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writes:Hey Aunts!I have a really strange issue on my hands here. I met a guy about a month ago, we have been chit chatting and getting to know each other over the phone etc. His work hours make it challenging for us to meet up too often...but we try to at least. We are both looking for jobs...so we have things in common if you get what I am saying.Yesterday, was a very creepy day. My dad took me to service my car...and he was asking me....who I am speaking to and laughing on my phone...so I said the guys name....may dad said..."are you serious"...I was like uuhh yeah...he apparently knows him VERY well...knows his family etc. Now my dad went to his dad's funeral a few weeks ago. So I just laughed that off.Then it goes even more creepy. I took my mom to buy dinner...and we were at the drive thru...again...I'm talking to my friend on the phone, so I showed her. My mom and I are super close. And I also mentioned to her that " hey...dad says that he knows him"...and told her what dad said. She had this shocked to hell look on her face. Now I just met this guy and have no idea of personal life or anything. Now my Dad cheated on my mom for a really long time with one woman. Turns out my friend is this woman's nephew. And wait...hold on...not only did my dad date his aunty, but initially, he used to date his mother!! So when my dad said he knows him really well....he REALLY knows him well. Nope he is not my dad's son...lol.Thing is...we are their children and we were not really exposed to all that went on back in that day. So yep, he knows my name and my last name which is a really unique one, but I don't think it clicked with him....and like me, he held off on telling his mom about me. I only JUST mentioned it to my parents yesterday because they were being nosey..Does anyone have ANY ideas what I should do right now? I like him a lot, he is a nice guy, we get along and have an extremely good laugh together. HE is one of the rare good men that you find around....but this is way past creepy. Thanks aunties...sorry it was so long.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2011): Don't underestimate your mums feelings. Your dad slept with both this chaps mother and her sister???
You may not be related but this is creepy alright. By dating this guy you will be hurting your mother. Just think about it....
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, Not sure where OhGetReal got that he was not interested in me....I just mentioned in my letter that we spend an entire day speaking to each other on the phone...so it's either he wants a brain tumor or he is actually interested. We both have the idea that we tell our parents about whoever we are interested in WHEN we actually start dating them...that way we don't waste our time letting our parents get to know someone when it is just a passing phase. He isn't my half brother or anything...we've ruled that out. My mom said yesterday that if I started dating him, she would be really pissed at me...and my dad...well...he is not bothered really.So thanks for everyone's help. I spoke to the guy and flat out asked him if he was intersted in me and his response was....why wouldn't I be...you're amazing.Now just to get mom to turn around from her hurts...but we'll see how it goes.Again, thanks to everyone for their responses. It is deeply appreciated.
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reader, OhGetReal  +, writes (4 June 2011):
 It's not that creepy, adults sometimes make mistakes. If you want to be friends with him and if he wants to be friends with you fine.
It doesn't seem he is all that interested in dating you though, so I'd be careful there.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (4 June 2011):
 Sounds very complicated..try a DNA test first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): Firstly, you're not related in any way, so it's perfectly ok and legal to pursue this boy.
Maybe you should talk to your parents about it. You said you were close to your mum... ask her how she'd feel if you started to date him. Could there possibly be part of the story they haven't told you?
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