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writes: I can't move on from my ex. We had only been seeing each other for a few months but it was very intense. It just felt right, he was very keen and was already making plans for the future, we had such a great connection together, and shared so many fun times. Then one day, without much of an explanation or closure, after a difficult conversation he stopped seeing me/contacting me. For a couple of weeks he seemed unsure then he said it was definitely over. That was over a month ago.My well meaning friends have given me all the usual arguments: He didn't deserve you/you'll meet someone else but it's not helping at all. To me, he was the one and I can't forget him. I have tried to date a few other guys but they're no match for him (and none of my exes were either). It's getting me very depressed, I've lost interest in most things, and are feeling guilty because I feel I missed my chance with him.
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reader, pops +, writes (24 October 2005):
There was a man who looked to marry the perfect wife. Years later, he met an old school mate, and was asked if he ever found the perfect wife. Yes, he said, but we didn't marry. She was looking for the perfect husband.
All you can do is keep your own house in order. You can't make someone love you, even if you are the best woman for him in the world. It is his choice, and his mistakes. Your friends are right. Grieve over this loss, but find someone else. Right now you don't think there is anyone else out there to match this guy, but I suspect you will find several other Mr. Rights if you look. Most of us have been through what you are going through now. You have our sympathy, and our support. If you can't get out of your depression soon, seek professional help. Good luck.
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reader, helpfull girl +, writes (24 October 2005):
you didnt miss your chance he missed his chance with you, try to get in touch with him or turn up at some where you know he will be&you know you can talk to him then ask him straight out why? once answerd maybe if theres no chance of you 2 getting together then it will maybe make the pain easier! and trust me the pain does get easier it really does it just takes time. i was with a guy 18years older than my self just for a month&i thought i loved him when we finished it was so hard i never ate never wanted to do anything other than sit in my room&cry then i got with some one who is 21yrs older than me he had been chaseing me for a year and were in a 4month ralationship&i do love him! you never realise what something meant till its gone when your over him your realise what he lost! just be pateint thats all it takes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2005): Dear confused,Sory to hear about your problem,but I may have the anwser your looking for!See i had a boyfriend the broke up with me all of the sudden for another girl because i was "prude'. and also because i was ignoring him. and wanted him to anwser every thing i asked. He was a good listener but i never let him do the talking and me the listening, so i called him and said..... I Dont understand what U broke up with me for, but i actually loved u, and u broke my heart.. I promiss to talk with you more and listen for what u have to say. I know im prude but thats no reason to break up with me. if that was the reason...love takes time..please forgive the things iv done or said but i really liked u and u didnt understand
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