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writes: I really like my ex boyfriend still, but the problem is now he has met someone else and she has fallen pregnant. He says he likes her but gives me signals he likes me too. I still really miss him. I just don't know what to do. I want him back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): Every child deserves two loving parents,leave him alone and move on.I don't mean to imply your being selfish,but when children come into the picture they come first,one day you will understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2006): The vary same thing has just happened to me. My boyfrined of 13 1/2 year was cheating on me with nother girl while I was working ver long, hard hours. I found out and even met the other woman. When he told me about her being pregnant, at first, he expected me to understand and stand by him. I went on a trip for a week and when I returned, I kicked him to the curb. He ended up moving in with her and still calls me, when she's not around to "see what, where, why, and how" I am doing. Just this morning, I told him to leave me the "f" alone and stay outta my life. I cannot be his friend or anything else to him. It's tough, but I am trying to keep busy at work, reading about similiar stories on the net, and talking my head off to my family and friends about it. Eventually, I will be the one who laughs loudest, but it will take time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2005): I completely understand your situation because i am in the same boat. My ex boyfriend and I split up for a short time and in the meantime he was seeing his ex before me and whoops she got pregnant. He realizes he's made the biggest mistake of his life and doesn't want to be with her, but he understands he has responsibilities to take care of. They've had many a talk about their options and she decided to have the baby. Now my ex is torn between being with me (the woman he is in love with) and being with her so that his daughter will have a father and he won't have to pay child support (even though he can't stand the mother). So here is my advice to you. Let him know how you feel and be there as a friend. But it's up to him to make the choice. In the meantime, date other people and see where your life takes you. If he is serious about being with you, the two of you will have to sit down and talk seriously about how both of your lives are going to change once the little one gets here. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2005): No, no no! How could you even think of doing such a thing? Have some respect and compassion for this guy and his relationship and leave him alone to sort out his responsibilities and take care of some very hard life decisions that are coming his way. He's going to be a father..and he, his gf and new baby (on the way) will need the opportunity to form a family, if she is keeping the child. He needs to shift his focus to providing for his new family. So again, leave him alone.
It's very self-serving of you to even think of interfering in this relationship-you are only thinking of your needs and nothing of his pregnant gf, the child and him. Time for you to get this guy out of your head before you do something that will cause hurt, pain and loss to innocent people like his gf and baby. You need to take time to spend with your friends and family, and get to know and date new guys. If you can open yourself up emotionally to new relationships, you might be surprised what you will find. Look deep inside yourself and look to living a life with integrity and meaningfulness and never, never ever think of stealing another girl's boyfriend...just because you want to fulfill your needs. Get out there and live your life and find someone who is available. Take Care
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Irish
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (3 October 2005):
 Why did you break up in the first place? This is very important as it should make you cautious when thinking about how you feel about your ex.
He shouldn't be giving you signals that he likes you. He is with someone else now and she is pregnant which therefore means he has responsibilities.
Can you really like someone who may be prepared to be unfaithful to his pregnant girlfriend? Are you hoping he breaks it off with her, breaks her heart perhaps and then goes back to you despite her being pregnant?
My advice to you is to leave well alone and let him do what he wants to do without any encouragement from you.
Go out and meet someone else and try and put this behind you. I know you still have strong feelinsg for this guy but he is with someone else and you need to respect that. If he wishes to break it off with her, allow him to do it on his own.
Good luck.
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reader, Green_Eyez +, writes (3 October 2005):
As hard as it is, this man is now expecting a child with another woman and I think you should try to accept this and move on. I know it must be very difficult for you - especially if you were together a long time - but do you want to be the woman who breaks up a family and leaves a child with a part-time Dad?
If this man is giving you signals to the effect that he still likes you, it speaks volumes about his depth of character and he is perhaps somebody you are better off without.
I think you should concentrate on the fact that this man is giving you signals whilst probably going home and acting the loving, expectant father with this woman. I feel sorry for her. I think you should too and you should move on and count your lucky stars it isn't you in her shoes.
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2005): Are you kidding? This guy is a loser, and he's getting ready to be a father. You deserve something better than that. And, put yourself in the other woman's position. Please don't give all woman a bad name by chasing this guy. He doesn't love you. And if you continue with him, it'll be very obvious that you don't love yourself.
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reader, helpfull girl +, writes (3 October 2005):
for the child please stay away! i know theres plenty single moms these days but cut 1 down by leaving this man alone. obvously he dont think that much of you if he can go and get sum1 else pregnant, please stay far way from him. let him take on his responsabilities with out you there. he doesnt like you he just likes sex by the sounds of it. avoid by keeping ya self busy dont go the same places he'll be, go out with friends relatives in a different place youve never been and maybe your meet some body else in that place. i know your not going to take my advice but his a dad now and its not your child its his&some one else's. think about it.
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reader, Ellis Mac +, writes (3 October 2005):
I'd say, give it some time. If it was meant to be, it will happen. In the meantime keep yourself occupied (whatever that means to you).
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reader, wwww.datinghaven.com +, writes (3 October 2005):
i understand you like him, but you need to move on, he cant like you as much as he did, and theres that selfish element, shes pregnant and he is likely to be the father...the CHILD NEEDS A FATHER THATS ALWAYS THERE!! Your ex needs to stay with that girl and raise that child properly.
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