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writes:Aren't cuddles just meant for your lover as it's an initmate thing, what do you think of this, is the action of cuddling friends accpetable? (I don't cuddle my friends nor my family as I find it werid) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2011): I do it all the time with my 3 best friends and with my brother and never with someone who I date...cz I think this is something I can't do with someone unless I love him or her,my gf keeps asking me to do it but I never do...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2011): Cuddling with family, gay male or female (heterosexual) friends is okay by me.
Cuddling with any other person who could have a sexual interest in her is not acceptable to me nor is it with her, so I don't do that either. Seeing as I'm definitely not going to be cuddling my male friends nor my siblings who have all grown to the age where that would be weird, then I just don't cuddle other people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2011): I'm not in a relationship yet I do like sosmone, she was the first person to cuddle me for 5 months and I now I only cuddle her, I did cuddle my sister once though, only to show her what one was.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (1 June 2011):
 I too find it weird to see others hugging and acting intamate when they're not lovers. For example there are these two sisters that are always hugging in church. I thought they were lovers until I was told(by my wife) no, they're sisters and tey're just very close. Yeah well, in my upbringing they're a little too close. I'm OK with hjugs and arms around the shoulder etc. but practically making out is just weird for pete's sake.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (1 June 2011):
 All is relative and people are, in the end, all different. What you think is weird is another's normal, and there really are no rules that all couples need to obey. You and her are the ones that decide the rules of your relationship. The outside world has nothing to say in this matter.
If you and her do not agree, you need to compromise. That means you need to give a little and she needs to give a little. If she's used to cuddling, she can cuddle, but limit it to family or close friends, for example. Or limit it to only cuddling with female friends.
There is no right or wrong, all that matters is what you want and what she wants.
But, to give you a glimpse of reality in my own relationship, my boyfriend plays/tickles/cuddles with his friends, both male and female. I also cuddle with my female friends, I don't really have any male friends. Cuddling can be seen as flirting, and indeed is flirting, if there is a romantic interest presence. But, if it is strictly friendly, and neither friend is romantically interested in the other friend, cuddling is only nice and doesn't harm the relationship.
I'd feel uneasy about a former boyfriend/girlfriend/crush cuddling with a person who's in a relationship though, as I'd be nervous if the relationship is strictly friendly or not.
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reader, confused76  +, writes (1 June 2011):
Cuddles are innocent, they don't have to be reserved to just a romantic partner. I have studied psychology and even in psychiatry cuddling is seen as a healthy and natural thing to do with people whom you care about. I cuddle my family and friends, there is nothing wrong with it. There is only a problem if a total stranger wants a cuddle from you. In the end it is up to each individual person though.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (1 June 2011):
 I will hug my friends both male and female
i kiss my family and friends hello and goodbye...
i only cuddle with my under age children or my partner...
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