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writes: Please help me, I think my heart is breaking.I've known a certain person for around 8 months, and I've grown more and more attached to him. He's been there for me during some hard times I've had, and I've been gradually falling in complete love with him.There is a 4 year age gap between him and me.I conveyed to him tonight exactly how I feel, and he told me he thinks he is not the answer to how I am feeling. He thinks 'the pieces just don't fit together'. He made that very clear.It feels like I've lost an arm and a leg and I can't get hold of him, he hasn't answered the text I sent him either. I've just spent the last half hour sobbing into my pillow and I look a wreck. It feels like my world has been torn apart. We are a match in every way to each other, and it doesn't make sense.He is perfectly straight and he doesn't have a girlfriend.
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reader, pops +, writes (24 October 2005):
You can't make someone love you. Accept that, and find another man who will love you back. Its okay to be hurting, as it just makes the joy of falling in love again with someone else that much better. Accept that, and look forward to finding someone special again.
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reader, helpfull girl +, writes (24 October 2005):
the thing is you start a ralationship with a friend then the break up leads to alot of distants thats what hes thinking! maybe if you both are 100 per cent sure that you will still be friends after then you should explain to him that if that is his problem you will always be friends.
why dont you next time you see him explain how you feel&ask why you cant be together you should also use these lines"i would say sorry but i cant be sorry for what i feel" it always works. explain his been there always and you really think you pair can make it! or may be its the 4 yr difference, you see you wont know unless you ask him his the one with the reason we cant give you the reason so we cant sort your situation out all though we can try. but the answer is the truth,and your feelings you need to explain whats going on inside in order 4 him 2 understand!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2005): Grow up and get over it. If he's not interested, then why try. Don't dwell on it and get all depressed. What's that going to solve? Sure you got the same interests-you've know each other for 8 mths and you two have shared many things. However, if he doesn't want to have a relationship at the time, then respect his decision. Sometimes the fit is too perfect and the relationship gets boring. There's no mystery or challenge and so the other individual doesn't feel compelled to take it another step. Stay friends with him, but see others. This is not to get him jealous, but to help you see whats out there.
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reader, Kez1984 +, writes (23 October 2005):
Honey get out there show him what your made of I find in my life showing your potential boyfriend how good u can be and how u can cope without will work wonders. I seriously recommend buying a self help book ur esteem seems to be pretty low at the moment from whatever has happened 2u. I bought love tactics how to get the one you want and it worked for me i got my man. It wasnt easy but i stuck too it. But i think uhave other issues u need to sort before u get with ur man hun! learn to love urself
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