Husband slept with gorgeous coworker. Is it unreasonable to ask him to find another job?
Q. My husband had an affair with a gorgeous female co-worker. He felt guilty and admitted everything to me. I am devastated but would like to work on rebuilding our marriage. Am I being unreasonable for asking him to find another job? They see ea...
A. 22 June 2013: I would tell my hubby to find another job or its over or he could ask to be transferred to another department so he doesn't have to see her. I know you want to work on your marriage but does he? GOOD LUCK with whatever you both decided ... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity to a webcam girl?
Q. Hi all, I'm a 26 yr old male virgin. I saw this girl on one of her online webcam shows and found out she's a flight attendant flying into my city. She made a proposition that she will offer sex for money. I am a virgin and want to know what sex fe...
A. 20 June 2013: Don't do it, it does nit sound like see is a flight attendant. Go out and have fun the right girl will come when you are not looking, broaden your social life and join new hobbies where you can meet new people and make friends.... (read in full...)
He knows I've had a tubal ligation. Yes I've put on a little weight. But does he need to keep on asking me if I'm pregnant?
Q. My SO keeps asking.me.if im pregnant? ive had tubal ligation done 6 years ago after having my one and only daughter who he claim has his ... hes never been married or has had a baby or has never really thought about having a baby until i came alo...
A. 26 January 2013: You can have it reversed back as its only the tubes tied or you could go down the IVF route instead. Good luck... (read in full...)
He knows I've had a tubal ligation. Yes I've put on a little weight. But does he need to keep on asking me if I'm pregnant?
Q. My SO keeps asking.me.if im pregnant? ive had tubal ligation done 6 years ago after having my one and only daughter who he claim has his ... hes never been married or has had a baby or has never really thought about having a baby until i came alo...
A. 24 January 2013: Your a bit young and with only one child to have tubal ligation most doctors wont do this operation on someone so young. Also i think you also want a second baby to and you can still become pregnant with a tubal ligation as 1 in 200 women that have ... (read in full...)
Am I being a good boyfriend.
Q. As of spring of this year me and my girlfriend will have been dating one year. Throughout this year we have had our fair share of troubles like most young couples and I am interested in knowing if I am doing anything wrong and if I am what I can do ...
A. 24 January 2013: Good on you by being a nice guy but I think you should leave her as she's playing games with you and this other lad too. Enjoy your life being single as it seems that you have a great future ahead of you if stay with the military.... (read in full...)
I'm almost sure b/f cheated but he's saying I did and gave him a STD!
Q. So I'll try to make this short, I have been dating this guy for about a year and a half and we have had a tough time, there hasn't been any cheating as far as I know, except the one time about six months ago I caught him exchanging naked pics with ...
A. 24 January 2013: This guy is a rat and its clear he has been cheating as hes blaming you for his cheating. I have know a few men and women too that have done the same thing that your ex has been doing and blaming the innocent party for giving an std. Get yourself ... (read in full...)
My bf always talks about his married female boss
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years always talks about his boss (female, 3 yrs older ho him) even in bed. I feel this totally irritating, told him lot of times not to talk to her when he is in bed with me, he says ok, but always switches the topic back t...
A. 24 January 2013: Poor you I would not be with this guy as he clearly has a crush on his boss. Tell him that its hurting your feelings and if you talked about another bloke the same way as he does about his boss how would he feel? If nothing changes after a set time ... (read in full...)
How do I help someone get better at their hobby without being perceived as critical?
Q. I have a friend who is just starting (a year ago) to get into a hobby that I have practiced since I was a kid. I am 39 now so it's been over 30 years since I started. A lot of things are not going right for her and she asks me for advice. ...
A. 24 January 2013: I would advise her to go to a starter course at a local college to help her that way she can't complain if your being judge mental. ... (read in full...)
In the UK can you date your step sister?
Q. is it against the law for you and your step sister to be boyfriend and girlfriend in the uk...
A. 18 November 2012: no its not but you should talk to your parents first if they are ok with it then date if not don't.... (read in full...)
My teen son is using my lingerie items when he masturbates. How should I handle this delicate situaiton?
Q. I am a single mom and my 13yr old is using my unwashed lingerie items to "help himself" while he masturbates. I found of my personal lingerie items under his bed and it is clear what he is doing with them. We have alwways been open with one ano...
A. 13 September 2012: Hi i just read this to my husband and he agrees buy him a gift card or buy it yourself and say I have got you a present but tell him to open it in his room with a little quip as he's going up stairs 'its so that you can have your own and leave my ... (read in full...)
I threw my husband out due to our arguing disturbing my very sick mother. Is there a way to make things right again? Or move on?
Q. hi guys im in need of some advice and would love some help with this situation . going back 6 months ago i found out that my mum had breast cancer which was a major shock to the system however my two sisters and I have helped her through her ops ...
A. 7 September 2012: don't throw away your marriage just yet try going to relate and see if that can help both of you. He might of be a bit insensitive to how your feeling over your parents illness and death but also put yourself in his shoes to you neglected him too. ... (read in full...)
He's engaged, his fiancé is pregnant, but WE have feelings for each other. What should I do?
Q. I have a friend who is engaged to be married but is very unhappy in his relationship. We have recently discovered that we have strong feelings for eachother. The issue is his fiancee is 5 months pregnant (unplanned). We would never act on those ...
A. 27 August 2012: Remove yourself from this situation and find a man who is free and let this guy sort himself out and do the right thing for his child. At the moment he'e having his cake and eating it too. Delete his number from your phone and any social sites yo... (read in full...)
Years ago he was my foster Dad. No blood relationship. No legal adoption. Can we now legally have a relationship? I am pregnant to him
Q. I grew up in foster care bouncing from home to home and shelter to shelter. When I was 16 I was placed with foster parents that were very close in age 23 and 25. I remained there until I aged out of the system at 18. While living there my fos...
A. 27 August 2012: i see nothing wrong with your relationship at all your both adults and you didn't start a relationship until years later so i say enjoy it hand congrats on the baby.... (read in full...)
What else can I do? Worried I might be infertile, but the Doctors have said come back later. Do not want to test me yet.
Q. Hi. I know this isn't a health forum but I have run out of solutions. I am worried about my fertility and the doctors won't do a thing until I am "trying" (which won't be for a good few more years!). By then it could surely be too late? I started ...
A. 17 August 2012: I have been were you are now my periods didn't start till i was really late and then some months i went with out on for 6 months i was trying for a baby when this happened and i got my hopes up that i was pregnant when the doctors told me i wasn't i ... (read in full...)
My fiance lied and never told me his ex had been pregnant
Q. I am 7 weeks pregnant, living with my fiance who I have been with for 3 years but only lived with for the last 2 and half years. When we found out we were pregnant my fiance was beyond excited...I on the other hand am a ball of mixed emotions. Last ...
A. 22 July 2012: no you don't have a right to know as this was about them, he had a choice to make to tell you or not he choose not to tell you about his ex's miscarriage. personally i would have a heart to heart with your boyfriend and really talk to him about the ... (read in full...)
Help me! My wife has become stupid!
Q. When I met my wife I was mesmerized by her beauty and brains. Somewhere over the last 20 years, although she is just as beautiful, she has lost all of her wits. She throws tantrums after not being able to figure out the most mundane things like pri...
A. 2 June 2012: she needs to see a doctor A.S.A.P ... (read in full...)
How to I get my point across to my g/f about her drinking without upsetting her?
Q. A little backstory: Because of family history and other reasons, I do not drink. I don't tell others not to drink (though I may try and limit when I can tell they are going overboard). Last summer, my gf went on a trip to a foreign country. Up to ...
A. 6 May 2012: Oh my where to start first things first your girlfriend has a drinking problem she is an alcoholic. You cannot help her she needs to help herself by admitting she has a problem with alcohol. Secondly there is help out there for her at local groups ... (read in full...)
Any advice for a breadwinner about to buy a house?
Q. Hi every1. I'm 32 yrs an in a relationship bt not married. I'm a breadwinner at home. I'm about to buy a house with my boyfriend an move out at home. My problem is I'm not sure what's going to happen as I don't know what to do as ill have pay school ...
A. 6 May 2012: one word springs to mind for me and that is 'BANK' you are a free bank for your family why do you have to pay everything for them if they want it they can get it themselves. I did the same thing as you I worked all hours to earn money just for my ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with cheating ex seeing our son and him bringing the woman he cheated on me with?
Q. MOD NOTE: Poster wants advice from women in the UK Just after some advice off women in the uk please. I am in court has my ex wants access to our little boy. I have never denied him access and I have always tried to get him to see our son but he h...
A. 18 April 2012: Firstly well done for letting have contact with his son. supervised visits are only for biological parents for the first couple of weeks any way after that they can see mum or dads new plaything. You can ask for the partner to be banned from seeing ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling mad right now! My best friend asked me if she could date my ex and I said yes and now they're together. How could she do this to me?
Q. There is this guy (who was sort of a close friend), and I lost my virginity to him in October. Long story short, after it happened I had to go through a lot of stuff and had troubles in my life. And now this guy likes one of my best friends....
A. 1 April 2012: Get over yourself, you are acting like a bitter ex-girlfriend,
Your friend asked you if you were ok if they dated they are now happy and maybe they were better suited together than him and you and to top it all you don't even like this guy anym... (read in full...)
Why don't I love my brother?
Q. Hi agony aunts! I'm having a problem with love. Not romantically though. My problem is I don't really love one of my brothers. I have 4 sibs. 2 brothers and 2 sisters. (All halves two at each house.) I love my first born brother and used to love my ...
A. 5 February 2012: stop being mean to your brother he must be feeling unloved at the moment i bet he was the baby before your sister came along and now he's no longer the baby and everyone is giving the baby more attention and he is feeling unloved so he's way is to ... (read in full...)
Black specks in underware mean?
Q. Black specks in my husband briefs after washing; what does that mean if anything?...
A. 30 January 2012: some black specks can be old blood ask him has he been having problems with his bowels as you didn't say how old your hubby is. A doctors appointment may be needed.... (read in full...)
A cycle 18 days long?
Q. Hi guys,Is it normal to have an eighteen day menstrual cycle?Its January and i am having my second period this month.Thanks!...
A. 30 January 2012: 18 day cycle is not right you do need to see someone like your GP do you bleed after sex too and have you ever had a smear test if not book yourself in for one.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is angry with me for wanting to go on a diet
Q. ive been thinking about going on celebrity slim diet, my friend went on it and she lost loads of weight, so i asked her about it, and she mentioned it to my boyfriend at work and he went mad at me.. Its nice to know he likes me how i am, but this is ...
A. 30 January 2012: firstly any guy that tells you what you can do or not do is not a good thing talk to him about why he is not happy about you dieting. secondly I have noticed a lot of people on here has got the wrong end of the stick on the celebrity slim diet it ... (read in full...)
My worry over my smell is destroying our intimacy.
Q. I am confused about the way I am feeling at the moment. I have been dating my boyfriend for nine months now and things are going generally well. At the beginning of our relationship, I was very keen and 'all over him'. Lately, however, I am...
A. 11 January 2012: We women worry about anything but as he has told you you don't smell but you can smell it. Your worrying over nothing unless your having white/creamy discharge their is nothing wrong with you. Enjoy having oral sex with each other and go with the ... (read in full...)
My friend kissed me and I'm gay, I'm not sure what to do now
Q. My really close female friend kissed me today and I'm kind of freaking out :/ I'm gay and in the year above her. I'm openly gay at school but not to the point of being obvious and she knows that I wouldn't be interested for obvious reasons....
A. 11 January 2012: I think it depends on the type of kiss, Was it a kiss on the cheek, on the lips or full on snog. The first two are not that bad even for a gay person so freaking out was the wrong thing to do but if it was a full on snog with her temping to use ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is sick and wont go to the doctor, I'm really worried any idea of what he could be sick with?
Q. Hey guys this is more of a health question but i cant find any help any were on the internet so i was hopeing you guys could help. Well my boyfriend is 18 and about two days ago he started feeling sick. He will feel really hot and break out in to a ...
A. 27 October 2011: sounds like flu the best thing you can do is give him some paracetamol and lots of fluids no tea/ coffee of alcohol. ^ I know candid cally is saying its a side affect to coming of certain drugs but that is not always the case if he is also suff... (read in full...)
I like being happy but why do people at school say I'm retarded because I like to laugh?
Q. I'm a very happy person that likes to smile and laugh and for most times no reason I can't help it, I love to laugh and smile. At school people be mean to me and say I'm retarded because I like to laugh and smile. They say I shouldnt be happy that ...
A. 26 October 2011: don't worry the people that calls you names are just sad and jealous because you have no worries and that you are naturally a happy person so what ever you do don't let them get to you down. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is flirting with transmen
Q. I'm 25, my boyfriend's 27, we've been together for over 5 years, lived together in our own home for 2 years now. We have a young daughter as well - he's the father, I'm not a single mum etc. - she was born out of wedlock to be technical. In the la...
A. 23 October 2011: Firstly he can't take your kid as you are mum the courts very rarely give the guys the kids. Secondly he is cheating who cares if it with another man he is still cheating. please change your phone number get BT to give you a new one and then take ... (read in full...)
Ideas for a romantic date?
Q. Hi :) I need to arrange a date for the guy im seeing and i to go on. Last week he took me out in the evening and set up a picnic by a lake with candles - it was so romantic! Now i feel its my turn to arrange something but i have no idea wha...
A. 23 October 2011: depends on your fella and what he likes, If he is into football tickets to a match and kebabs afterwards would be a great date. A fella into computer games a trip to a game expo where they show off all the lastest game consoles and games would ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and on bed rest which is why I'm living with my parents, but should I move out?
Q. i never thought i'd be in a position asking people for help but i have no real friends that at this moment i would care to really hear what they have to say . you see I'm married and just recently i found out that i'm now expecting my 1st baby in ...
A. 20 October 2011: you are not insane but you do need to move out asap because if you don't you could lose the baby. Why are you not in your own home you can still do the bed rest and look after your self at home. you could ask a friend to help with housework and you ... (read in full...)
Do I follow my heart and move far away from my kids or try to stick it out?
Q. Hi again guys. Since last time I asked a question, I made the decision to end the marriage, and filed for divorce a few months ago. Nothing was getting any easier, and my soon to be ex even started going on dating sites while I was trying hard to ...
A. 6 October 2011: Go with the job because you need to provide for your kids and you can't do that with your own company in the situation its in. You can still see your kids using skype and holidays, you could always email them and talk over the telephone. Don't ... (read in full...)
Husband goes away for extended periods of time. I don't think this is fair!
Q. I need advice. Me and my husband of 9 months have been at item for 8 years. In this last few years he did a bit of backpacking with his mates and i guess you could say he got a bit of the travel bug. Im not a big fan of travelling to farway places ...
A. 5 October 2011: Unreasonable you KNOW he is the one being unreasonable and why did you not have this talk about what you both wanted out of a marriage before you married each other. If my husband did this to me I would take my kids and leave him to his adve... (read in full...)
Should I tell my ex that I aborted his baby?
Q. My ex broke up with me through email in August to reunite with his former girlfriend in another country (I had no knowledge of her existence until he mentioned her in the email as the reason for leaving me). He dumped me in August this year and left ...
A. 5 October 2011: I'm sorry that you had to abort your baby but you did the right thing for you I don't think it is worth tell your ex that you were pregnant as he already left you for his other girlfriend. By telling him now it will only hurt you more, have you seen ... (read in full...)
Have I moved in too soon? Blended family problems. My son is suffering. Should I try living alone with my son instead?
Q. I left my husband whom I was in a relationship with for 10 years last December. We were very close, but I never really loved him. I am now living with my new partner who is going through a horrible divorce. We have been together for 8 mont...
A. 5 October 2011: Please do what is right for your son please move out and build a home with just you too I know that you love your boyfriend and moving out will not change that it may make it better but your son is being bullied by another person no matter if she is ... (read in full...)
Why do people expect their significant others to stop seeing the mother/father of their child even though they are together?
Q. Hi, I have seen alot of questions on this site an also on TV and once with my aunt. Why do people expect their bf/gf/husband/wife/fiance to stop seeing the mother/father of their child because they're together? For example, lets say a girl and a bo...
A. 27 September 2011: It's a macho thing the new guy feels the other guy is a threat and wants to remove all trace of the girls past ie be the new father for girlfriends kids.
He has no rights to do this kids needs to see their dads. The mum needs to stand up to spea... (read in full...)
Is it likely a new Bf may lose interest after learning about the STD? I want to break up with my bf.
Q. I love my boyfriend, but our relationship seems hopeless, and I think I probably should end it. This seems like an odd reason to hesitate, but I am worried that I will have trouble finding someone new because I was recently diagnosed as being HPV ...
A. 27 September 2011: I don't class HPV as an STD because the only way you can be tested is with a smear test and women only have them evey 3 to 5 years where with STD's everyone should be tested after each ex boy/girlfriend and again one month after starting a new ... (read in full...)
I wish my b/f could have sex and kiss like my ex!
Q. I have been dating this guy for 2 years now. He's not a great kisser and the sex is pretty bad - he doesn't last. I have talked to him about the sex and kissing, even guided him through how I like it. But he slips back into the his bad kissing the ...
A. 26 September 2011: have you ever told your boyfriend the sex could be better or make it better instead, men are not mind readers they need to be told how you like. Its the same with kissing, you say you don't want to be with your ex but you wish the sex was the same ... (read in full...)
On off boyfriend of 4 years doesn't want to date but wants to borrow money!
Q. Hi Cupid, I've been dating this Scorpio Guy on and off for about 4 years. Now he had broke up with me and told me that we were not compatible but wants to borrow money and he says he's in love with me. I'm so confused what kind of game is he playing ...
A. 21 September 2011: He is using you for your money don't give him any and change your number so he has no way of contacting you. men like him are cads and have no way of dating you or anyone else. Find someone that wants you and not your money.... (read in full...)
How can I make everyone happy this christmas, and still spend it with my boyfriend?
Q. I know xmas is a few months away but its already causing me stress! I met my boyfriend at uni on the first day, two years ago and we've lived together since. A few weeks into our relationship i met his parents who live in the London area and ...
A. 14 September 2011: I did have the same problem as you my bf's dad was up north and my mum in the south so each year we rotated who we stayed with one year my mum for Christmas and New Year with his dad the next year Christmas with dad and New Year with mum it kept ... (read in full...)
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