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writes: Please help me. I fancy this girl at my school and I have only just started talking to her. I was thinking of putting a love letter in her locker and perhaps leave my number at the bottom of it but not my name. Is this a good idea? And has anyone had the experience of writing love letters so you could help me make it as good as possible? Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2006): i really love this girl but i don't know how to tell her. can you help??
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2005): To be honest love letters are not always the best way to tell a girl you like her. Sure she will be flattered but the letter could end up in the wrong hands (girls like to gossip) and this could mean alot of embarrassment for you in the long run.
I think the best option is to spend some time with her and get to know her better. If she likes you too i'm sure she will soon let you know, girls are better at showing their feelings than guys.Also she will pick up that you like her and i'm also sure that one of her close friends will soon make it known to you if this girl likes you. Girls will very often ask a friend to help them out if they like a guy so as to avoid embarrassment from being knocked back. (girls have a pride to you know)
Ask her to go bowling or something where you can talk and have a laugh, this way you can get to know each other better without the added pressure of someone else knowing your business.
I hope it works out for you my lovely.
Good Luck.xxx
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reader, One Of The Ancients +, writes (24 September 2005):
Anonymously putting a love letter in her locker might sound like a romantic idea at first glance, but put yourself in the girl's role for a minute. When she opens her locker and finds the letter, the first thing she's going to wonder is "who wrote this?". The second thing that will go through her mind is "Maybe someone's playing a joke and they're waiting for me to fall for it. I'm not going to admit I got it, so I can avoid being embarrassed." The third thing... and the fourth and fifth thing is going to be "But who wrote this?"You see how it's kind of self-defeating - not to mention frustrating for her - to put an unsigned letter in her locker? Besides, what's the worst thing that can happen if you sign it? She'll know who you are. But isn't that what you want? How can she appreciate your attention and affection without knowing who sent her the letter?I'd urge you to reconsider being Mystery Man and simply tell her that you really enjoy her company and that talking to her is fun. Anything else that you need for her to know will come through in your body language when you tell her those things.You may not be aware of it, but human communication is only about 20% verbal. The largest proportion of information we exchange is through looks, eye contact, body language and gesture. Think about how hard it is to tell a lie effectively (your eyes/hands/body position will give you away) and you'll see what I mean. What all this has to do with talking to this girl is simply that you don't have to - tell - her - in - exact - words about the way you're attracted to her. She will pick up on it, believe me! (Girls are really good at intuiting guys' feelings.)Just make a point of talking to her as often as you can. Touch her upper arm once or twice. Look into her eyes maybe a second longer than normal. She'll understand that, and you'll know if she returns the affection without either of you having to say anything. Then, once you've gotten to know her a little better, you can write her a love letter and leave it in her locker.When she knows that it's from you, it'll mean heaps more to her than an anonymous one.Good luck, dear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2005): I don't have much experience of writing love letters, but i am a girl, so i will probably be better at it than you, joking! lol :)
Well, anyway, just tell her how you feel, poems are nice, but if it's not you, than you should just go with whatever you're best at, because it's you you want her to go out with, not someone else, and thats what it will be if its someone elses love letter right?
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reader, helpfull girl +, writes (24 September 2005):
hows this sound ! "i have liked you for a while now! your so preety and a really funny girl to talk to, your amazing! i've never met any one like you before and never will! ive beeen wanting to tell you this for a while and as stupid as it sounds i didnt want to incase you didnt like me and although you may not like me when you find out who i am ive had to tell you because i cant go on hideing this any more! each minute goes past i think of you, i cant stop my self from likeing you im sorry if you didnt want it this way but i cant help my feelings your truely are amazing you the girl of my dreams!" if thats no good then its easy to write a letter each word just comes from your heart write down what youi think of her! as long as you drop a few clues e.g ive just started speaking to you then leave your number its a brilliant idea! just make sure your a strong person b4 writting the letter incase she does say no!
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