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I like being happy but why do people at school say I'm retarded because I like to laugh?

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Question - (26 October 2011) 7 Answers - (Newest, 27 October 2011)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I'm a very happy person that likes to smile and laugh and for most times no reason I can't help it, I love to laugh and smile. At school people be mean to me and say I'm retarded because I like to laugh and smile. They say I shouldnt be happy that much. They call me slow and even call me gay because I stay happy. I don't see nothing wrong with laughing and smiling. I just like to be fun and happy most times. Why are they calling me stupid?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2011):

Not your fault. As long as don't laugh in an inappropriate situation (e.g, at a funeral, when someone trips) then you may considered "weird", but there's no reason to call you retarded. It is a bit irritating when something serious is going on and somebody's laughing, though, so try and be more sensitive to the mood of the place.

Other than that, I'm guessing most people are just envious of your lack of worries in life.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2011):

Never stop laughing :) if the world were filled with people like you boy! would it be great.....never stop laughing or let anybody ANYBODY!ANYBODY!NOBODY! take that smile from you. People will try all through your life, laugh them away from you. Laughter and smiling helps heal the world.

Please don't ever change......do it more if you are told something negative.

spunky monkey

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (26 October 2011):

Honeypie agony auntBe who you are.

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A female reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx United Kingdom +, writes (26 October 2011):

xTheAlmightyDuckx agony auntHey, well in my middle school i used to kind of be on the moon 247 when i went out with friends, and a couple of people would call me retarded or mental just because i was like a squirel on coffee throughout most the day.

There is nothing wrong with being happy and don't feel you need to act sad and grumpy (like most teenagers do) to fit in.

However i used to have this friend who was constantly happy reallly loud and always always laughing.

She used to tick us all off simpley because she was way too full on, whenever we were trying to work or concentrait you could always hear her, she was kind of annoying and she could be real childish sometimes.

You have to understand your not going to be everyones cup of tea and maybe you should just think about how you may come across to other people, maybe just tone it down abit you can still be happy and smiley but if your abit loud then try not to be try to not act really childish, and for instance if everyones trying to work or something bad has happened try and not be mega mega happy or loud.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (26 October 2011):

chigirl agony auntYou are acting socially abnormal. That's why. Those who act outside of the norm will get noticed and will get picked at for their abnormal behaviour. It's like that in all societies.

If you don't like being called stupid I'm afraid you need to tone it down and start laughing only at appropriate times. Your only other option is to ignore the hurtful comments.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (26 October 2011):

CindyCares agony aunt A laugh is the best medicine, people who laugh and smile often stay healthier and live longer than average . Stay happy , be yourself, and realize that a sunny disposal is a real blessing !

BUT : use common sense. You don't live on a desert island, you live in a society. You have to take into account the environment you are in, and the people who surround you and their sensitivities.

Do you follow your thoughts and burst off laughing at school , while the teacher is explaining something interesting or difficult ? Then yes, you'll look like an idiot and disturb your classmates. Do you insist in smiling and cracking jokes even when all your friends are discussing something serious ?... It's very annoying.

You do not need to change your happy personality - just to tune it down when necessary, according to circumstances.

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A female reader, neomum United Kingdom +, writes (26 October 2011):

don't worry the people that calls you names are just sad and jealous because you have no worries and that you are naturally a happy person so what ever you do don't let them get to you down.

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