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writes:ive been thinking about going on celebrity slim diet, my friend went on it and she lost loads of weight, so i asked her about it, and she mentioned it to my boyfriend at work and he went mad at me.. Its nice to know he likes me how i am, but this is about me, right? im a size 12 and between 11-11.5 stone.. am i right to be feeling a little mad and upset about his comment?
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (2 February 2012):
OP you have good advice below. Quick diets may have some effect but often end up with more weight being put on as the body prepares itself for the next time you try and starve it!! Much better to modify long term what you eat and do. Cut out some of the snackfood, eat more fruit, but most of all get regular exercise. Exercise can be really boring but if you do it with someone else its fun, especially dancing or a team activity.Explain to your boyfriend why you want to diet and talk nicely but tell he isnt being nice by getting mad, that doesn't help. Get him to join in and do something fun together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2012): Hi, id just like to thank you all for your advice and have made alot of thought provoking suggestions that i will take into consideration! Thanks :) x
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (1 February 2012):
 What you do with your body is your choice.. whether its to eat bad food (which is unattractive) or keep it in shape. Its your decision and he should support it, not try to control it. If some brod told me to stop lifting weights cause she didnt "like it"... she'd be out my door.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2012): I got angry at my girlfriend for the same thing. I was neither right nor wrong and neither was she in my opinion.
If you want to go on some idiotic celebrity diet that will last a little while before you regain the weight, risk your health and probably make you less attractive to him then go ahead, as you said it's your body, your choice.
I saw no point in being angry with her after a while though because there was no reason to fight over it, she tried the diet and it was a load of crap, especially seeing as what we cook at home is already very healthy. I too was very fat and changed my diet to a healthy one and exercised to get trimmed and toned but she wanted to do the fad thing that all her friends were trying. My girlfriend has a naturally round figure and will always have a little bit of extra softness because that's her natural physique even doctors have told her that's the case and when she developed a serious illness having that bit extra saved her ass and helped her to fight it off because she wasted away during it, it was when she herself deathly thin like that she decided she way preferred the healthy round version of herself. Being really skinny is not natural for a lot of women and it takes a hell of a lot of work to get to that stage and an equal amount of work to maintain it.
If this is about you OP, then you need to sit down and ask yourself do you really need to lose weight. If so why? Are those reasons really food enough? If so then what's the hurry, why don't you just set up an exercise program and make your diet healthier with help from your doctor or a nutritionist instead of going on some insane diet to drop weight quickly then gain it all again during the summer when you have to eat normally again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2012): What was his comment?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2012): You're boyfriend is probably worried as you're a healthy size but want to go on a celebrity (aka extreme) diet. I agree with him. It isn't all about you, when you have friends, family and partners they care about you and so are going to give you their opinion. They're a part of your life.
It's ultimately up to you of course and if you must go on a diet then just do it the old fashioned way - healthy eating (not starvation) and exercise. A celebrity diet won't be sustainable and when you stop you'll just put all the weight back on. Unless for example you fancy eating baby food/toothpaste etc for the rest of your life.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (31 January 2012):
 Women have a very strange idea of what is attractive and what is proper weight, and what is a normal body. Women also have a strange obsession with very unhealthy diets. In this, it's usually best to take a man's advice.
You don't give your height.. but size 12 is a good size.. it's my normal size. The average UK woman is size 14 to 16, so your not fat at all.
Celebrity slim diets are not recommend by any doctor or dietician in the UK. Celebrity slim diets work for celebrities who have people to cook for them, who have personal trainers and don't need to go to work everyday. Celebrity diets are made for people who go in front of the camera, because the camera puts on 5 pounds and makes you look fatter. In normal life, these celebrities are underweight and unhealthy.
Women who do diets, get fatter. The recommended way to lose weight is to do it slowly (2 pounds a week) eat a sensible, healthy diet, including vegetables, fruit, and lots of water and to do exercise. This is the way to lose weight, keep it off for ever and actually attractive as well as being healthy.
Your boyfriend is the sensible one here. You'll spend tons of money and you'll give up because it's not working. Even if it works, as soon as you stop the diet, you'll put on all the weight you lost and more.
If you want to lose weight properly, then contact your doctor for advice, or go to a reputable company like "Weight watchers" (they calorie count and don't ban foods, but help you eat fattening foods sensibly) Celebrity slimming diets don't work.
Pick up the book "Fat is a feminist issue", it's a little out of date, but it explains very clearly why dieting doesn't work and just makes you fat and cranky.
Your wrong to feel upset with him, you should feel upset with yourself for being fooled by people who tell you nonsense.
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reader, neomum +, writes (30 January 2012):
firstly any guy that tells you what you can do or not do is not a good thing talk to him about why he is not happy about you dieting.secondly I have noticed a lot of people on here has got the wrong end of the stick on the celebrity slim diet it is not a diet made for or endorced by celebrities as I work for one of the pharmacies that are selling it, it is a diet where you have a shake for breakfast one for lunch and a proper dinner that don't contain any carbs you can have two snacks of some fruits/nuts or snack bar between breakfast and lunch. If you decided to do this diet then do it with your local Rowlands pharmacy as they will weight you each week and keep an eye on your weight loss and give you receipe cards with in each weight loss weighin and with every stone you lose you can get money off vouchers.Good luck with what ever you choose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2012): I doubt your boyfriend would "go mad" had you just started eating healthier and exercising. I think anyone would be concerned when someone they care about chooses destructive dieting practices because they are aimed at the short term and often not healthy.
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reader, Candid Cally  +, writes (30 January 2012):
Diets that cause someone to lose quite a bit of weight very fast almost always have repercussions once the diet is stopped. Usually, the individual puts the weight back on (sometimes even more), and it can start a long-term cycle of engaging in fad diets to lose the re-gained weight.
The best way to lose weight is to begin an exercise program and cut out sweets and soda. If you exercise and eat healthy meals, you will not only lose fat, you will gain muscle, feel healthier, and you will keep off excess weight without stressing your body out or risking the miserable dieting cycle.
Finally, you seem to already be a healthy weight and size. Before starting any diet, please talk to your doctor and receive professional advice as to whether you should begin a diet, or if simply changing your diet and exercising more would be best for your health.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (30 January 2012):
 He has no right to be angry at you for wanting to lose weight. HOWEVER, those diets are not a good way to lose weight. You may drop the weight quickly, but you'll gain it back even faster. The only way to both lose weight and keep it off is to continue the habits you had when you were dieting. The dieting is more of a training session to get you used to a new healthier routine. So those gimmick diets may help you lose the weight really fast, but they don't help you stay that weight.
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reader, N91 +, writes (30 January 2012):
 He has no right to be mad at you for wanting to diet, but as honeypie stated I don't think 'celebrity diets' are the way to go about it.
Just research one that will work for you and couple it with exercise and watch the weight drop off.
Good luck.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 January 2012):
 I think as long as you intend to stay healthy your weight is your business, though I DO think there are way healthier ways to lose weight then various" celebrity diets" such as eating right and exercising.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2012): I think it is a little harsh for him to get mad at you for wanting to get in shape, although maybe he was just concerned about that particular diet. I'm sure if you wanted to add more vegetables and cut out unhealthy foods from your daily meals, he wouldn't have a problem, and you would lose weight all the same, but in a controlled, healthy way. His anger might be a sign of insecurity about his own body and about your relationship, and fear that you are going to suddenly change into a different person. Its always important to do things tactfully, and get people on your side.
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