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writes:I've been with my bf for about 5 months now. When were together he wants to have sex at least 4-5 times a day. Now that my bf has been away for about a month, every time i talk to him, he keeps talking about how he cant wait to do it with me like this and that. It makes me wonder sometimes, is he just with me because of sex. He does treat me very well outside of bed too, but i just don't understand why its all about the fucking... why can't he just tell me, he misses me. Reply to this Question
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reader, simple  +, writes (2 August 2008):
It sounds like you are insecure.
Why can't you believe that he likes you for who you are?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (2 August 2008):
Yeah my hubbie is away and sometimes we have hours of conversation about sex.
But we also have hours of conversation about everything else, like how we miss hanging out and making plans and being together.
If you don't want to talk about sex then don't. Change the subject. You could also ask him to talk about how he's missing you, rather than just your vagina.
Should you really being having sex with a guy who you are too scared to ask this about?
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (2 August 2008):
 When I started w my boyfriend .. the first 6 months was only sex sex sex .. .wecouldnt get enough of each other .. couple of times a day .. every day....than it slowed down ...
I wish I had your boyyfriend .. I have much bigger sex appetite than my boyfriend. . sometimes I have to make him to give it to me .. which is kinda funny ... but I love him nomatter what ...
Sex is definetely imporatnt in relationship, but since its bothering you and you feel like all he is thinking is sex .. than tell him. I mean .. I understand since he is gone for a month now, that thats all there is on his mind . hecant wait to see you , and offcourse to make love to you, I mean common he havent seen you in a month!!!!!
Maybe you should tell him nicely,that you definetely cant wait to see him, too .. but that instead of talking about sex all the time ,if he can tell you what was he doing that day .. and if he misses going to the movies with you .. change the subject. dont let him talk only about sex .. .you have the power to do that!!!
I wish you luck
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (1 August 2008):
 Maybe that is his way?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (1 August 2008):
 Have you ever simply asked him your last question?
"Honey, why can't you just tell me that you miss me?"
"Sometimes I worry that you're only with me because of sex. I know you are really into it, and I enjoy it too, but I'm beginning to feel uneasy that this is all there is to our relationship. Sometimes a girl needs a little romance in her life too."
Then you can see how he responds. He may be so used to this, that it has become a routine. He needs to break the habit of talking about it endlessly if it is making you unhappy. So it may take some adjustment on his part.
But you need to somehow communicate with him and let him know how you are feeling about this. You're not rejecting him sexually, after all, you're just looking for some balance in the relationship.
Good luck.
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