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writes: Ok so I have been married to a woman for a year now and we dated for one and a half years b4 we got married. I think i love her but there are a couple of problems or more. She is very demanding, doesnt work, doesnt clean, very rude to me and doesnt appriciate me, and makes me feel like I am wrong in every situation. I know it was love I married for but I dont know if thats what I got. I dont know what to do her best friend and my friends say leave her but I am scared she has a son that I have been dad to since he was 3 months old now I feel stuck and scared what do I do? I know I am not happy.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 May 2011):
 Well I don't think you should be thinking of giving up on marriage so quickly. This is your marriage not your friends and you shouldn't be listening to them. Plus if her best friend is telling you to leave your wife well then she is not much of a best friend. Dont listen to other people do what in your opinion is the best thing to do, not what your friends say you should do.
Ok so it is clear that you married for love, but you feel at the moment that you are not getting it, this can be a normal feeling after the honey moon period is over. But you need to fight for marriage. Dont just give up on it. Do you even communicate with your wife and tell her how you are feeling? Thats where to start, be open and honest with your wife and tell her how she is making you feel and ask her if she can work on showing you more love. Maybe you could both change for the better. Try and compromise and see if you can both work on improving the marriage.
If you don't feel that is working well maybe you could both try marriage counselling and see how that goes for you both. You should never stay with somebody just because they have a child and you feel responsible but dont give up on marriage so quick either without trying to work on it. Good luck and all the best.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (28 May 2011):
 could b you need to listen to your friends but retain custody of the child cuz if she doesn't love you it's hard to see how she could love the boy.
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