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writes: I have been with my girlfriend for a little over two years and 3 months. We don't fight often but every now and then we do get really heated I will say something like "I can't do this anymore" or "Do you want to break up?" A couple night ago we weren't arguing; I just wanted her to come over and spend the night with me because I had a rough day. When she said 'I will spend Friday and Saturday with you' I asked her why she had spent 2 hours watching a movie instead of doing homework like she said she would as to spend the time with me. She replied that she wants a break. After hours of pleading with her to take it back she finally left and we were on a break. She called me later that night and eventually said we were probably on a more permanent break. I need to know how to go about this giving her time so that I can preserve any chance that we are still together.
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reader, helpfull girl +, writes (2 October 2005):
right get in contact with her and ask is this really the end of us? when she as answerd yes,then say its ok cus ive got sum1 else who is intrested if she a jeslous girl most of us girls are she cum crawling back, how ever if she says na i just need a break then say ok but im here when you decide to cum bk, how ever if she does cum bk you should consider haveing regulor breaks like for example mon,tues,thurs,sats, 2 gether wens,fri&sun away from each other tell her that plan see what she thinks of that every one needs time to them selfs maybe thats what she needs! if not all sucesfull then it will be hard but time is a healer&try and meet different people go clubs/internet/ pubs. when you do find sum1 else walk past her with the new partner kissing&cuddling it will set her off&shell proberly cum bk 2 u! but if that does happen make sure you let new partner down gently! she wont be hurt if its only been a few weeks.
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reader, pops +, writes (2 October 2005):
There is no chance. She was looking for an excuse to make your behavior the reason for a break, so she would not feel so guilty, and she got it. At least you were not married and have kids. Move on. If she wants you back, you will hear from her. But don't expect it. And don't call her. If she is playing a game, she will very shortly wonder why you aren't chasing her anymore. Tell her you took her at her word, and respect her right to make that decision. She can't argue with respect, and its is the high road to take under the circumstances you are faced with. Some people do cry Wolf when they shouldn't. They also need to learn to never do that. When a woman tells you its over, NO means No. Leave her to herself. Her loss, not yours.
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