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writes: I have been dating a wonderful girl for the past 3 months and when we're together we get on great. My problem is I really do care for her and I think I might love her but instead of not being able to say "I love you" at all I over compensate and say it too much! She says if I keep saying it it will lose its meaning and I'm afraid this will happen too. I just can't help saying because it's how I feel and I've always worn my heart on my sleeve. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): Dude i have the same damn problem. My Girl keeps telling me that she knows she loves me and told me not to say it as much lol she said she loves me for who i am. So i have been trying to keep it in even though its like (Ahh im choking i need to say it!) Lol You will eventually know what to do if it be kiss her a certian way hug her or just touch her a certian way that will make her feel your love for her. It seems to work for me any way ! Good luck
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (28 August 2005):
 Use actions instead to show that you love this girl.
By all means tell her how you feel but not quite so often and allow her sometimes to be the first one to say how she feels.
Explain to her that you are an expressive man which is why you have told her how you feel so often. In many ways, she is a very lucky lady to be with such a man and I'm sure she appreciates who you are.
From now on, don't say it quite so often, allow her to be the first one to say how she feels and show her how you feel rather than frequently telling her. Be affectionate with her and listen to her; all the things a girl loves.
Don't worry so much though, you're doing fine!
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reader, helpfull girl +, writes (28 August 2005):
now this may sound a bit silly think of a phrase that you can say that doesnt say i love you but it means it like the ghost movie dido meant i love you! or instead of saying it show it romantic nights in e.g. my feller hates saying the words so he shows it instead by us sitting in his bk garden with the fire on with sum music playing and beers, then adventually hed say i dont like saying i love you so i only hope tonight by doing this ive showed it! his brought me ring with i love you on it! you get what i mean right?. but your girlfriend is a very lucky woman to hear you say it! try doing things for her like buying flowers jewellery things woman love! after youve done that youll know how to stop your self from saying it. GUD LUCK!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2005): It appears to me you are a very giving person with a heart of gold. But stop saying it so much. guy. But in your relationships, you just has to be careful that you don't get caught up in the doormat trap. And no guy wants to look like a "doormat!"
Women want the challenge to prove that they're valuable in a relationship-so let her prove it to you. We're always trying to show our partners that they'll be so much happier if they stay with us. That's just how the game is played. Plus, we hope that if we're nice, if we give a lot we'll get as much in return. You may be hoping that if you're nice, if you give a lot, you'll get as much in return.
In a nutshell, The danger here in giving and saying "I love you" too much is it does get "stale" after awhile. It becomes overwhelming & meaningless which is what you don't want and it makes you look needy & insecure, wanting her to always say it back. Ironically, the person on the receiving end of all that giving may wind up feeling resentful. It's no fun always being the one in a relationship, who's feeling obligated to give in return. The sense of obligation and guilt, may force her to walk away.
So cool it, with the "I love you's"...saying it perhaps, once a day instead of 10 times a day. Believe me..she knows you love her! You just don't have to keep telling her.
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