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writes:Hi, How can i talk my husband into having another baby? We have two children boy an girl and i really want another child and he does not.How can i change his mind? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2008): I know exactly how you feel! My husband doesn't want another one right now but I do. I also have a boy and a girl. I love my children dearly but I want a bigger family. I grew up in an extremely large family, as did my husband, but between us there were large gaps in age between our siblings. I would like to have kids now while I'm in school so the pregnancy won't interfere with my career. I have another year until I finish my bachelors and if I become pregnant between now and then I'll move onto my masters.
I'm not trying to trick my husband into having another one. He knows I want another one and since he doesn't he is extremely percautious when it comes to intercourse. I don't take birth control and he can't make me, just like I can't force him not to use a condom. It goes both ways so with me not on birth conrtol when he finally stops using the condom I will know that I have his consideration when it comes to having another child.
I had extreme infertility problem with my second child, but ended up concieving her naturally (which took 3 years). So my biggest problem right now is convincing my husband to let nature take its course and let us have another one when God decides (which isn't easy to explain because he claims to be agnostic).
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): Maybe you are one of those people that have always dreamt of a big family BUT:
I agree with Lazy Guy; you have one of each, what is the reason or motivation; why do you want to have another child?
Cost of living is high; it is expensive to give quality education and raising children can be very challenging; you have two kids to deal with; why not be happy and enjoy them; give them the best that you can.Quality and quantity.
I don't think you should try and convince your husband or try and trick him; I think you should seriously reconsider your reasons; could it be "broodiness"; plain old hormones or what ever!
Do some stock taking of your own reasons and motivations before trying to convince hubby.
Good luck.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (25 August 2008):
 Why do you want the kid and why doesn't he?
Two kids are pretty average, well 2.5 is the average but I am sure you agree that is pretty unlikely.
If you want to change a persons opinion you must first find out their reasons and then either nulify those reasons or provide counters.
You might also examine why you want another kid, you already got one of each, what is the reason for a 3rd?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (25 August 2008):
Find out why he doesn't want another baby and work on those reasons.
If it's money then say you'll get another job so you can get a chunk of the mortgage paid off before you start trying.
If it's the 3am feeds then tell him you'll do them all and will deal with all the nappies.
If at the end of the day he doesn't want one though it's going to be a problem as there is no compromise when it comes to having a baby... unless you got a puppy instead. Or perhaps started fostering?
What's wrong with the 2 kids you have already?
Good Luck!! xx
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