Who should have the condoms?
Q. This probably sounds stupid, but who is supposed to carry a condom: the female or the male?...
A. 24 October 2005: any one carrys a condom safe sex its called and everyone should want safe sex! so yep both sex's.... (read in full...)
My fiancee says she doesn't know what she wants, but she's still making plans for our future together!
Q. I've been with my fiance for 2 years now. I love her dearly but the love and affection doesn't seem to be returned. She is very spiritual and her life revolves around being a spiritualist. She would rather read a book than talk about her problems. ...
A. 24 October 2005: lets ee you could suprise her with a fancy meal flowers e.g. it works with me! sex isnt a way to show some one you love them the way to show them is being there/trust/honesty if your doing all the right things then i am sorry to say but maybe it is ... (read in full...)
I want him desperately. He's straight, single... and isn't interested!
Q. Please help me, I think my heart is breaking. I've known a certain person for around 8 months, and I've grown more and more attached to him. He's been there for me during some hard times I've had, and I've been gradually falling in complete love wit...
A. 24 October 2005: the thing is you start a ralationship with a friend then the break up leads to alot of distants thats what hes thinking! maybe if you both are 100 per cent sure that you will still be friends after then you should explain to him that if that is his ... (read in full...)
We only dated for a few months, but I can't get over my ex!
Q. I can't move on from my ex. We had only been seeing each other for a few months but it was very intense. It just felt right, he was very keen and was already making plans for the future, we had such a great connection together, and shared so many ...
A. 24 October 2005: you didnt miss your chance he missed his chance with you, try to get in touch with him or turn up at some where you know he will be&you know you can talk to him then ask him straight out why? once answerd maybe if theres no chance of you 2 getting ... (read in full...)
Why is my 16-year-old son in such a hurry to get married?
Q. My 16-year-old son told me yesterday he wants to marry his girlfriend soon - who is also 16. He goes to college and is doing well at the moment, so no worries there. I asked him had he thought about his future and he said yes, he wants to go ...
A. 19 October 2005: i dont think he will have any problems it all depends on if they have a strong enough ralationship to pull through the hard times that will come in their way. put it this way its hard to find a sensible young male these days would you preferre him ... (read in full...)
Is it time for my girlfriend and me to break up?
Q. I've been with my gf for 1 year now. I don't feel as though I love her anymore. We don't spend time with each other. We don't trust each other but yet I don't want to lose her. I feel as though I don't love her anymore, but I couldnt bear to lose ...
A. 9 October 2005: well if you dont want to lose her there must be a little love comeing from you. try and work on things gain each others trust back, it easy to gain trust back the way i gain trust is trying to cop my feller out with some one then being proved wrong ... (read in full...)
My brother molested me, but I'm ashamed to admit it happened!
Q. Hi, my name is Jamie. I am 16 years old. My big bro (20 years old) molersted me when I was 10. I thought it was OK at the time because he said it was, but now that I'm older I realised it's NOT. I'm awfully embarrassed about this, but it can't be...
A. 4 October 2005: well first of you should tell yor mom about this explain every detail yes its going to hurt but youll get off your chest then second you should go to the police about it! because if you dont be warned it will happen to some one younger than 10 some ... (read in full...)
Should I have a go with a woman of 39?
Q. Hiya, I'm 16 years old and I'm dating a woman of 39. She looks good. We are always having a laugh. She's always there for me and we are great together. We're talking about making a proper go of things. She doesn't have any children, and is...
A. 4 October 2005: hello i am 18 and i am with a 39year old too&geuss what i am happy everyone else can go get stuffed! my happiness comes before any ones disagrements about us! if this woman does make you happy then you have a right to stay with her! but please ... (read in full...)
Agony Aunts and Uncles: how do you decide to answer questions?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am studying A-Level English Language and am currently completing an investigation looking at the language used by agony aunts and uncles and how they differ. I have generally noticed that, when writing to men, more humour is used, ...
A. 4 October 2005: well the way i answer questions preety simple really put my self in there shoes and think well if that was happening to me i would do this or do that then right it down and give them a reply! i speak to them in the most polite way possible as if i ... (read in full...)
Never watched porn, so the mechanics of actual sex are a mystery to me!
Q. Hi. I have a problem, me and my girlfriend are both 18 and it's long-term (I'm a virgin, she's not). As I never really watched pornography or anything like that when I was younger, I'm really unaware of how to pleasure a woman. I've learnt to play ...
A. 4 October 2005: well just playing with her clit will not get her wet enough or may be it will in your case it doesnt work,have you ever tryed kissing the clit then licking it, that bound to get her wet, or try working from top kissing neck,ears then breast then ... (read in full...)
I didn't ask the girl out. Now I think I've lost her friendship, too!
Q. Needing to find a way to redeem myself I work with a girl who I developed a strong liking for. Despite several opportunities to ask her out I kept clamming up because I kept thinking that she may not feel the same way and didn’t want to spoil th...
A. 3 October 2005: well first ask her what her problem is then once she answers you, your know what to say back. explain to her you wasnt messing her about you did really like her but you didnt want to say because you didnt want to lose her friendship as it means so ... (read in full...)
Even when I'm up for it, I'm too tight to have sex!
Q. I really want sex but every time I have tried I'm too tight and it hurts too much. It's a real problem as I'm so up for it and now I am too worried to have sex because this embarressing problem may happen again! What can I do to help this problem? ...
A. 3 October 2005: im asumeing your a virgin if so then it hurts every girl on the first time and of course its tight no one is born with their virginia being loose, it would help if you used k.y jelly for example, this is going to sound funny but try it with sum1 ... (read in full...)
Can I get my ex back from his pregnant girlfriend?
Q. I really like my ex boyfriend still, but the problem is now he has met someone else and she has fallen pregnant. He says he likes her but gives me signals he likes me too. I still really miss him. I just don't know what to do. I want him back....
A. 3 October 2005: for the child please stay away! i know theres plenty single moms these days but cut 1 down by leaving this man alone. obvously he dont think that much of you if he can go and get sum1 else pregnant, please stay far way from him. let him take on his ... (read in full...)
I'm interested in a younger girl, but she's into my cousin!
Q. I'm 15 and I really like this girl (13) and my friends keep saying I'm in love but I'm not sure. The problem is she likes my cousin and I don't know what to do. I can't stop thinking about her....
A. 3 October 2005: the question is does your cousin like her? if not maybe you should tell her you like her, i mean nothing to lose right? just the truth to gain. why not tell your cousin to tell her he is seriuosly not intrested in her then get in there and grab your ... (read in full...)
All I wanted was for my girlfriend to spend the night... but it led to a 'permanent break'.
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for a little over two years and 3 months. We don't fight often but every now and then we do get really heated I will say something like "I can't do this anymore" or "Do you want to break up?" A couple night ago we w...
A. 2 October 2005: right get in contact with her and ask is this really the end of us? when she as answerd yes,then say its ok cus ive got sum1 else who is intrested if she a jeslous girl most of us girls are she cum crawling back, how ever if she says na i just need ... (read in full...)
I want this guy in a big way and think he likes me too. Tell him or not?
Q. I really like this guy a lot but I want to be honest here. I really want him a lot. How am I going to let him know? I feel so into him. He is so sweet on me and I am so sweet on him. He really makes me comfortable. I really want him to know that I ...
A. 2 October 2005: your so sure he wants you then why not tell him? what ever you do dont tell him you love him just tell him you like him! and see his reaction from that, then adventually after a bit you can tell him you love him then! heck you dont really have ... (read in full...)
I'm a big tease, what can I do?!
Q. Hey im 18 and have been with this guy 4 about 4 months i love him alot but i still take other guys phone numbers and find it hard not to flirt with them, i have a problem with leading people on but i dont want to loose my bf because of it what ...
A. 2 October 2005: its easy really you just love attention when ever you meet a feller and feel like takeing his number or flirting get in contact with your partner listen to his voice then think wow ive got to slow down i do not want to lose this man, or try leaveing ... (read in full...)
One day after I lost my virginity to him, he's spreading rumours about me. I feel awful...
Q. Dear Cupid, I am only 16 years old and I just lost my virginity to this guy I am really into. Our relationship has been very on and off for the past year and we aren't even really dating right now. Some of our mutual friends are calling me a slut n...
A. 2 October 2005: well first of all next person you sleep with make sure he ent a loser! tell these people who are makeing the horrible rumors look i lost my virginitie to him because i was with him a yr and half, but hey he was crap in bed any way he didnt even have ... (read in full...)
Not sure how to progress with this long-distance relationship...
Q. I would like to date a guy that I met in a club a month ago but unfortunately he is a soldier and had to go away few days later after we met and is coming back sometime this month. He gave me his e-mail address and we exchange some nice e-mails, ...
A. 2 October 2005: write him 1 more email and say look i like you but i dont know where i stand here so i am giveing you 1 week to get back to me if you do not then i will never be in touch again! he contacts you then at least you know his intrested if he doesnt then ... (read in full...)
Our relationship has always been long distance, so I don't have much experience in any of the usual things!
Q. I am 27 and for the last 9 months I have had a long distance relationship with a guy I dated 10 months ago when I visited his country. At the time he had just ended a relationship with his girlfriend. I have pretty strong feelings for him. He always ...
A. 1 October 2005: hello, first of all dont worry he proberly just wants to tell you that he thinks the world of you! and second of all every time you do visit him does he try anything on? you did not say but im gathering no or else you would of said so, so there you ... (read in full...)
I'm with my dream girl at last... only I'm afraid I might 'wake up' to find I've lost her!
Q. I've just started seeing a girl that I have loved for years. We had a bit of a thing years ago. Since which I've been through three relationships that hurt me badly and she's got a little 5 year old girl. The thing is is that I am finding it so hard ...
A. 1 October 2005: well hun if this girl is showing she is so into you then sweetheart you better show your into her 2 or else you may lose her! why dont you explain to her that your scared of wakeing up to find her gone that way she can adventually convince you she ... (read in full...)
Can't stop thinking about my doctor, even though I'm engaged and he's married...
Q. I am 23 years old and have been with my fiance for 6 years. I have seriously attracted to my doctor. My doctor is 33 years old and is married. He also have two kids with his wife. I can't stop thinking about him. I think about him at work, ...
A. 29 September 2005: are you willing to throw 6yrs away for a fling with your g.p? if you say yes wow pls think about this! its just a fling you are after sex once youve had and got board of it your gonna feel guilty the 2kids,his wife,your fiancee your going 2 wreck ... (read in full...)
When I know I have to move on, I start avoiding my intimate relationships. Why?
Q. Why do I keep doing this? Whenever I am with someone for a long time, I develop a deep relationship with them but whenever time comes to move on due to my career demands or something else I tend to forget my relationship and start avoiding the ...
A. 29 September 2005: nothings wrong with you maybe your just not ready to commite at the moment, as you say you have a career consontrate on that for the moment and after try again! maybe its just that you want to get your career out of the way first! in time you will ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling overworked and underappreciated... and I exploded about it...
Q. My husband and I have been constantly arguing, since he hasn't worked a steady job in over 6 months, and really doesn't seem to want to work. My son (15) and his daughter (16) both live with us, I work 7 days a week overnights. I get no help around ...
A. 28 September 2005: hi as im only 18 you may feel the advice i give you is not much good but ill try my best, i still live at home with mom and brother i work 3days a week 12hours a night with disabled 40 yr olds, 9pm-9am im at work when i come home first thing i do is ... (read in full...)
How could I be so stupid? I had sex with an older guy, because I really thought he liked me!
Q. I feel so stupid. I met this guy as soon as our eyes met we flirted. He got my number and we started texting each other. He called me 'gorgeous' and said he wanted me. A week later, I followed him home. Once inside we started snogging and things got ...
A. 28 September 2005: obvously this guy is 1 big loser. just pull your self together and carry on doing the things you would normally do dont let the bas**** drag you down, his not worth it! and the end of the day his going to end up a lonely old man and your be a ... (read in full...)
I didn't realise how much I still loved my ex, until he moved to my city!
Q. My first love, who dumped me after I decided to move away for school, has now - a year after me - moved to the same city. Ever since he told me that he wanted to move here I have been confused and now that he's here I realize I still love him. Do ...
A. 28 September 2005: ask him. u wont end up feeling hurt, if he moved to the same city as you out of 1000 citys there is isnt that showing something? the reason why he may of finished it in the first place is because there is no such thing as a distants ralationship i ... (read in full...)
She knocked me back once. Should I try again?
Q. I recently asked a girl to our homecoming dance, but she was already going with a group of girls. I was hoping we could continue seeing each other after homecoming. I really like this girl, and don't want to just give up now. Any suggestions of ...
A. 24 September 2005: find out things she likes if you speak to her as friends ask her what she's in to. then when you've found out what she is in to after a few weeks say you have a suprise and she'll love it then when she's agreed take her to that suprise! or you could ... (read in full...)
Wanted: some help writing a love letter to the girl I fancy...
Q. Please help me. I fancy this girl at my school and I have only just started talking to her. I was thinking of putting a love letter in her locker and perhaps leave my number at the bottom of it but not my name. Is this a good idea? And has anyone ...
A. 24 September 2005: hows this sound ! "i have liked you for a while now! your so preety and a really funny girl to talk to, your amazing! i've never met any one like you before and never will! ive beeen wanting to tell you this for a while and as stupid as it sounds i ... (read in full...)
Why does he send me hot, sexy messages AFTER I leave, instead of when I'm with him?
Q. I am a 48 year woman that is involved with a 33 year man. We have been friends for a year and just began a sexual relationship when he moved an hour away. He send emails telling me he wants hot, loving sex, massages etc., but when we are together ...
A. 24 September 2005: you see some men like the woman to do all the work,maybe no body has ever shown interest in him b4 and because he knows you will if he doesnt show you interest he knows he can lye back un till you make the move, he enjoys attention obvously. to ... (read in full...)
Too shy to ask her out directly. Can I hint around a bit?
Q. There's this girl whom I like and I know she likes me. I'm too shy to ask her out. Do you know any tips that might give her a hint without directly talking about it. Thanks a lot....
A. 20 September 2005: well you could spend more time with her than all your other friends/ ask her to come over and watch a movie with you one night/write her secret letters,cards send secret flowers keep her geussing each card you send put a letter that is in your name ... (read in full...)
She chose another man over me... Should I wait and see if she breaks up with him?
Q. Hi I'm 24 and suffering. 4 years ago I met a girl on the net and we bacame very good friends in real life. Then one day I realised I loved her. But the day I wanted to tell her she tell me she found someone and said would date him. It was quite a ...
A. 20 September 2005: right keep in touch still be friends, but listen you sound like a lovely bloke you shouldnt allow your self to be put second best! if she said no then start a search for some one new and in time to come when you find that new person&fall in love ... (read in full...)
Little sister reminds me of the girl I love...
Q. I'm 17, and a senior in high school. I just got out of a relationship with a girl who is now a freshmen in college. I love her so much, and she is who I am meant to be with. I would give anything to be with her, and her only. But she is not ...
A. 28 August 2005: if i am 2 be honest with you and i will not offend you like the answer up above did! what you really need to do is stay away from the big sister if she is not intrested in being freinds nor ralationship then sod her! little sister you should only ... (read in full...)
I know I say "I love you" too often! How do I fix it?
Q. I have been dating a wonderful girl for the past 3 months and when we're together we get on great. My problem is I really do care for her and I think I might love her but instead of not being able to say "I love you" at all I over compensate and say ...
A. 28 August 2005: now this may sound a bit silly think of a phrase that you can say that doesnt say i love you but it means it like the ghost movie dido meant i love you! or instead of saying it show it romantic nights in e.g. my feller hates saying the words so he ... (read in full...)
Falling for a friend. Thing is, I'm married and he's engaged...
Q. Dear cupid, I am 21. I am married and have a one year and 8 months old baby girl, but I think I'm fallin in love with an old friend that used to be in love with me. But now he's planning on getting married. what do I do? confused...
A. 28 August 2005: look before you make any move make sure you are doing the right thing think things over as you have a little girl to think about to never mind thinking bout an old flame! before you do anything you have to make sure this old flame feels the same for ... (read in full...)
We cheapened what could have been by having text-sex...
Q. Hey...I'm a sixteen year old girl, and I have got a big problem. At about this time last year, I met a guy who was in the year above me at school, but whom I hadn't noticed before. When I got talking to him I liked him straight away, he seemed so ...
A. 28 August 2005: hi, you want to know the way to show him you have a personalitie 2! then in that case DONT SLEEP WITH HIM! as he has left school things will get easier for you try to avoid seeing him that will also make things easier, by the sounds of it all this ... (read in full...)
There's 14 years between us. Are we likely to have problems in a relationship?
Q. Hi there I'm 19 and fancy a 33-year-old woman. Are there likely to be any problems with this age-gap relationship? JC x P.S. I live in the UK....
A. 21 August 2005: hi im 18 and my boyfriends 39, and by do we love each other so much! were due 2 get engaged soon! the only thing that stops a ralationship from working is not age difference its plain and simple its because your not right 4 each other after all the ... (read in full...)
I don't know how he really feels, so, what if I ask him?
Q. Hi. I'm a 18-year-old girl. I'm in love with a boy who sits next to me in class. He's smart, tall and absolutely cute. We always talk jokingly to each other that make me so happy. Just to hear his voice every day makes me over the moon. I always ...
A. 13 August 2005: the only way to find out is to ask him, say something like look i dont want to wreck our friendship but i really cant hide this no more! then come out with it! but you really have to ask your self will i lose him if i tell him? if his that much of a ... (read in full...)
Falling for my boyfriend's best friend. Help!
Q. I have been with my boyfriends for a couple of years now but I have fallen in love with somebody else: his best friend! What do I do? I love his friend but do not think he loves me. Do I just stay with my boyfriend and hope that it is just a passin...
A. 29 June 2005: I say stay with your boyfriend til you know the hints of his best mate telling you that he fancies you is there! If you tell his best mate you love him he may tell your feller then you could lose both. Be extra special to his best mate then ... (read in full...)
My husband masturbates and he thinks it's perfectly normal...
Q. Is it normal for a happily married man to masturbate? My husband recently admitted that he still masturbates and thinks this is perfectly normal behaviour we have a good sex life, is it normal for happily married men to masturbate? ...
A. 29 June 2005: Sorry love, but near enough all men masturbate. Put it this way: I work at an elderly residental home! I have walked in on a few men old men masturbating. Husbands, wives, single people & even elderly please themselvs in some sort of way! So yep, ... (read in full...)
Neither of us wants to leave, even though I think our relationship is reaching its end...
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years now but it has begun to feel like this relationship has reached its end but, neither of us want to leave or so I believe. Am I staying for the wrong reason when I just don't want to leave her and ...
A. 28 June 2005: Have one long break, say 2-3 weeks away from her. Then after the break, if it's not working, get out before things get worse. But turn round and tell her 'we're not working out so good, and it's hurting to carry on. I think it's time to end it'. W... (read in full...)
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