a little bit less hard,and then hard again.And then he penetrates me,then he comes.
After he comes the first time,maybe it takes a little more to make him go again.A tittle verbal stimulation maybe.
I dont think there is anything wrong with you.Hope I helped!
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reader, petina1  +, writes (4 December 2008):
 You know what they say 'practise makes perfect'.. Don't worry too much, the more you think about it the more you will create a problem. Just enjoy what you have. Try doing other things while this is happening and I'm sure you'll be okay. hope this helps.
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