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writes: Hi thereI'm 19 and fancy a 33-year-old woman. Are there likely to be any problems with this age-gap relationship?JCxP.S. I live in the UK. Reply to this Question
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reader, Tabbie +, writes (24 August 2005):
I'm 19 and dating a 36 year old.. I haven't really told anyone yet..because he looks about 25. but I would love to some day marry this man.. And I have thought about what its gonna be like in another 30 years from now.. but I came to the conclusion that if we get that far.. I'll deal with it at that time.. but untill then all we can do is love each other more than anything in the world. So i say go for it.. live in the moment. and if there a time where you think you have hit rock bottom..the only place left it to go up..
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2005): There is ONE major issue that could pose a big problem-and sooner than you think if you get involved and it depends on both your maturity levels, especially yours. From my own personal experience, I watched my own 23 year old son date a 33 year old woman and this gal's biological clock was ticking loudly. She wanted a family. He didn't want children yet and she was desperate to marry, have kids and settle down. She pushed him hard and over time, they couldn't settle their differences and broke up. If you are looking in the future to marrying & having a family-a woman of 33 can't wait too long. As she comes closer to 40, pregnancies can be riskier. And are you prepared become a father, in the next 7 years? Something serious to think about and discuss with her-if you are dating her or thinking about dating her.
Then there is the issue of aging-what about 10, 15 or even 20 years down the line? Attitudes may differ..people do change as they age. What we want from life evolves as our experience changes. What about your long-term futures? The bigger the age difference, the more there is to consider. Are you both prepared to accept the potential consequences of one of you growing old-while the other is still relatively young?
Just some pointers I wanted to bring up with you. But inevitably, you will make the decision based on your individual situation with her. WHatever you do..be happy in life and spend it with someone you truely love and cherish. Take care and best of luck.
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reader, helpfull girl +, writes (21 August 2005):
hi im 18 and my boyfriends 39, and by do we love each other so much! were due 2 get engaged soon! the only thing that stops a ralationship from working is not age difference its plain and simple its because your not right 4 each other after all the trying 2 work things out it will spell it out clearly! ive always had older men because their more grown up! ive been with my feller nearly 7weeks its a short time but the only thing we argued about was him&his pub! tipacall men hey? but no your be fine trust me im expereinced!
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reader, SouthernGuy +, writes (21 August 2005):
Dude, when you're 40 and pushing it she'll be 54! It depends what you're look for, but if looks matter, make sure she is the type that looks after herself or you may still feel great when you older but she wont..! Remember, when you're a bit older, younger woman will show an interest in you too. This may cause a problem if your older girl is not so saucy anymore.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (21 August 2005):
 Hey JC...honestly I think that there will be. Although age is just a number thing is ...that is a pretty wide gap even when you think about life experiences. Compared to her...you are alot younger and well if I may say inexperienced. Don't get me wrong there are instances where this will work, you have to know who you are dealing with. If you are really into this woman...see where it goes but if it doesn't go your way ...just let it go.Good Luck
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